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hiiii….I am SD I am a known face on TV and the modling world and so i will refrain myself from sharing my name.
I am a 34 year old Brahmin girl, living all alone in a rented flat in delhi with my mother and a lhasa apso (for the world he is a dog but for me he is my spiritual son born out of my soul and thus he is the most important to me.). My parents got divorced even before i was born. my dad never wanted me…he wanted a son and so he never met me, except 3-4 times during court sessions for alumni.i was brought up by my meternal grandparents in a hard core brahmin family. i began my sanskrit shiksha at home and was then sent to Bhakti Vedanta Gurukul in Bengal…where i studied the Vedas, upanishadhs and the shastra. I always followed a satvik life and stayed at bay from non-veg, drinks, smoking, onions, garlic and other tamsic food. as a kid, i learnt to respect every animal, insect and plant and the panch tatva. my family never boughtanything made of leather! we follow SHIVISM and i am immensely in love with lord shiva…..he is my be all!!
7 years back i met a muslim guy, who was 6years younger to me and we fell in love. he was always religious but in the begaining he was tolerent n we both use to share things about our religion. he use to take me to temples and eventually after 1 year we got married as per HINDU rights in the presence of a pandit, my mentally not so stable mother and his three friends. from here began our story of physical involvement(he is the only man who i ever have been physically involved with n that to post marrying him before lord shiva).
Soon i realised that this marriage meant nothing to him and may be it was just a way to get me into his bed. though, he is genuine…he introduced me to his parents and i met his whole family. after 2-3months of marriage he began to force me to convert to islam. this was forbidden for me!!! the first shock that came my way was when he began taking me to marriages and parties. i could not eat anything….it was just beef, meat etc(oh my gog!!!). i had never seen all of this. second shock that struck me was that he wanted me to cover my head 24×7. i soon became dependent on him for every little thing and did whatever he said. i began reading the quran. covering my head, used no make up etc. but i refused to eat meat and leave my satvik life style. my son (dog) is the most imp thing to me….more imp than me myself. i love him the way any mother would love his child. i realised soon he and his family wanted me to separate my son from me. i objected….coz i could never understand their theory despite reading the quran. his father was angry that my son sleeps with me….n im so close to a dog coz as per quran dog is napaq. but i just cant understand this theory…since i all ready told you about how i was brought up. also, in shaivism…vedas…gurukul i learnt that animals, humans, plant every thing are eqaual in their own right. they all are made of the panch tatva and their center is a soul. anyway, i put my foot down. he had problems with my profession. i am an anchor and model. however, despite my profession i always refrained from doing work that required me to expose or be in contact with a male….this came from my gurukul teachings. despite doing extremely decent work he had problems wth this profession and wanted me to give it up. unfortunately, i know nothing but acting!!!!
we began having fights over religion. he would insult my religion, idols etc, even wearing a teeka would create issues. he began making faces every time i would even use a little bit of sanskrit. i thot of giving in and decided to convert……….for me my heart matters and that will always be ruled by lord shiva. i converted at the jama mazjid and tried every bit to make him happy but not sacrificing on my basics of satva guna, mother and goofy. tho i have always been a hindu at heart….i am very tolerant and sensitive.
he knew my love for lord shiva and knew that i would die but will surely fas on shivratri. after conversion in 2010 this was my first shivratri. true to what he thot, i fasted. since his parents were not aware of our hindu marriage….we lived away but near by. thus, he followed me on that day and the moment he saw me at a temple he thrashed me to death. from here began his beating. now he would beat me every now and then.
i soon began feeling suffocated and one fine day in 2011 i told him that i cant act anymore and that im happy in my own religion. we had a huge fight….finally after a month he got back. but for 2 years my life became a living hell…..he would talk nothing but islam and tell me how people who do not follow the book will be punished etc. in jan 2013 we had a huge fight as he came over to my house……and got mad at the puja me n my mom wr performing. that day i had a computer engineer at my place to repair my computer and he insulted my religion left,right and center. i threw him out of the house b4 the computer eng and called his dad.
we broke up for 3months. and we got back in april 2013.
THE PROBLEM NOW IS THAT WITH INCREASING AGE IM NOT GETTING ANY WORK….MY FINANCIAL CONDITION IS EXTREMELY BAD. I HAVE NO SAVINGS. I LIVE IN A RENTED FLAT. I HAVE A MOTHER AND A SON (MY LHASA APSO) TO TK CARE OFF. HE IS AGAIN PUSHING ME TO CONVERT. THIS TIME PUSHING ME TO TAKE UP A JOB, REMOVE MY OM TATOO AND THROW AWAY GITA AND SHIVLING. HIS BEHAVIOUR HAS CHANGED COMPLETELY……….HE DZNT GIVE ME TIME OR EVEN TALK TO ME. BUT HE IS OK MARRYING ME!!! I FEEL INSULTED AND NEGLECTED. I CAUGHT SOME DIRTY MSGS WITH A WOMAN ON HIS WHATS APP…..HE SAID IN 3 MONTHS HE JUST HAD A CASUAL CHAT. HE IS NOW GETTING PROPOSALS FOR MARRIAGE TOO. HE AND HIS FAMILY WANT ME TO CONVERT B4 WE GET MARRIED AND LEARN EVERYTHING AND PROOVE THEM THAT IV CONVERTED. AT TIMES HE SAYS THAT LETS LIVE THIS WAY WITHOUT MARRYING BUT YOUU WILL NOT FOLLOW HINDUISM AND AFTER UR MOTHER AND SON ARE DEAD U WILL NOT FORCE ME TO STAY WITH YOU.
I STILL LOVE HIM ALOT, I HAVE NO FRIEND OR MALE FIGURE IN MY LIFE…….I DUNNO IF HE LEAVES ME HOW WILL I EVEN LIVE.WORK, AGE, MOM AND MY SON (12 YEARS OLD) ALL ARE A REASON FOR MY DIPPING CONFIDENCE AND INSECURITY. I CANNOT EVEN END THIS RELATION AND I CAN SEE HIM MARRYING ANYONE. I MYSELF CANNOT MARRY ANYONE.
BY THE WAY….JUST FOR YOUR INFO! IN A FIT OF ANGER I TOLD HIS PARENTS ABOUT OUR WEDDING AS PER HINDU RIGHTS. HE COMPLETELY DENIED AND WHEN I CONTACTED HIS FRIENDS THEY ALSO DENIED. I GAVE HIM ALL THE PICS AS I TRUSTED HIM BUT THAT WAS THE STUPIDEST THING THAT I DID. THE PANDIT AT HANUMAN MANDIR HAS GONE AWAY.
IM SO CONFUSED………AT TIMES I WANA END MY LIFE. IM HIGHLY SPIRITUAL AND ATTACHED TO MY RELIGION AND LORD SHIVA. NATURE AND ANIMALS ARE DEAR TO ME. I DUNNO WARE TO GO!!! WHAT TO DO???
IM ON ANTI DEPRESSANTS…..SINCE BEING UNABLE TO FOLLOW MY RELIGION FREELY IN EFFECTING ME ON A MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL LEVEL.
IF I LEAVE HIM, I WILL DIE IF HE MARRIES ELSEWHR AND WHAT WILL I DO WITHOUT HIM. HE IS THE ONLY MAN IN MY LIFE. IF I MARRY HIM I WILL BE SUFFOCATED AS HINDU-MUSLIM PHILOSOPHIES ARE OPPOSITE AND I GET AFRAID WHEN I SEE HIS FAMILY.
FEEL LIKE ENDING MY LIFE…..HELP!!!! PLZ HELP
Reply at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=5455
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Reply at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=5455
hi plz help me me and my gf have been together for 6 long years …but the problem is am a hindu and she is a christian and she is forcing me to convert which i wont be able to …and she is not ready to convert as well…and her parents are very orthodox end of the day they will never accept me even if i convert…she wants to forget about the relationship if i dont convert …please help me
Reply at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=5217
Hi all of you. I am in the worst phase of life currently. I m not too happy with my career. I am a biotechnologist but not working as one as I have come to my parents in Dubai after completing my studies in Bombay and there is zero scope in my field here. Anyway, that’s the secondary issue. The main thing is that I have been in a relationship with this guy back in Bombay. He’s a wonderful guy and my parents know him n his family and really like them too. I belong to a very religious muslim family whereas my guy is a firm christian. I have been with him for 8 YEARS now and his family loves me n I love them all too way too much. My family wants me to get married and are looking for good proposals now. I have confessed about my relationship to my sisters and my mom and they have clearly told me that this has NO FUTURE as our faiths are different and that I must get over him. I love him and also my parents too dearly to break anyone’s heart. My man has been very supportive and never gets upset when I don’t get to call him for days together cz of problems at my place. He has changed all his career plans just for me and my problems at home. There is no looking back at this stage when I have spent almost a decade with him. I am very close to his family and they are open heartedly accepting me with the faith that I follow and do not expect me to convert to Christianity. However, my family are not so open minded and would die but allow me to marry a non muslim. I love my parents dearly. They have sacrificed a lot for me. My dad’s health isn’t all that great but still he’s working at the age of 65 so that he can provide me with all the luxuries and let me have a huge wedding. I am so upset. I cannot elope with my boyfriend. That’s the last thing I wanna do to my parents. I want to convince them which deep down I know is impossible. I feel suicidal and always pray to God that if things cannot be the way I want them to, please let me die as I can never choose between my parents and him. I feel very guilty to have my parents and my boyfriend in a situation like this. When we began dating we were just 15 and immature but by God’s grace I found just the right guy for me even at that level of immaturity. He’s the best anyone could ever get and I totally believe God is not upset with me for choosing a christian instead of a muslim coz what I share with him is something so pure.
I don’t know guys what to do. I am a firm believer in Allah and pray to him 24*7 to help us out. Please if any of u could help me with suggestions whatsoever. Please do. Desperately waiting for comments and suggestions
Reply at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=4874
U hav choosen a right guy.to hav solution of all ur question .u have read bible every.u will answers to all questions.god bless u always.
I am a Hindu girl in love with a Christian. We are both very liberal in our religious faith, so are my parents. However, his parents are ardent practitioners of Christianity. Although, they have not forced me to convert, they insist on us getting married in the church only and to have Hindu ceremonies in secrecy which is upsetting me and my parents.
I have spoken with the church representatives, and have been informed that though there is no need for me to be baptised i would have to sign a pre-nup that our children would be raised in christian faith.
I have been informed by my boyfriend and the church that if i do not follow up a christian wedding after our civil marriage (by special marriage act) and do not sign the pre-nup, his parents would be punished by the church and that their rights would be stopped (like holy communion and after death burial rights.
I feel pressurized by these circumstances and do not understand what to do? Please guide.
Reply at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=4803
I am a christian woman who’s kindof dating a Hindu Indian guy. We live in seperate countries but we chat and skype when we can. I am a 2 time divorced mother of 2 boys. Me and my bf have been dating for almost 1 year now. We love each other very much but a couple of problems arise which one I’m 16 yrs older than him and he’s never had children or been married second his parents from what he says would be completely against our relationship because of my age difference and I’ve been married twice with 2 kids. I have done research on his religion and there is no law against this only says possible social issues may arise but that’s it. I don’t know what to believe…friends we mutally speak with say it’s against there religon but I don’t see it anywhere.
There is nothing against religion, but there could be a big cultual issue. Since you only know him by internet, go meet him personally to find reality of who he is.
I am a Protestant Christian. My fiancée is a Hindu girl. We are about the get married. Our families have resented to our commitments to each other and thus our marriage talks are going on..Except there is a big issue.
The problem is that the girl’s parents wants that the marriage rituals be held in both Hindu and Christian marriage rituals. While my parents state that they do not want a Hindu marriage ritual to be performed at all. Even they have stated that if they will have to cancel our marriage in a church so that the girl’s parents cannot pressurise for a Hindu marriage; they will do so and marriage will be made by court (marriage registrar).
How do I convince them to go for both the marriage rituals (Hindu and Christian) so that the girl’s parents are not offended and ultimately we can get married.
Please help.
Reply to Sourav at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3873
I have 3 words: Convert to girls faith.
Dear Friends,
I am a Hindu man who has been in a relationship with a Muslim girl for the last 3 years. We are both over 30 and the reason we have been waiting this long is because we were hoping her parents would accept this relationship. But alas that doesn’t seem to be happening. We have discussed the problems most inter-faith marriages face, many a times and have come to the conclusion that one possible way of avoiding future problems would be to let go of the wish to have children, since we have seen, once children come into the picture of interfaith marriage, that really puts a strain on the relationship. We have also agreed that the best way to keep the peace going would be to continue believing in what each of us believe and we have no expectations or wishes that either of us convert. However, having said that, we do realize that the only way her parents can come on board, is if I convert to Islam. What I wanted to know from reliable and experienced people like you, is that is it possible that I convert to Islam just as a formality? Can I continue keeping my Hindu name even after I convert? Also once I convert, are there any religious implications or problems, if we both are comfortable, if I continue believing in Hinduism? We would obviously not lie to her parents and we would like to tell them that this conversion is ONLY for the marriage to happen? What i want to know is if it is possible? I would greatly appreciate some inputs.
Regards,
Sandeep
Reply to Sandep at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3317
Hi I’m muslim man marrying a Sikh girl who has converted to Islam. She didn’t change name. But on the wedding card she wants her name to have Kaur in there. But it’s not accepted by my parents. Even her surname which is obvious that its not a muslim name is not accepted by my parents. So it’s only her first name. She doesn’t like this at all and won’t accept this as its her given name. Pls help what to do.
Reply to G at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3277
If she is muslim then what is the problem in marriage.
Name has not much significance.
Be it Khan , be it Kaur.
If she likes her name..keep it as she want.
Hi I am a brahmin girl who is in relationship with a muslim boy for past 8 years.I started loving him from my college days.I love him a lot and i have a great belief on my bf that he also loves me a lot.But now i am working in a bank and he is in UAE.First he said about our love to his parents first his father denied but his mother convinced him and now both of them agree to our marriage but my parents do not agree to me.My parents say that it’s not good to marry a muslim boy(sorry if it hurts anyone),they think its dangerous and they are listening to my relatives opinion.They are saying that the boy’s family will convert me into a muslim after marriage and they say that they will spoil my life by doing so.Both my father and my mother does’nt agree for my marriage.I am suffering like anything.So please tell me some good suggestions.
Reply to Priya at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3205
u wont believe me if i say our story is same to same, im a muslim guy i love a brahmin girl her name is priya too oh ALLAH i dont believe this, we have a same story, i love priya so much i tried so hard to marry her but til now nothing happn plz pray for me, may be 1 day il leave this world n walk away frm her life
Hi Saif,
Muslim Boy – Brahmin Girl is a common story here, some reason thee is a good chemistry. Now are you going to ask Priya to convert to Islam before your Nikaah? Are you going to demand that the children have only Arabic names, have circumcision and raised as Muslim only? Give us more details of your story and we could help.
i m a muslim guy in love with a jain girl. we r in a relationship since 2 years, i really love her and we want to marry but there is problem with his family,they r against our decision and dont want us to marry, infact they are not allowing her even to go out of house. my family will accept her without any problem, i even dont want to convert her religion still her parents arent allowing her. his uncle is a politician(minister and member of parliament), guys plz help me what should i do now. plz suggest me is there any way for both of us to live together.
plz suggest something, i ll be really thankful to u all.
plz help me.
Comment to Imran at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=2617
my name is sameer m in a relation with a muslim girl for two years. few days back their parents somehow came to know about our relation. they took her cell and seems caged her. they are not allowing her out of her house. there has been no contact between us for few days. i know her family would never agree a hindu guy. we seriously love each other and cant live without each other. we are even not too grown ups to take much big decision but i could do anything for her i just wanny marry her and stay with her throughout my life. we are in 2nd year of graduation. plz help us out every hour is difficult for me to spend feel lyk killing mahself. her college would open on 2nd july. dont know what to do.
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Dude,
I must say that you love is true for her, and you will be very complete once you two get married. Right now just ask her friends about her and get info where she can be met, i have been in the same situation and know how badly you need to see her.
Plus have friendship with groups of hindu dudes, who will help you in bad times.From my experience Muslim friends did not help me for my love and those secular hypocrites had hindu girlfriend. In college mostly girls are cause of fight. Complete your study and do court marriage. All the things will work but your love must be true for her and you should make yourself a tuff fighter. That is what going to win your love. Trust me this girl is fantastic for you but her father would not be. Be a fighter trust me that works. I m married to my muslim girlfriend.
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Hi, i am in a relationship with a muslim girl for past 7 years.I want to marry her bt we both strongly feel..we dont need any conversion,4 both of us religion is jst a faith.I work in a blue-chip company n she iz pursuing her studies..but by next year we both we want to marry..bt i dont want this to reveal to any of my parents..coz i dont want any interruption in her studies…I need some legal advice..i knw there iz a provision of special marraige act..bt i am unaware of its intricacies on a practical level..also i want to conceal the marraige for 1-2 years..while she completes her MBBS…please help and one request plz dont fight ova religion in response..i need a solution..plz help
Reply to in-love at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3429
When it comes to inter faith marriages we do have a lot of problems, either with parents decisions, religious aspects, relatives or the society. Many sacrifices have to be made in order to live together as mentioned by many of us before. Same goes here with me. I’m a Muslim (bohra) guy who is in love with a brahmin girl. We have been struggling for years thinking what do we need to do to be together. It’s impossible for us to talk to our parents as we know the consequences, so we thought we need to do some sacrifices to be together. So we are searching a similar couple where guy is brahmin and girl is Muslim (bohra), where the muslim girl and guy can get married and similarly brahmin girl and guy can get married. Once married, all four of us can plan on staying far from our family members in same house and be together with our loved ones. By doing this we won’t hurt our parents nor anyone of us have to get converted and this will keep the balance in the society. If you truly want to live your life with the loved ones, we feel this is one of the best solution. Please do give responses to let us know if this would be the right thing to do and would people be ready to do this. Hope to hear from you people.
Reply to Santa at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3767
test…you could do it too!
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