He expects me to convert to Islam
Kajol said: May 31, 2012 4:59 PMDear Roma, I am in a bit of confusion right now. I have been seeing a Muslim Egyptian man for the past 5 years. He has been good to me and now says he wants to marry me. I have met his family and friends and he has met mine. However, I am Hindu and he is Muslim. I need some advice on whether or not I should marry him as he expects me to convert to Islam and also any children we have in the future will be Muslims. Please help. Many thanks.
Hi Kajol, Let’s hope Roma will come back to guide you.
Let us tell you what we have learned on this web site over last 3 years. There are all types of Muslims and is difficult to generalize. However, find out if your Muslim boy friend is (this) or [that] type.
The fact that he clearly told you that he wants you to be a Muslim (take Shahadah oath), that tells that he is [that] type. So are you looking forward to the life of Nirmla? Like Nirmla (not by her choice!), are you willing to leave your mom, dad, bhai, ben, cousins, kaka, mama, masi, foi, and all your Hindu friends and start your new Muslim life, with your new Muslim relatives and potentially move back to Egypt?
The Shahadah will be a turning point for your life. Thought he will tell you that I did not knew this coming, do it to please my dad, do it for the heck of it or what ever, but Shahadah will change everything for you from (this) to [that]. Apparently, converting you to Islam is more important for him than your love. If you say no to Shahadah, probably he will walk away from your life without any hesitation. Are you in a love-trap by this love-Jihadi?
The Shahadah is a one-way street. Check latest Egyptian laws of apostasy; remember it is applicable even after your husband having 4 wives or your divorce. Is that punishment stoned to death? Read what Alkaff has to say, “Do not revert into a kufr and you will be killed if you are found out! You should not mix with you kufr (Hindu) family anymore. If you cannot convert them then you should be prepared to kill (your parents) them for Islam if you have to.” Are you ready?
Further, check Egyptian laws for divorce initiated by a woman and a kufr Hindu’s chance of winning your Muslim children’s custody after divorce.
If he were a Christian, today he would be fighting to have you Baptism conversion. For Abrahamics (Muslims, Christians and Jews), the BBS religious labeling is very crucial. Obviously such different religious labels are not for the God, but to prove whose God wins! The BBS labeling is designed to please their Abrahamic community. The BBS labeling fulfills their superstitious beliefs installed by their religious institutions. Why do you want to sacrifice your life to please his community? Any one with an IQ of 80 will tell you that the BBS has no place in an interfaith marriage with equality. Simply, just say “NO BBS” and end the matter.
Tell him that you will never take the 10 minutes of Shahadah oath, but instead you will be a better Muslim than most other Muslims by following all Islamic traditions: eat only Halal food, perform namaz five times a day in the direction of Saudi Arabia, put on a vale for a Mosque visit on Fridays and fast during Ramadan. Find out if the Shahadah labeling or you practicing good Muslim (but without the label of Shahadah) life is important for him.
In the past, Hindus had a very bad practice of caste system where the label counted and not what that person does or how much that person contributed to this world. Mahatma Gandhi worked hard to eradicate it. Likewise, the BBS labeling practice is still very much live today amongst the Abrahamics. Muslims believe that if you take 10 minutes of the Shahadah oath, Allah will send you to the heaven. Alternatively, Christians believe if you take that dip in water and Baptized, Jesus will remove all your sins and you will be salvaged. Likewise, Jews will not rest till the interfaith child gets the Bris label. Is it not your karma, but the label, will decide your fate? We need another Gandhi to eradicate the BBS labeling practices for interfaith couples.
Tell your Muslim boyfriend to come to this web site and explain what religious conversion has to do with love? Why he did not open his dirty mouth for the religious conversion business during past 5 years of romantic relationship and now he is showing his true colors? Let carnation be a carnation, don’t converted it to a rose! Tell him that you are a Hindu and will die as a Hindu. Ask him to show his true love for you and marry to a “Hindu” Kajol.
Readers, should Kajol trust his boy friend and convert to Islam?