I wish I could marry my Hindu bf than marry my own cousin

Fauziya says: Sept 4, 2012 at 9:05 pm

I have a big problem, i had been in few relationships with hindu guys, but ultimately i had to leave them, because i m muslim girl. I don’t know but somehow the guys i like always turns out to be Hindu. I always believe they are very caring, handsome and intelligent. My father is educated but just wants a muslim for me. I never told my mom dad about my hindu boyfriends, coz i knew they wont be ready!

Finally i m now suppose to marry my cousin, sometimes i thought to just run away forever, i m too weak to run away. But i wish i could marry my hindu boyfriend than marry my own cousin.

Majority of parents are so narrow minded when muslim girl wants to marry hindu boys- i have seen it and i am tired of this religion. – Fauziya.

Admin says:

Fauziya,

If someone from the West has to interpret your post, one will say this is absolutely barbaric that an educated adult lady has no right to make a decision for her own life. Now you will have to go and have sex with and spend whole life with your close relative that is not your wish. Is it not a lifetime imprisonment? How many years the Islamic society will take to give equality to women, if ever?

Counter to that, Western women has all so-called freedom, but still women have not achieved equality. Are high divorce rates, multiple marriages and sleeping with multiple partners before and after marriages a better option than the Eastern culture? We don’t know answer to what is the right culture for women.

Why Hindu guys are great? It is interesting that you kept getting attracted to Hindu guys. One reason could be that Hindus are pluralist, meaning they believe in Isval Allah tero nam (Isvar and Allah are God’s names). If you could have married to one of those Hindu boys, he would allow you to pray to Allah five times a day, join you for Ramadan fast, will join you for your Mosque visits if allowed to, and teach children from the Koran. There is nothing that stops a Hindu doing all above; they are free to do what they wish. Holy Gita or other Hindu scriptures do not forbid praying to Allah and Jesus, or consider them the “other gods”.

Why Hindus are not for you? As much as you like all above listed pluralistic characteristic in a boy friend, it is not what you will want in a husband. First, to please your parents, you will ask the Hindu to convert to Islam and take Shahadah oath before your Nikaah. You will stop him from singing Isvar Allah tero nam, and instead want him to chant “Only Allah tero nam” (meaning uttering Isvar or Jesus as a Son God is sin). Even though he will allow you to be 100% Muslim in his Hindu home, you will not be able to tolerate all their idol worships to their multiple gods in their own home. Though you will be happy for him to join for Ramadan fast, but you will not join him for Diwali pooja of multiple idols. Further, you will he happy that he teaches to your kids from the Koran, but you will not want to touch the Holy Gita. You will be happy to see him at your Mosque with a face covered, but you will be hesitant in wearing a sari and bindi and proudly go to a Hindu temple. May be you are open-minded and do all these behind the doors, but will feel same to do in public, is it true?

Basically, your Islam is a monotheist exclusivist supremacist religion and a pluralist has no place in it. Then, why you are dating a pluralist?

You have stated “i am tired of this religion” but are you ready to give it up? If not, for you, even Hindus are good as boyfriends, you are better off having a pure Muslim husband for you.

Let the rose be rose, don’t convert it to carnation. Let the Hindu remain pluralist Hindu and you remain monotheist exclusivist supremacist Muslim. It is oxymoron if you wish to convert the good qualities (in Hindus) into qualities what you hates!! Why not you convert to the people of good qualities that you admires and good for you in this life? Why you want your sons to follow in the footsteps of your father? Unless you are ready to give up your exclusivist Islamic teachings, your marriage to your cousin is good for you; be happy with it!

You know that only Islam is a true religion, why will you want to dilute it by adding an un-pure pluralist to it? On the Judgment Day, your Allah will give you (and your cousin husband) paradise, while all your Hindu boyfriends will get the Hell Fire (along with Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Barak Obama and rest non-Muslims). So, why are you concerned for hell in this life, when you are guaranteed an eternal happiness in the after-life?

You mentioned that “i had to leave them (Hindus), because i m muslim girl” Who told you to do that? If you are fearful of telling truth to your parents and your Islamic society, then you should shut up and be submissive to your cousin (husband).

If you have courage and believe in THIS life, then start analyzing what “i m muslim girl” means to you. Best wishes. -Admin.

Fauziya to Amir: on September 6, 2012 at 7:07 am

Why you think you know islam better than me? Because we women have to face all the rules and beatings, which my mom used to get from my dad does not mean only women has to learn islam.

My hindu boy and girl friends respect me and always want good things for me, what i find in Hindus, even though not very religious, have humanism and are kind hearted. My father does not gives money to even a beggar if he is not a Muslims, he does not buy anything from a non-muslim shop, you can imagine the conditions/restrictions at my house.

I just want to be free like other girls. You may feel bad bcoz this is reality. Apart from Childs religion issue, i dont think islam has any other problem, with Muslim girls marriage with hindu guy. Anyway my this life is ruined! -Fauzia.

Fauzia says: on October 6, 2012 at 5:42 am

Hi every body, thanks for the mails.

I have taken a bold steps. I have told my parents that I shall not marry my cousin. In the mean time, I have got a job, working there. I have told my parents let me settle in my job for atleast two years, by that our financial position will be good enough. Due to this problem only, my parents were attempting to marry with him. My Hindu BF is happy now. He is already in a good company and recently probmoted to a senior position.

So thankful to the almighty coming at my rescue. -Fauzia.

Fauzia says: October 21, 2012 at 10:46 am

Hello every body, here I would like to share that Hindu BF on promotion has been transferred to a european country. I am also getting an opportunity to join there, and given my consent too. Vow, great opportunity to be with my BF for ever now. Told my parents that my posting in europe is a great opportunity for career in terms of financial position and support the family. They have agreed. Allah is great.

Thanks to all my well wishers. -Fauzia

fauzia says: February 14, 2013 at 3:20 am

Respected Admn/Satyen,

Here is update of my life story. I have married my bf as per Hindu rituals and got marriage registered. Now I am Mrs. Fauzia Sharma. I have told my parents and it was a big surprise for them. I have continued to send money to them to help them in financial crisis, which they have accepted. I have promised that financial assistance shall continue and I am enjoying a lot, and no problem. They have conveyed take care and be safe always.

Thanks. –Fauzia Sharma

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Fauzia says: March 11, 2013 at 11:36 am
Hi Admn.

My doctor has confirmed my pregnancy and I am so happy to have my own kid. My husband is also exicted to know it.We are doing good in the job. Seeking blessings. -Fauzia

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80 Comments

  • Every soul shall die
    April 11, 2018 10:42 pm

    The adim of this page is totally fake.. And against muslims.. .. Here Muslim girls are encouraging to go against there religion and their parents.. And falsely saying that there would be a happy ending.. Please muslim girls protect yourself from going hell fire..

  • Every soul shall die
    April 11, 2018 10:39 pm

    This page is totally fake with fake person s.. Here Muslims girls are encouraging to go against there religion and their parents.. And falsely saying that there would be a happy ending.. Please muslim girls protect yourself from going hell…. ??.

  • I m Muslim
    September 8, 2016 10:51 am

    Dear Admin ,, you Should prove your statement, first you need to homework , may be ur research from fake websites, look he is president of America and that country is Christian majority and if he visted church just for maintain his popularity.. If u want to I accept your points and forthat u will be happy , okay I accept ur points …happy?

  • I m Muslim
    September 5, 2016 9:56 am

    Western Sexiest women married with Muslim boys , Muslim boys look innocent and handsome and very sexy …west woman the Ex British prime Minister Tony Blair’s sister in Law Lauren Booth she divorce her non Muslim and Married with Muslim , there is many examples like Angelina , Britney Sphere…in America per 1,00,000 non Muslim women married with Muslims …And I m also mad about Muslim boys….in India Hindu girls fear about Hindu Organizations, my a friend her name is Pallavi and she love a boy , his name is Arshad ..they love each other very much but Pallavi fears about Hindu Organizations …in India there is crores of Hindu girls love Muslim boys but they fear about Hindu Oraganizations…

    • September 5, 2016 8:24 pm

      Tell Pallavi not to be fearful of religious fanatics. Ask her to write here.

  • I m Muslim
    September 5, 2016 8:52 am

    Yes I m Muslim….and I respect all religions but I don’t believe any other religions, i just beleive Islam…you may be fake or not, I don’t know , if u r telling truth so I want to say that don’t call yourself Musalman because you are Shirk,,,I m calling u shirk because u believe Islam and Hindu cultures…A Musalman is who is following just Islam. I m laughing ???? bcz I m thinking that u r very unlucky bcz you was born in Muslim family but you don’t know the value of emaan but u will be know the value of emaan in day of qayamat , when the angels of hell bring u jahanoom….if u knew the value of emaan and if u r true Muslim , you never choosed Hindu boys as a boyfriend ,,,u said that Hindu boys are intelligent, good looking , yes they are may be but Muslim boys are more advance than them example: Indian and Arabian Muslim boys are very handsome and good looking and if i say about intelligent so Hindu boys are President of America like Barrack Hussain Obama and Mayor of London like Sadiq Khan …and Islam is first growing relegion….Allah hoo Akbar and My India is great

    • September 5, 2016 8:20 pm

      “President of America like Barrack Hussain Obama” is a baptized Christian and visits church routinely.
      Is President Obama a pride for Muslims and a true Musalman?
      If so, why you said “A Musalman is who is following just Islam”?

      • I m Muslim
        September 6, 2016 1:13 am

        Barrack Hussain Obama claime’s himself as a Muslim not Christian though his wife and mother is Christian…he respect’s his wife’s and mother’s relegion and Obama follows daily 5 times of namaz…His Father and step Father also Muslims , if u ask why Muslim boys can married with non Muslims? My answer is Quran permit’s that any Muslim boys can marry those girls who believe in Taurat, injil and Zabur …The book of Taurat was come in the world from at the time of Hazraat Musa (A.S.) , The book of Injil was come in the world at the time of Hazrat Esha (A.S.) ….but Muslim girls strickly forbid for marry with non Muslim by Quran, if they do either they will become Shirk not Muslim..a Hindu cant tell me what is Islam….if Muslims are bad so why Kattar Hindus daughters married with Muslim boys like Kattar Hindu L.K. Advani’s niece married with Muslim , Kattar of Kattar Hindu Subhramaniam Swami’s daughter Suhasini married with Muslim and Why bal Thackrey’s grand Daughter married with Muslim?…..i pray for all Human being, May Allah bless and give you hidayat…

        • September 6, 2016 6:53 pm

          “Obama follows daily 5 times of namaz,” really? Are Muslims proud of Obama who got baptized, married to a Christian and visit church routinely? He visited a mosque just recently first time in 8 years of his presidency. Are Muslim really proud of Obama because he is a true Muslim?

          • I m Muslim
            September 7, 2016 12:10 am

            You need to research about his life…American Jewish hates him because he follows five times of namaz and American Jewish organization said that he proves that he is not only Barrack Obama but he is Barrack Hussain Obama bcz he follows daily five times of namaz..

          • admin
            September 7, 2016 8:05 am

            Prove your statement with authentic source: “Obama follows daily 5 times of namaz”.

            You stated on this site does not mean it becomes truth for someone else to use this comment as a proof. Go do your homework. Let us know if you will be happy if ALL Muslims will be just like Barack Obama. Is Obama a role model for ALL Muslims?

  • Rajesh kohli
    September 11, 2015 2:34 am

    Hi

    There’s nothing wrong in getting married to a different community person. I am in relationship with my colleague saaim razaq in bangalore. We are in relationship from past 3 years. And now that we are in livein relationship. We have had a better life so we have decided to marry this year. Religion is not a problem really. Wohi karo jo tumara mann kahe yaar.

  • September 11, 2015 2:25 am

    Hi
    Fauziya

    really happy for you that you have chosen to be with the guy who loves you. Follow Allah not any human beings words. After all prophrts are also human beings. Do good deeds and you go to heaven. If Islam was created by allah. Allah for sure wouldn’t havevcreated any other religion. Religion stuffs are all man made things. This is why I am now on spiritual path. Enjoy your life. All the best 🙂

    Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=10469

  • A. Das
    June 26, 2015 6:32 am

    Dear Admin,

    I was fascinated to learn several success stories on this blog. I feel God is just great. I just want you to follow a link in Google Search : “Islam in Bhavisya Puran”. Bhaviysa Puran is one of the ancient Purans of Sanatan Dharma (Hindu). Just go through it, you can learn that how Islam was mentioned in this ancient text around 5000 years ago.
    Meanwhile I wish all the couples a very happy married life.
    Thanks

    • arshia
      August 26, 2015 11:53 pm

      JAZAK ALLAH KAHIRE BROTHER DAS

  • Zhaida
    November 17, 2014 12:48 am

    Muslim boys r vry gud better than Hindu boy even I was Hindu gotmerried to muslim guy and he is vry gud humanbeing . Even he have vry gud job in France . Me and my husband and child are vry happy

    • November 17, 2014 7:09 am

      Do you know Thousif, who just blogged? You both have same writing style. Is that same person in different names? Can you e-mail us at InterfaithShaadi@gmail.com?

  • Thousif
    November 17, 2014 12:43 am

    PlZ muslim sister don listen to thse kafir she is fake . She is brain washing our muslim sister

  • Anil
    June 19, 2013 3:15 pm

    Great Story and happy ending. Wish my ex girlfriend had that courage then. We were in exact situation 12 years back and she married in her religion. She is facing same situation your mother faced. I feel sad for her.
    Anyway am glad you are happy. All the best

    • June 21, 2013 8:41 pm

      Anil,
      Can you share more details of your relationship? Would you have married if she asked you for Nikaah (and conversion) marriage? Can you come to guide other youths here?

  • March 11, 2013 11:36 am

    Hi Admn.

    Here is another update of mylife. My doctor has confirmed my pregnancy and I am so happy to have my own kid. My husband is also exicted to know it.We are doing good in the job.

    seeking blessings.

    • March 11, 2013 9:58 pm

      We are VERY happy for you. As always, we wish you the best. Enjoy THIS life. If your time permits, come and guide other young adults on this site.

    • sunny sharma
      June 8, 2013 6:42 am

      i m very happy for you fauzia…… and ill pray to god to always keep you happy with your husband and ofcourse the cute little once who is going to make you from two to three….. best of luck….!!! i have compromised in my life but happy to c u ……!!!! best of luck once again

      • June 8, 2013 8:37 pm

        Sunny,
        Can you tell us what do you mean by compromise in life you make?

  • February 14, 2013 3:20 am

    Respected Admn/Satyen,

    Here is update of my life story. I have married my bf as per Hindu ritual s and got marriage registered. Now I am Mrs. Fauzia Sharma. I have told my parents and it was a big surprise for them. I have continued to send money to them to help them in financil crisis, which they have accepted. I have promised that financial assistance shall continue and I am enjoying a lot,and no problem. They have conveyed take and be safe always.

    Thanks.

    • February 16, 2013 7:51 am

      Fauzia,

      Congratulations and best wishes.

      It is good that you have not forgot your responsibility to take care of your parents and helping them financially. Over years, they will see the beauty of pluralism and love and respect for all.

      Please keep us posted for what you have learned in your new married life. What differences you see between two great faiths? What other youths should do? We hope you will come to guide others.

  • February 4, 2013 9:37 am

    I am 25 years old Muslim girl, live in USA and in love with one hindu boy, we were studying together in the University, so since 6 years, we are known to each other, and we love each other like a crazy. He is very intelligent , smart and sensitive , working as a software engineer while I am accountant, I know I could not live without him. I want to marry him, he is ready to marry me, his family is also ready but my parent are not ready and forcing me to marry muslim boy. I am depressed now. I can not live without him. I wan to spend rest of my life with him. Now, I have decided to leave my home and parent, I will marry him any cost. I want to convert to Hindu for marriage.But no such restriction from my Hindu BF to convert. IF this is good step?

    • Thousif
      November 17, 2014 12:35 am

      Sis don go against parnts and allah .if u do u will only be happy in thse world afther death u will face vry hard punishment from allah .beleve in one God that is allah. And I am muslim boy I will keep my muslim wife vry hapy.

    • Rafeee
      May 2, 2015 3:13 am

      Dear Sist. don marry a hindu guy please please please .If u cant leave them .Then U convert in to Muslim and after it U have to marry him n remember not before marry without convert . And if he sure love U then he ill guarantee convert from Hindu to Muslim . Because World know it Muslims or Islam religion is Truth nothing else but some of all people from other religion cant accept it because of His Status ,so first preference u have to give religion and then u respect ur parents then u love him a lot its good …..

    • Mihir
      December 3, 2015 1:51 am

      There is no problem go ahead and marry the Hindu Boy there is no gurantee the muslim biy your parents find with be right for you dump the barbaric satanic cult of terrorist islam which preachs taqiya tawariya, hudna kitman and muruna

      • Mohammed
        December 3, 2015 2:33 am

        Hello !! mind ur words.. what do u know about islam that u are hating..

  • December 21, 2012 7:18 am

    Hi Admn and Satyen sirs,

    Enjoying good working environment in Denmark. My BF has bought a small three room set. Things moving very smoothly. My parents feel little scared about me, being alone. I have told them not to worry at all here and told indirectly about my BF who takes good care of me.
    Hearing that I shall be sending some money for them from next month, they are very happy.

    Thanking you Fauzia

    • Satyen
      December 25, 2012 8:31 am

      Fauzia,

      You are doing what a sensible person and a loving daughter should do. It’s time to become a helping hand for the paternal family and try to uplift the family condition with financial assistance as well as good advice in other matters, directed towards making them financially self sufficient. You can also inspire your brothers and sisters to focus on education and develop love for the whole of humanity.

      Allah is supreme, the compassion incarnate and everywhere to help you instantly without the crutches of any prophet as Allah is not helpless or partial. Allah lives in our hearts to guide us for the Jannat, here and hereafter without any broker between us and Allah.

      • Srinivas
        December 25, 2012 8:42 am

        Allah as compassionate God ?

        Only a proud Muslim can say this.

        Koranic verse (51:56) –> The only purpose I created men and jinn is that they worship me.

        • Satyen
          December 25, 2012 12:34 pm

          It’s Muhammad and his khalifas who have demeaned comapssionate Allah to this abysmal level. Unfortunately, the hypnotized Muslims are oblivious of it and still continuing with following Muhammad instead of Allah. However, Allah seems to have been forgiving the Muslims’ antithetical behaviour towards Allah for the last 1400 years. Don’t you think only a compassionate God can forgive these grave sins? Now it’s time for the Muslims to wake up, disconnet from Muhammad and surrender themselves to Allah. This will be the beginning of the new era of a new world order with peace and prosperity.

          • --------
            November 2, 2013 6:16 pm

            u do not know what u takin about learn islam then speak type

          • arshia
            August 26, 2015 11:47 pm

            @ Satyen

            I have no idea upto what level your knowledge about islam is. but i i can understand the you do not know the difference between Allah and Prophet mohammed.

            Allah is forgiving human being from the day one i mean from prophet adam till now, islam is there from the day prophet Adam came to this earth,

            1400 what you are saying is ” Quran came”. Quran sent to us through prophet Mohammed pbuh almost 1400 years ago,

            prophet mohammed is a last and final messanger from Almighty God and Quran is final word of Allah.

            before prophet mohammed prophet allah sent many messangers( esa, moses, david, isaac, ismail, ibrahim, noha adma etc) and allah sent his book torh bible and all.

            but quran ia final word from Allah and it is sent to us through final messanger of Allah that is prophet mohammed pbuh.

            so following prophet is also a way of surrendering to Almighty Allah.
            if we dis obey any of the prophet it like we muslis disobeying Almighty
            Allah.

            ISLAM MEAN: PEACE, WAY OF LIFE

            MUSLIM MEANS: THE PERSON WHO SUBMITS HIS WILL AND WISH TO ALMIGHTY ALLAH ALONE.

  • Abida
    December 10, 2012 8:36 am

    Hi Fauzia,
    Glad to read your life story. Where there is a will there is a way.
    I am almost in the same situation presently in UK, working a mall.
    I have come across with a Hindu guy and deeply impressed towards him for everlasting relations. My parents wants me to marry my own cousin, who is just a mechanic in a motor workshop, which I donot like to accept him as my soul mate because he is not professionally compatible nor I like his family environment.

    I have told my parents that I would like to marry as per my choice, even if I am disown by them, as they cannot put restrictions for my life in the name of religion.

    Reply to Abida at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3612

  • suma usa
    November 16, 2012 11:59 am

    http://mundosinislam.com/
    a pakistani ex muslim runs his blog about the cruel faith he was raised in. Do watch him, mind you this is not hate speach as he himself was a muslim. Muslim women will be liberated from the shackles of their faith when the cross over and marry outside their faith. The become invaluable bridges to interfaith dialogue.

  • November 16, 2012 9:26 am

    Vow Fauzia,
    God bless you. I have read comments about you on this blog. Deeply impressed.

    I am working in a latin american country as a instrumentation engineer and now in love with a Hindu boy who is my immediate boss in the same manufacturing company. We have a great responsibility to designing and developing new control systems;
    •maintaining and modifying existing systems;
    •managing operations;
    •working collaboratively with design engineers, operation engineers, purchasers and other internal staff;
    •liaising with clients, suppliers, contractors and relevant authorities (e.g. the Nuclear Decommissioning Authority);
    •project management within cost and time constrained environments;
    •troubleshooting and problem-solving;
    •understanding and ensuring compliance with the health and safety regulations and quality standards of the country in which work is undertaken;
    •providing advice and consultancy support;
    •purchasing equipment;
    •writing computer software;
    •developing new business proposals;

    Since our company is facing tough competitition, so we have to manufacture quality products at competitive rates with customer satisfaction.

    During performance of above multifaceted jobs, I was greatly impressed with my Hindu BF and discussed with him Hindu rituals. The way he described and respected my sentiments, I am deeply fascinated with his attitude and commitment. Very soon I shall marry him. I have met 3 times his parents too.

    Reply to Noorjahan at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3410

    • Choice
      December 14, 2012 4:50 pm

      This video I would like to share with u and all those eho are interested in marrying hindu boys. It is catered mainly to girls willing to marry hindu boys. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIzKgBxzg-I

  • November 15, 2012 8:53 am

    Hi every body,

    Got an opportunity to serve in Europe. Next day I am going to Denmark to join my Hindu BF, as System analyst. Vow, God has accepted my wish to work with him and raise our own family in near future.

    Thanks a lot to the almighty that I have been saved to marry my own cousin under pressure.

    God is great, giving inspiration, strength and patience.

    • Satyen
      November 22, 2012 10:53 am

      Congratulations and lead a liberal life full of love and a vision for a better world. I also expect you not to circumcise your childeren irrespective of their gender and give them an Indian name to make them proud of their country of origin.

    • November 26, 2012 4:58 pm

      for the sake of your own kids and welfare i suggest you to let your children choose their faith. If possible read about the relation between hindusim and islam.
      1) what is 786?
      no muslim can answer but it came from aum (search it on youtube–> 786 is aum)
      2) what is allah? the word allah is also from sanskrit OM (youtube–> om or aum is allah)
      3)please check out http://www.youtube.com/viprayami and check out some videos about how islam came from hinduism and why?
      4) if you want your kids also to be muslim after marrying a hindu then wont they also face the same problems in your religion? Why dont you try your husbands faith for instance which is more tolerant and appealing to you? dont you want your children to be kind, courteous and understanding like your husband or do you want them to be like other muslim relatives of yours who say that everyone except muslims will all go to hell?

  • October 21, 2012 10:46 am

    Hello every body,

    Here I would like to share that Hindu BF on promotion has been transferred to a european country.I am also getting an opportunity to join there, and given my consent too. Vow, great opportunity to be with my BF for ever now. Told my parents that my posting in europe is a great opportunity for career in terms of financial position and support the family. They have agreed. Allah is great.

    Thanks to all my well wishers.
    Fauzia

    • October 21, 2012 6:55 pm

      Fauzia,
      Congratulations and best wishes.

      Earlier, you wrote, “Anyway my this life is ruined!” We are glad you salvaged your THIS life. It is not worth living in Hell in THIS life in hope of good AFTER life.

    • indian
      October 24, 2012 8:25 pm

      High Court Judge in India recently gave a verdict for such marriage that they take the decisions in haste and then repent. I hope you will take your time and work it out…….meanwhile i would recommend that you read both the quran and Vedas to understand the difference and commonalities between the two religion…..May God guide you.

  • Satyen
    October 11, 2012 9:54 pm

    Fauzia,

    Congratulations to you for shouldering the financial responsibilities of your family. You have proved that daughters and sons are same to the parents. Your parents must be proud of you and so are we.

  • October 11, 2012 6:04 am

    Safder,

    Stop all nonsense and nasty comments about my personal life. You are no body to interfer. Expressing sentiments and emotions here is my right provided by an independent blog. In fact you are the one who is fake and malicious mind frame person.

  • safder
    October 9, 2012 4:52 pm

    @ all muslims : avoid all this non sense fake stories…..

    • October 9, 2012 9:55 pm

      Actually you should direct more muslim scholars to this site.
      If Muslims will not guide Muslim girls in relationship with Hindus, who else will?
      It is not a time to run away, you should join Amir in explaining Islam to (ignorant?) others.

  • safder
    October 9, 2012 4:50 pm

    this story worth nothing more than a crap
    happening only in blogs n fictious stories…..
    n fauzia : this is your hate against islam not the love for your Boy
    if you are maffle bereft then better leave this religion
    indeed ISLAM never forced neither MUSLIM is a tag to hold on use n throw
    if u follow it u will cherish if reject then be ready to perish….

    • Zhaida
      November 17, 2014 12:50 am

      She is fake

  • October 6, 2012 5:42 am

    Hi everu body, thanks for the mails.

    I have taken a bold steps. I have told my parents that I shall not marry my cousin. In the mean time, I have got a job, working there.
    I have told my parents let me settle in my job for atleast two years, by that our financial position will be good enough. Due to this problem only, my parents were attempting to marry with him.My Hindu BF is happy now. He is already in a good company and recently probmoted to a senior position.

    So thankful to the almighty coming at my rescue.

    • October 7, 2012 12:25 am

      Bravo Fauzia, best wishes.

  • believer in God
    October 1, 2012 6:50 am

    hi Fauziya,
    If u think u will be happy wid ur hindu friend then u should marry him. Trust me u will feel liberal to follow ur religion even after marriage. Don’t force him to convert. M sure he won’t force u too. But surely u will stay happily wid him than wid a muslim guy who may beat you up or put all sorts of restrictions on you.

  • ali alina
    September 18, 2012 5:59 am

    hello sister,
    I read your question , also read all responses above ….
    Sister , all people compare between islam and hinduism … And this is not your question …

    Let me tell you a little about myself … I belong to muslim family, i live in jordan– middle east … i am interested in hinduism , maybe i will convert to hinduism someday, dont know !!! Anyways this is not the deal …. We are talking about love …. You love someone but you’re forced to get married with other one ….!!!!! this is the question …

    Well you are attracted to hindu guys in general … actually you are attracted to good guys in general and most of those good guys are hindu.. Thats what you experienced… In fact, good guys are everywhere , they might be hindu , muslims, christians ,buddhists….etc

    Dont think of religion, dont think of that side ….. think ; i love this guy and i m gonna marry that guy , is it fair???? Is it good???

    I will say ,NO … Sure no ….
    You will marry your cousin , both of you will suffer … It isnt choice …..

    So you have to choice , marry your love one and face your family or stay single and be independent …..

    If you get married with that guy whom you love , this doesnt mean : happiness for sure ….
    You have to think well …. But dont get marry with your cousin … Its biggest fault

    email me if you like , for.friends24h@gmail.com

  • September 14, 2012 9:29 am

    Hello Fauzia,

    It is a great sin to marry a cousin, which is worst part of Islam.
    I was pressurized to marry my cousin about 6 years ago, when I was studying in Graduation. I tactfully denied the proposal and I was already in touch with a Hindu Marathi boy, who was working in MNC and with his help I got a job in his company. When I gave first salary to my abbu, he was happy and permitted me to continue job.

    I told my parents let work for few years and because financially our position was not so strong, parents allowed to continue. In mean time, my relations got stronger with that boy and one day we decided to marry.

    In the meantime that boy got transferred to Singapore and he earned a goot reputation in the company. With his help I also got an opportunity to get transferred in the companies singapore based subsidiary.Managing very tactfully, I reached Singapore and started living together. We got married there and informed my parents and I told them that I was not converting to Hinduism and shall continue to help them financially to support my younger brother and sister,s education, which my husband never mind.

    Initially, parents under the pressure of some fundamentalists opposed but I continued to send money for more than 2 years and parents realized the truth. One day, I invited them to visit Singapore. They did not tell any thing in their community and visited and saw my house. In the mean time I had given birth to a male child. Parents found that so many muslim girls had married Hindu and Budhdhits boys and living happy life, whereas those girls with muslim husbands were not happy and confined to burquas.

    So Fauzia, dont spoil your career by marrying your cousin.
    Better to get a job and try to become self dependent.

    May God give inspiration to be bold.

    Reply to Nigar at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2630

    • Fatima
      November 21, 2012 3:27 am

      Dear Nigar
      After reading your story and other stories on this page i found something interesting. Eveyones parents want them to get married to their cousin. All of a sudden they all get jobs in multinationals.Suddenly they all have hindu bfs in all the companies. all of them get transferred to foreign countries and whats more even the girls get transferred to those countries.At the end of it i just have one comment- THESE FAKE STORIES ARENT ENOUGH TO CONVINVE MUSLIM GIRLS. MUSLIM GIRLS ARE NOT STUPID. I AM A MUSLIM AND PROUD TO BE ONE. I KNOW WHAT ISLAM TEACHES. MY ONLY ADVICE TO MUSLIM GIRLS IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH HINDU GUYS IS BE CAREFUL. THEY WILL USE YOU AND AFTER FEW YEARS DUMP YOU AND THEN LEAVE.
      Case In Point-Take this incident that happened in Mangalore
      Mangalore, July 19: A married Muslim woman, who was allegedly forced to convert to Hinduism recently, approached Inspector General of Police (Western Range) on Tuesday and sought protection from Bajrang Dal and demanded action against the culprits.

      The conversion of Bushra and her husband Jaffar along with their four little children at Saralebettu Shivapadi Sri Umamaheshwari Temple near Manipal of Udupi district on July 14, had hit the headlines.

      However, Bushra, who has now apparently fled husband’s house, accused the Bajrang Dal activists of harassing her physically and mentally and threatening to kill her and her children if she continued to remain a Muslim woman.

      IGP Alok Mohan has assured the woman of taking stringent action against the accused after a thorough investigation into the case.

      Bushra, daughter of late Ibrahim AK alias Ibba from Valachchil near Adyar, had married Jaffar eight years ago, as per the Muslim tradition. Jaffar, a driver, who was in love with Bushra, had converted to Islam a few weeks before the marriage.

      The couple has been leading a normal life and rewarded with four children namely Iqbal (4), Irfan (3), Fathima Yasmeen (2) and Jalauddeen (one and a half month).

      In the recent years, Jaffar, whose earlier name was Prashant Shetty, had developed friendship with Bajrang Dal activists and had shifted his house from Adyar Kannur to Sunkakatte in Udupi nearly three months ago, against the wish of his wife.

      Bushra, in her complaint, said that she was preparing food for her children on July 14 when a group of Bajrang Dal activists stormed into their house and forcefully took the entire family to a temple.

      “When I protested, they threatened me to kill my children if I failed to act according to their wish,” she said in her complaint.

      She also accused the priest of the temple of disregarding her plea and forced her to accept Hinduism. The priest continued ‘Pravartan’ (conversion) rituals without paying attention to my pleadings, she said.

      “Although I became silent in the temple, fearing that Bajrang Dal activists may kill my children, I did not accept Hinduism and I am still a Muslim,” she said adding that the rumours and false reports that she had been converted to Hinduism had deeply hurt her.

      Harassment

      Bushra told the IGP that a Bajrang Dal activist identified as Manohar, harassed her physically and mentally with the support of her husband, after shifting to the new house.

      She said that her husband continued to allow Manohar in the house during nights, despite knowing that he was trying to seduce her and inviting her for sex.

      Divorce

      Bushra said that she has left her husband’s house for ever along with her four children after undergoing the agony.

      “I cannot lead life with my husband anymore. I want a divorce from him,” she said.

      Threat

      Bushra also said that the Bajrang Dal goons have threatened her against approaching the police. She urged the IGP to inquire her case in Dakshina Kannada, as she fears to go to Udupi.

      • mac
        August 10, 2014 12:25 am

        Dear Fatima, I also realised the same facts, every muslim girls are being forced married to their cousin, and they have hindu BF, and one day hindu BF get transferred to Singapore or any foreign countries, all of them work in MNC, and with the help of that BF they also(GF) get job in that same company, got transferred to same job,same MNC, same location, then they get married, then out of no where their parents accepts the marrriage, i have read atleast 50 such stories. whereas hindu girls faces problem if they marry muslim are they common stories in this site , but my mother being a hindu never complained nor she ever said she is unhappy, these are all fake stories to manipulate muslim girls mind who are in love with hindu boys that their family will agree to marry if they elope with hindu bf
        the admin of this group once wrote that he/she is humanist when some one asked about his/her religion but when anyone says anything about hindusm admin reacts and start to defend hinduism, admin said that he/she is not even 1% conveinced about islam then why admin has made so many blogs on islam, truth has been revealed

    • January 4, 2014 2:33 am

      Dear Nigar !
      Be Happy Always :)!!

      I’ve nothing to say more,But few words for you.You are Smart,Sharp, Intelligent, & Responsible Daughter(Your Parents should be proud of you). After married with Hindu guy,You became Loyal Wife to your Dear Husband.Now You are Lovely Mummy to your Son.What a Pleasant Transformation :)(Am I right?).It’s glad to see that You gave a Genuine Advice to another Muslim Girl(Fauzia,Now Fauzia Sharma)Bravo.
      GOD bless You Happy & Prosperous Married Life. 🙂

  • Sabana
    September 14, 2012 9:15 am

    Hi Fauzia,

    I am too a muslim girl and having married to a Hindu guy and with his help now a Software engineer. Hindu guys are liberal and accommodative, whereas muslims are cruel,committing all sorts of attrocities in the name of islam. If your boy friend is God fearing, educated and earning livelihood, and you are adult, you should not soccumb to pressure and tactfully handle the situation. I did not change my religion and very happy with my hindu husband, respecting sentiments of both religions.My other sisters who are married in muslim families are leading a very miserable life, bearing all sorts of inhuman treatments.

    Be brave, ask your Hindu BF,whether he will marry you? find out his future commitment and loyalty about you? Where there is a will, there is a way.

    Religion is man made and God is only one, worshipped in different forms by different communities. But in Islam, there is a lot of leverage to the male community in the name of religion, which is imposed by Mullas and Maulvies.

    God bless you. Dont loose heart.God helps those who help themselves.

  • Kalavai Venkat
    September 12, 2012 1:51 pm

    Namaste Fauziya,

    You should go ahead & marry the Hindu boy. You should also feel free to convert to Hindu dharma. Here are my reasons:

    1. No parent has the right to force his daughter to marry a cousin or another Muslim. It is nothing short of child abuse.

    2. Islam is an oppressive & unscientific religion. The well-known Belgian scholar, Koenraad Elst, has demonstrated that Muhammad suffered from mental illness. Why should anyone be forced to follow the religion based on the delusions of a mental patient? (Read, “Wahi – The Supernatural Basis of Islam” online – http://tinyurl.com/9u8vcfg)

    3. Hinduism offers complete freedom. You need not visit a temple if you don’t want to. There are also many traditions that are atheistic. You can experience any tradition that you like.

    4. If you marry a Muslim, the likelihood is that his Islamic upbringing would have influenced him. He and his family will exert pressure on you to stay in Islam and lead a restricted lifestyle. Can you imagine leading a life wearing burqa or hijab or being with a man who adamantly wears an unhygienic long beard? Does it even sound romantic? Or, would you like to romance with your Hindu husband by riding on a motorcycle while holding his waist?

    5. Every girl has the right to enjoy romantic life with her husband. Hinduism is the only religion that embraces romance, sensuality, and sexuality openly & as sacred. You can see the beautiful sensual depictions in Hindu temple walls. You can read such narratives in the Ramayana and other texts. This predisposes Hindus to embraces romance positively. By marrying a Hindu & leading a Hindu life, you can enjoy romantic life normally.

    6. Your ancestors were Hindu too. They wee forcibly converted by Islamic invaders. By becoming a Hindu & marrying a Hindu boy, you are returning to your ancestral faith.

    7. Once you marry the Hindu boy you love, have children, and raise them as Hindus, your parents will most probably accept you. However, if they do not, it is because they are blinded by Islam to reject their own daughter’s well-being. In that case, do not resent them but hope they will turn around.

    8. If you fear violence at the hands of Muslim gangs (or even your parents) because you are marrying a Hindu, please email me at kalavai.venkat@gmail.com and I will connect you with those that can protect you.

    Encourage your friends & relatives to convert to Hinduism and marry Hindu boys.

    Regards,
    KV

  • Satyen
    September 7, 2012 9:00 am

    @ Fauzia,

    Never surrender to a bad life. Life is so beautiful and even you can have it. Where there is a will, definitely there is a way. Just try to find out a solution but I think (nothing against any religion)the real problem is Islam itself. Even after marrying your cousin, you can adopt a Hindu lifestyle to liberate yourself, your husband and your progeny. Otherwise, you can choose a Hindu but please don’t pour your restrictive lifestyle in your married life. Let your children learn both the religions and chose one they like at their maturity. However, if your intention is to get only muslim children, forgive your Hindu boyfriend and don’t make his life a hell fire here and hereafter. Choice is yours.

    To summarize, put all your efforts to get the happy married life which is your birth right and don’t miss this beautiful life that is open to you. Wish you all the best.

    • arshia
      August 26, 2015 11:49 pm

      @ Satyen

      I have no idea upto what level your knowledge about islam is. but i i can understand the you do not know the difference between Allah and Prophet mohammed.

      Allah is forgiving human being from the day one i mean from prophet adam till now, islam is there from the day prophet Adam came to this earth,

      1400 what you are saying is ” Quran came”. Quran sent to us through prophet Mohammed pbuh almost 1400 years ago,

      prophet mohammed is a last and final messanger from Almighty God and Quran is final word of Allah.

      before prophet mohammed prophet allah sent many messangers( esa, moses, david, isaac, ismail, ibrahim, noha adma etc) and allah sent his book torh bible and all.

      but quran ia final word from Allah and it is sent to us through final messanger of Allah that is prophet mohammed pbuh.

      so following prophet is also a way of surrendering to Almighty Allah.
      if we dis obey any of the prophet it like we muslis disobeying Almighty
      Allah.

      ISLAM MEAN: PEACE, WAY OF LIFE

      MUSLIM MEANS: THE PERSON WHO SUBMITS HIS WILL AND WISH TO ALMIGHTY ALLAH ALONE.

  • Amir
    September 5, 2012 6:34 am

    Fouziya,
    Have you ever understood what Islam is?
    Just read and learn Islam and then make any decision.
    For your help , listen tafseer of Quran by Dr. Israr Ahmad.
    InshaAllah that will guide you.

    If you don’t want marry your cousin then don’t marry him. But always choose a muslim. Urge to your parent for some other muslim boy.

    Be clear to them, respect them.

    There are numerous reason why not to marry a non-muslim, if you have not posted a fake question and really want to know why no boy other than muslim, plz mail me shairuf@gmail.com

    • September 5, 2012 11:04 pm

      Great advise, we agree.

    • Fauziya
      September 6, 2012 7:07 am

      Why you think you know islam better than me ? Because we women have to face all the rules and beatings, which my mom used to get from my dad does not mean only women has to lean islam. My hindu boy and girl friends respect me and always want good things for me, what i find in Hindus, even though not very religious, have humanism and are kind hearted. My father does not gives money to even a beggar if he is not a Muslims, he does not buy anything from a non muslim shop, you can imagine the conditions /restrictions at my house. I just want to be free like other girls. You may feel bad bcoz this is reality. Apart from Childs religion issue, i dont think islam has any other problem, with Muslim girls marriage with hindu guy. Anyway my this life is ruined !

      • Thousif
        November 17, 2014 12:39 am

        If u no islam u could never go against of Islam and ur parnts .even I muslim boy and I could keep my girl vry happy. In dunniah we can do whatever we want afther ur death who will save u Dr sis ur hindu god?? Let c sis .u will not find any one God of ur boy frnd . Only u can find one God that is Allah u will burn in hell for ur lifetime for ur big mistake

        • Lovekesh
          July 14, 2016 5:56 am

          Hii
          Islam is an itegral part of Vedic Religion..
          In Quraan it is not described as it is ‘Gaib’
          But forget all that I just want to suggest you..that You can never get Jannat it you have ego in ur mind that I am a muslim. I have the best religion kyunki Allah ko keval mohabbat chahiye na ki ego..

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