My Parents verses His Parents

Manasa says: November 1, 2016

Hi. M in trouble. Don’t know what to do! I (wife) got married as per the hindu rituals. It was going good at first then later on in had gone to my native to perform a ritual. Then after coming from my mother’s place I found a little bit of difference in my husband’s and my in law parents behaviour then as the day passed the difference between myself and my husband started growing.

On day I don’t know what talks were held between my parent in laws that they started torturing me giving lecture for 4 to 5 hrs in the night saying that after marriage the girl do not have any relationships with her parents and are dead for her n so on n my husband and my in laws forced me not to talk with any of my parents or people who have bought me up. My husband forcefully made me to put a promise as to not to talk to anyone, it was like a house arrest for me he used to not to talk to me n used to stay with his mother.

And had done even more. Now after knowing all this they say thy haven’t done anything. So I have left him n that house and it’s almost one and a half years that I’m staying in my uncle’s house without any monetary help by them and in the mean while a gave birth to a baby girl n it’s been 10 months that they haven’t come to see my baby and and in the 1 1/2yr my husband have sent letters which have torched me even more. Now they have gone to the court under the restitution of conjugal rights. I want me n my husband stay separately far away from his parents. He is not willing to come n I don’t want to go there n there is no much communication between us. Please help me.. -Manasa


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1 Comment

  • November 3, 2016 8:45 pm

    Manasa,

    This is a common problem in most marriages. It is between my parents verses yours. The guy’s parents think the girl should forget her parents/heritage/living style and adapt all from husband. This is worst in most joint families.

    Do you have interest in saving this marriage? As much as we don’t want to say, but for now say you will not contact your parents and settle with in-laws only. Over years, win their love and then slowly reinitiate relationship with your parents. If that is not acceptable to you at all, then it seems divorce is the only option. It will be costly and financially draining. Let us know what help we can provide to you. Best wishes.

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