Christian-Hindu: How to Convince Parents?

Krystal says: September 15, 2016

Hi guys.! I’m a christian(protestant) girl in love with a hindu guy. We truly love each other. Both our families are orthodox. But we really love each other…how do we convince our parents if they try to throw emotional blackmail and tantrums at us…saying they’d die? Please help..:( -Krystal


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7 Comments

  • Kathy
    May 27, 2020 5:00 am

    Hi, everyone,
    I see that this blog was posted nearly 4 years ago. But, I’m undergoing a similar situation now in 2020, while we’re all locked down. My parents are strong Catholics, very much into preaching God’s word in the church circles, and are against my relationship with a Hindu boy. Religion is the only reason (as far as they tell me). My parents quote Bible verses that speak about God commanding against inter-religious relationships and marriages. But, I love the guy and neither of us are in the state of moving on.

    I hope all you girls who had posted earlier are living your happily ever-after.
    And I also hope that you’d help me get to mine somehow.
    Thanks in advance.

  • May 20, 2019 8:17 pm

    Hello, I’m catholic christian girl in love with Hindu boy, as for me , religion is not a matter for both of us. even im a christian , i still visit hindu temples with friends, love to know more abt hindu gods. but my parents WONT ACCEPT A HINDU BOY. how to convince them? my parents is really strict with religion. what should i do? pls advise. my mom was hindu too and she convert fully into christian after marriage. but im not gonna do like her. i will be christian forever but will follow hindu tradition too as i respect my bf and his family too.

    Reply at https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=15269

  • September 4, 2018 5:23 am

    I’m a Hindu girl and the person whom I want to marry is a Christian(Baptist).we are in relationship from 6 years and he made everything clear about his religion,conversion and all as their family is strict in these rules. I really don’t have problem not only because I love him but also I beleive in one God then no problem for me to accept their religion.He made his parents accept for this marriage and convince them whatever way he can.Here comes problem from my famliy as they are not accepting for the marriage and if accepts also wanted Hindu tradition marriage too which his family never accepts.I do understand their religion as well as mine but what should I do when they don’t sccept hindhu marriage as it’s sin for them and my family asking atleast to do Hindu tradition? If he does Hindu marriage it’s like converting to Hindu itseems so he is not accepting. My parents are saying in this way..what to do?

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  • September 17, 2016 2:42 pm

    Dear All,
    I am a christian Marthoma(protestant) girl but I am in love with a Hindu Nair boy. We both have known each other for a really long time and we both have accepted each others religious beliefs.We both believe in God and not in forms of God as portrayed by different religions. We are sure that we will not have any issues relating to religion in the future and we plan to have a religiously harmonic family and if ever we have children we will teach them the good from both religions because all religions preach good things.
    We both don’t plan to convert for the sake of marriage.
    I am facing issues from my family as they cant relate to my view point.
    Is it possible to do a church ceremony and a hindu wedding ceremony to keep parents happy and register the marriage under Special Marriages act in India?
    I have seen videos of couples getting married in both ways. I would like to know how that was possible.
    Thanks for your help in advance

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  • September 16, 2016 8:05 pm

    Hi Krystal,

    Many times, parents are not realistic and it is your job to bring them to earth. Yes, they will perform all drama, like they will commit suicide, but we have not heard a single parent really followed through such threats. However, before convincing your parents, you need to know if you really know what are you getting into. For this reason, we request that you spend lots of time understanding issues in interfaith marriages. Tell us:
    1) How are you going to get married? Church, mandir or a court marriage?
    2) what are you going to teach your children about who is God? Who is Krishna and who is Jesus?
    3) Are children going to have Christian names (like Krystal) or a Hindu sounding name (Kajal)?
    4) After marriage, where are you going to spend your first year, in the boy’s home?

    Lets talk more on parents later. Get back to us.

    • Krystal
      September 18, 2016 8:33 am

      1. Church and mandir fusion
      2.Common principles of both religions
      3.Common names..(Avinash)
      4. Yes, probably

      • September 19, 2016 7:15 am

        H Krystal,

        We loved your answers. This shows you carry high moral principles and ideals. This is the way it should be and we admire it. This is a way to ever lasting married life. However, let us point you some practicality of life, not to scare you but to better prepare you for life.

        1) Your church will want conversion of your Hindu lover to marry inside the church or ask to sign a preNuptial. Best option is to first marry by the special marriage act 1954 and after that marry as many ways as far no one ask for religious conversion or any pre-nap.

        4) After marriage, if you have to go and live in a Hindu home, how can you remain 100% Christian? Are they okay you display a Jesus’ photo in their Hindu home? If they have a Satya Narayana Katha ritual in their home, are you not going to participate because Christians may consider it as an idol-worshipping? Will your husband allow you to take (and him join) your children to church every Sunday? What if you find out that his parents are unbearable and irrational in first 6 months of marriage, what will you do then?

        One other question about your lover. Does he have guts to fight against his parents to protect you after marriage? A very few boys have that type of personality to fight against justice. Ideally, he should be ready to tell you as well his parents what is right and wrong on face. It may sound harsh to start with but is good in long run.

        Is it possible that you wait till you both complete your education and both have some type of jobs? The reason we are suggesting this is because–worst case–you both move out of both parents and make good living outside.

        Krystal, we love working with you, please keep in touch with us as things progresses.

        Best way to learn is to teach. Can you guide Ria and give her tips how she should manage her life? In the process, you will learn a lot for yourself. Thanks.

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