I can’t prefer my love over my (Islam) religion
Firooza says: August 11, 2012 at 5:14 am
I’m also Muslim. I met a guy – he is from a mixed family – mom is Muslim, father Hindu. We want to marry – I asked him to convert to Islam – because he is from a mixed family and it’s difficult for him to understand who is he. He accepted. But then problems started. His father was against it, he was in a very bad mood, even he (my boyfriend) was ill because of this situation for about 1 year. Then his father saw his situation. He said you can do anything you want. If you want to marry with a Muslim girl and convert to Islam, do it, our family will not be against it.
I love my religion – Islam is everything for me. I love him, but I can’t prefer my love to my religion.
If you have any question, please ask – Firooza.
You have rights to believe in what you want to believe in and do what you wish, however we would like to point you out a few of our concerns.
If “Islam is everything” for you, do not marry outside your faith. This Hindu may fake-convert just to get you, but after marriage he may hurt you in the end (read Madiha, Dee, Nirmla, Anita, Roma Roy, and many more). Listen to a great advise by Mr. Muhammad Mujtaba. Do not try to convert a carnation into rose; instead go for a real rose. If you wish to remain a pure Muslim and please Allah, find a God fearing good Muslim who is praying 5 times a day, plenty around you.
We see many issues with the Hindu boy. First, he has no daring to speak out against his father. This will not change after the marriage. After marriage, are you planning to live independently (we hope you are wealthy), with your parents or (we hope not but) with this Hindu family?
Second, this boy has serious communication issue. Instead of speaking out or expressing himself eye-to-eye, he gets sick!! This is the worst way of communicating. If after marriage, if he remains sick all times, what would you interpret? Does it mean he does not like Islam any more or don’t like you any more?
Third, as you have stated, “difficult for him to understand who is he.” This is another serious matter if he has not grown up yet. If he was a man of high self-esteem, he would have said NO BBS to you a long before. Even after Shahadah conversion to Islam and your Nikaah, what if he goes back to Hinduism (like Vikas) because he realized that Islam is not for him? Easy come; easy go. Know that those who convert easily have not understood Islam well.
You have stated, “I asked him to convert to Islam – because he is from a mixed family”. Irrespective of the situation, you would have converted a non-Muslim to Islam anyways. You don’t have to give explanation that “because he is from a mixed family”, we understand your motive. You are a love-proselytizer, why try to patch up?
We know you love Islam, but you should also know of some other practical considerations. If after conversion to Islam, what if he exercises all new Islamic perks; meaning, what if he lines up 3 other younger girls along with you and later gives you a taalak-taalak-taalak? Instead of that, if you are smart, marry him without converting; so legally a Hindu husband cannot marry to a second girl or give you an easy divorce.
One more question for you. What would you think of the heroine Firooza in a new Bollywood movie with this script?: “Firooza met a Hindu guy and realized that he can be converted to Islam. The guy falls in love. For Firooza, her love for Islam was everything, not love for the guy. Even her lover was sick for one year due to the love, Firooza was stubborn – convert or go to hell now. Finally guy’s Hindu father realized that Firooza wouldn’t care even if the lover dies, and gave in. After their marriage, these couple fought every day of their life in the name of religions, but Firooza kept dreaming of heaven in the after-life. The End.” – Admin.
Readers, what would you say for Firooza’s love?