Muslim: I fell in love with a hindu boy

Suzanne says: on October 11, 2012 at 8:31 am

Dear everyone,

I have been reading through this website and saw many good stories about how love can be so strong regardless of religion and culture etc.

I have been living my whole life in a western country, but my parents are from a Asian muslim country. Growing up with strict parents in a secular country was really hard for me. I was not aloud to do much without their permission. Going to school and college was my way out for freedom. My parents never had a problem with me studying. Though they did always wanted me to marry as soon as possible. I managed to decline all the marriage proposals and continued studying and travelling around the world.

During my stay in India 3 years back I fell in love with a wonderful hindu boy. To me he is my everything and today we are still together despite the differences of religion and culture. We had our ups and downs but we love each other soo much that nothing can stop us. We both live in 2 separate countries from each other but we have maintained our relationship very well and im just really proud of us because of that.

My mom totally disapproves it and my dad will never accept it since he is a very strict religious muslim. They will for sure disown me for a while and try to do anything to make me not be with my hindu boyfriend. I really feel sad about the fact that my family is like this. I wish i could just be with him without causing much trouble in the family… I also feel very guilty about me being with someone who is not a muslim just for the sake of my parents.

I respect Islam and also my parents believe in Islam, but i would like them to respect and accept my choice of being with a hindu man for the rest of my life.

I believe in god, but i dont practice religion since i just dont think i need it personally. I am not against any religion and i just want my children to learn about all religions and they can choose any religion if they want.

I am planning to tell my parents about me wanting to marry him in a few months from now. At the moment i am busy with my MSc and my boyfriend is focussing on his business in India. I am already financially independent and know how to manage things on my own.

I hope that everything works out for me and my boyfriend in the future. And i also hope the same for other muslim girls in the same situation. I know how hard it is but please don’t give up if the man you are with is really good to you and is making you happy. Because finding a good man is hard these days, regardless of any religion.

Once again i am not against Islam or any other religion. I highly respect all religions and the people who don’t believe in the existence of god. And i am not planning to convert to hinduism and i am certainly not expecting my boyfriend to convert to Islam.

Thanks,

Suzanne

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66 Comments

  • Logical Athgiest
    April 22, 2017 1:01 pm

    Hinduism = Incest and Sex addict gods , Advocating Rape , Killing , SEX With Animals ,Pedophilia , Burning Widows , Torturing Low Caste .Here are proofs

    (Killing Non-Hindu – Rig Veda 9.13.9, Rig Veda 7.6.3, Rig Veda 9.63.5, Rig Veda 8.70.11, Rig Veda 7.97.9
    Rig Veda 1.84. 8,Rig Veda 8.64.1-2,Rig Veda 5.2.10,Rig Veda 9.79.10 and more)

    (Advising Pedophilia – 1. Manu 9:9,2. Vishnu Purana III:10 ,3. ,Mahabharata XLIV p.18,Gautama 18:21)
    ‘Out of fear of the appearance of the menses let the father marry his daughter while she still runs about naked. For if she stays (in the house) after the age of puberty, sin falls on the father”SBE 14:Vasishtha:17:70)

    (Sex With Animals-Rig Veda 1.121.2 ,Rig Veda Mandal 10, hymn 17 ,Nirukta 12.10 )

    (Women are equivalent to dogs, pigs- Manu Smriti 3.239 ,Atharva Veda 04.5.2, Satapatha Brahmana 14.1.1.31,
    Garuda Purana ch 231 “A Brahmana having touched a dog, a Sudra, or any other beast, or a woman in her menses, before washing his face after a meal, shall regain his purity by fasting for a day, and by taking Panchgavyam.”

    (Women should not be given freedom- Uttarabhaga 24.46-47 , Manu Smriti 5.147-148 ,Mahabharata 13.45 and more)

    Women are bad luck – Garuda Purana 1.64.8 “Woman with hairy sides and breasts and high lips: husband dies soon.”
    Garuda Purana 1.64.11-12 )

    Beat Women – Garuda Purana 1.109.31 ”Wicked persons, artisans, slaves, defiled ones, drums and women are softened by being beaten; they do not deserve gentle handling.”
    Brihadaranyaka Upanishad 6.4.7 “If she does not willingly yield her body to him, beat her)

    Yajur Veda 30.5 and 30.9 explicitly states that God has created women for sexual enjoyment.

    (KILLING THOSE WHO REJECT AND HATE VEDAS-Atharva Veda 12.5.62, Atharva Veda 12.5.62, page 576] ,Atharva Veda 12.5.54 ,Atharva Veda 2.12.6 , Rig Veda 6.22.8, Rig Veda 6.52.3…Burn down the enemies of Vedas.)

    Bramha is a god who raped own daughter

    Let’s look at examples of these Hindu ‘Holy’ Relationships:
    * Brother And Sister Sex :: Holy Rig Veda :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Pushan had a physical relationship with his Sister Shurya
    * Brother and Sister Sex :: Rig Veda :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Agni is the lover of his own sister.
    * Brother and Sister Sex :: Rig Veda :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Ashvisns married Surya and Savitri who were sisters.
    * Lord Krishna Incest :: Lord Krishna lived in incest with his sister Subhadra, sharing her with his brother Balarama [Mah.wh.153 ]
    * Father And Daughter Incest :: Holy Purans :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Brahma had a physical relationship with his Daughter Sarasvati. In the Holy Purans, Brahma explains the validity and divine power of this relationship.
    * Father and Daughter Incest :: Holy Rig Veda :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Agni is the son of his father and his own sister. The Ashvins are referred to as the sons of Savitar and Ushas who are brother and sister.
    * Sex With Prostitutes :: Holy Purans :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Brahma had a physical relationship with Urvasi (a sex worker), their son’s name was Rishi Vasishta
    * Intermatial Sex :: Holy Purans :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Brahma had relationship with Parvati. Their son’s name was Agasthiar
    * Sex With Animals :: Holy Purans :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Brahma had a sexual relationship with a Bear. A son called Jambu Vandan was born from this act of bestiality.
    * Sex With A Dead Body (Necrophilia) :: Holy Purans :: It is Valid in Hinduism. Brahma had sex with a dead body in a cremation ground. His son Salliyan was born from this necrophilia.

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  • mac
    September 30, 2015 4:02 am

    This is how modern American women converting to Islam
    https://m.facebook.com/aishah.schwartz

  • @mi
    August 8, 2013 2:00 pm

    hi,

  • @mi
    August 8, 2013 1:59 pm

    hiiiiii actually i m also searching for muslim girl for seriouse relationship,,,,,,,,any one is thr ??

  • Ajit
    June 13, 2013 9:02 am

    @Moieed- The firm believer – Muslim girls? Muslims girls are treated like dogs in Islam, I think you forgot – Laila khan- Muslim actress killed by his own Muslim father, Malala incident, Benazir Bhutto killing , Kashmir Muslims girl bands death threat, “Allah rahki” nose cutting by Muslim husband, Mukhtar Mai- rape by Muslim holy men, honor killingof Muslim girls by her parents, and thousands of such brutal treatment to Muslim girls in name of Islam. And no Muslim girl has to convert to het husbands religion, she can remain Muslim and follow Islam while married to her non Muslim husband, you are racist and fundamentalists who comes between love.

    • naredra
      January 5, 2014 4:37 am

      Dear Ajit !
      You are absolutely right Brother.Keep it UP !! 🙂

  • Moieed
    June 13, 2013 2:15 am

    All these comments above seems to be from Non-Belivers pretending to be muslim girls. See how tricks they play when they know that it is next to impossible to change the firm believe in oneness of God Allah SWT Tauheed by Muslims. Kafirs open your eyes and find out the truth and the way of life which is ISLAM otherwise you will regret here and hereafter Inshallah choice is yours. Islam teaches no compulsion in religion just deliver the message and leave the decision on them (non belivers).

  • Akshay
    February 23, 2013 11:02 am

    I am a Hindu Guy, I loved Muslim girl, More than me she loved me a lot, she loved me that much no one could measure it. We were in our own world, world of love, when we were in love or when love happened we never had a clue or thought about the religion. I was ready for everything, i was there her, i was prepared to everything where i can keep her happy, i was planning for marriage.

    We were beyond religion, society, parents, friends etc. But again same society, RELIGION, parents, friends etc. came int existence when she got engaged with same community i.e with Muslim guy.

    Same time one of the close relative passed away in her family, everybody started coming to her home and later days every one started speaking about her marriage, religion, reciting, etc.

    Now she started telling WE BOTH WERE IN A DREAM and never thought the real life….. As i said we loved so much, she loved me so much, she is telling we need to sacrifice our love. our love for our parents, her sister or else they will die. She is telling body is mortal soul is not immortal.

    Later on she started telling i did a mistake, in Islam it is wrong, Allah will punish me…But she is doing this deliberately so that i can go away from her. she is telling me to marry some one, to keep my parents happy, to lead a better life in society. But remember she tells in a pain and she will be getting married with someone in few days.. But she tells she love me

    I made all arrangements to kidnap her, but immediately realized that LOVE CANNOT BE FORCED. Now invitation card will be distributed in one or two days. But i checked from all the sources, that the engaged guy’s character is not good. Being a Muslim he has demanded and accepted cash from brides home. He is marrying her becoz of money…. He cant keep my love happy. She cant be happy.

    Now what should i do ?What is sacrifice? should i blame my own-self? should i blame her? should i blame religion? I JUST CANT LIVE WITHOUT HER, she is in my blood, in my breathe. Its a true love…. I just wanted one YES, only one YES she dint tell. She is going away from me….far away from me. But virtually she is with me, i can feel her presence, i can feel her touch, etc.

    What should i do now. i am in deep depression…..

    Write to Akshay at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4550

  • Arvind
    December 8, 2012 10:44 am

    Hey guys,

    This site has been helping me a lot in finding useful reviews and information. My name is Arvind. Hindu guy in love with a Muslim girl from past 4 years. Currently both aged 21 years and financially independent. I am currently working as a Chartered Accountant and she as an engineer.
    In her home they’re planning to get her married to her cousin. We both love each other truly and I promised her that I’ll do anything to make it happen. Only son to my parents, I’ve decided to take up Islam so as to make her parents accept me and also here I don’t mean Fake Conversion. I would like to take up the religion truly from my heart. She never asked me to convert to Islam. I hope things will ease up soon in both our houses. I’m ready to undergo the circumcision process and also name my kids in Arabic. Any suggestions are welcome. Please guide me whether I’m doing things in a correct way. Thanks in Advance.

    Reply to Arvind at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3581

    • December 8, 2012 11:44 am

      Want to take up Islam seriously ?

      You can do that. But after that, you need to start hating all Non-Muslims including your parents. They become kafirs for you. You are not supposed to prey for them. Is this going to be your way of rewarding your parents for everything they did to you? Your parents will not be respected by her parents, is this what you want to see!

      Another thing is that all Muslims need to follow the example of Mohammad ! Do you know what kind of man he was? Read about him before you take the decision.

      Do you know why parents have children? Because they expect their children to continue their good work. And what you are doing is helping a fascist ideology to spread. It is no less.

      My sincere advice is this: Dump her. Love is not everything. It is not worth sacrificing your love of parents of 21 years for a girl in your life of 2 or 3 years (It becomes a different matter after marriage.).

      • hussain
        August 3, 2014 8:36 pm

        i am hussain….
        in islam you dont need to hate others in fact profet mohammed(pbuh) caried for kafir..so please dont pretend any thing about any religioun untill or unless you have complete knoledge about the same..and as soon as islaam is concern regarding parents…you have your swarg (jannat) beneath you mothers leg.and father is you door of swarg(jannat).and if you r converted to islaam still you have to obey you parents other vise you will be guilty at the day of judgment.
        So my friends please learn about islaam than you will come to know..if you need some help pkease let me know. at m2husain@yahoo.co.in……
        FYI@shrinivaas.

    • December 8, 2012 12:08 pm

      Do not ruin your life in the name of love.

      I am sure that after some time, as time heals everything, you will find a wonderful Hindu girl who likes and loves you.

      Hindu women are the best, the most beautiful and the most loving (though (very) little dumb, but all women are) among all women.

      Any way, it will be good to know about the practice of Female Genital Mutation in Islam. Read from the below link:

      http://dawn.com/2012/04/23/female-circumcision-anger-aired-in-india-fm/

  • Golbahar
    November 19, 2012 8:09 am

    Hi every body,

    Back again after few days. As stated I have met my soul mate now. By religion Hindu Rajput, working as Clinical Operations Manager providing strategic direction for clinical trial operations through the direct line-management of the clinical research staff and responsible for the development and implementation of research processes and systems with cost effectiveness. In my working interactions, I met him and got an opportunity to know and understand each other for everlasting relationship.

    We have decided to marry in a few months. His parents shall be visiting him next month and I wish to see them also. By profession and nature he is very dynamic, competent and adjusting.

    Thanks every body

    Read prior comment at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3134#comment-31960

  • November 16, 2012 8:37 am

    Hi every one,

    Perhaps Indian is Al Quaida mentality terrorist. Why are you calling Indian yourself? Quran favours only person like you, who are horny, criminal, anti human and womanizer? that is why, women are called just like field to plough as per desire, keep 4 wives, female has to produce 4 witnesses, even if she is raped, in the hell are all women, women are whore even if nicely dressed, beating women for sexual purpose is permissible, what is all non-sense, ? can a God be so cruel against female community?
    72 virgins are available to a horny man in paradise, who murders innocent people in the name of religion?
    What non sense relgion is Islam.

    Considering all these criminal like teachings, and favouring males, I left Islam and married to a Hindu Engineeer, very happy with him, having two kids and also working.

    Women are scared, frightened in the name of Islam on judgement, Allah will punish? Why not to punish terrorists, who have committed henious crimes against humanity, Why non to punish, rapist Prophet Mohmammd to murdererd thousands of innocents, raped his grand daughter like girls of 6-9 years old?

    You Dog, Bastard.

    • Prajaya Joshi
      July 10, 2014 10:45 am

      The religion has nothing to do with love and marriage. U married sum1 you love, you are lucky. Be happy.
      Don’t spread hate. You are lucky, every1 is not.

      • July 10, 2014 10:07 pm

        Prajaya,

        Do you have experience to state that “The religion has nothing to do with love and marriage”? Are you in relationship with someone and can you share your experience?

  • Indian
    October 28, 2012 11:15 am

    Truly those against whom the word[wrath] of your lord is justified,will not believe even if every sign should come to them, until they see the painful torment [Quran 10; 94-97]

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yinhd6dlS_I

    • Aryan
      October 28, 2012 9:53 pm

      Heg paki, you are back, now much better brainwashed than before, sometimes i feel how true god is, he said for truth to win and peace to prevail, there must be evil, evil thinks he is right, he is the real god. Its good that you brainwashed jehadi, anti hindu, Christian,sikh etc, and yes peace hater exist in this world, else we peaceful people would have never encountered bad, you guys have set a benchmark of who is most evil and needless to say you muslims( muslims who are truly secular, plz pardon my language, but this is most mild way to say the truth). On you tube search for video on “muslim rape crime in Europe”, you will come to know how much peace you religion gives. But i m happy for muslims, coz of you we have a purpose in live, to rip apart your black veil of lies and in human conduct of life. Kalki may be on the way, its high time for you folks to get extinct.

  • Satyen
    October 20, 2012 11:01 pm

    All the women,

    I bow my head to you all women (Hindu, Muslima, Christian etc. whoever you may be) as the manifestation of the Durga/Allah/God during this auspicious period of Navratri. You are the true deity of prosperity, power and intellect. That nation will always be blissful where the women are respected and they have smile on their faces. I wish each couple must have at least one girl child as a symbol of Lakshmi (happiness).

    Again, my all respects to you. May, Durga/Allah bestow all the happiness and prosperity on you all, only smiles, no tears ever.

  • October 20, 2012 2:58 am

    HI Every one,

    Just used common sense to move away from religion. I was born in a Muslim family, hence I was a Muslim till I became an adult. Had I been born under any other religion, I would’ve been a follower of the same. And all my life I heard that Muslims would have the first right to heaven. That sounded very absurd to me and as my brain opened up i realized it was not my achievement of being born in a Muslim family that I had a birth right to heaven. Surely God cannot be so unfair. Furthermore, the history of Islam is full of bloodshed and war, and the Quran clearly allows jihad on one side and then says all humans are equal. Surely God could not reveal such hypocritical statements and I openly challenge the validity of the book. I am a God fearing human who believes every human is equal, be he/she from any religion, caste or creed. I freely choose not to follow Islam anymore as the concept is against my altruistic views on life, where a persons life and faith should be governed by his/her own free mind and logical reasoning. Not by the way of birth or what the ancestors have always believed in.

    Arsalan Chatha, 24, Pakistan, now an agnostic

    I left Islam. I always thought that Muhammad can not be God’s messenger or a holy man! By looking at his personal affairs, especially with women, I can not follow a man who marries each woman he meets! Also the contradictions in the Quran and the way it was written – in a way that is so difficult to understand, made me believe that this is a man made religion . Also, Islam has NO tolerance for other belief systems, and the argument that Muslims are very lucky that they were born in Muslim countries got me convinced that Muslims are so closed-minded and forgot that there are many wonderful people on this planet who are not Muslims. I think Islam is the worst thing that happened to humanity. It pushes Muslim’s backwards and that is why there is no single Muslim country is advanced or even civilized! Also on the question of prayer, they say if you do not pray 5 times a day you will be burned in hell for ever! I tried prayer of course when I was a Muslim, but I did not feel anything, I felt I am just exercising or in the Gym, I felt I am like a robot. No feeling at all. This is pure brainwashing. Now I am not sure if there is God or Not, the theory of evolution blew my mind and the fact that there are so many religions in the world and so many problems in the world made me believe that Man created God not the other way around.

    Hussein, Egypt, now an agnostic

    9/11 probably opened my eyes. I realized that Islam at its best couldn’t re-invent itself or adapt to the changing world. I realized also, its the reason for all failures of Arabs and Muslims. Yet Islam is apologetic to every medieval notion, the way it treats women, other non-believers and religions, solving simple problems of life other than Halal/Haraam and just branding others as blasphemous. This religion goes against my mind and values, that is why I left it.

    Ahmed BenKerishan, United Arab Emirates,,

  • October 18, 2012 2:40 am

    How idot is Ansur? Here muslim girls have shared their life experiences based on cruelty and attrocities in the muslim community by males in the name of Islam and also pointed out evil thereof.
    This filthy mind person blaming Indians? No doubt, he is talibani mentality hard core terrorist? Every body is fake for him, except himself? Infact fake is his own identity and fake muslim, just treating females subject to all cruelties. Indian muslims are better than any other muslims of different countries. India is a second largest muslim populated country.Bastard hold your toungue?
    Stop writing all non sense here.

  • Ansur
    October 16, 2012 5:32 pm

    Amazed at the PROPAGANDA against Islam and Muslim.
    Shows how much of a coward you Idnians really are and your hidden agenda to defame Islam.

    The best and most amusing is how you Indians take on Muslim names to posts to give more weight to your response.

    Very shallow and deceitful people and a reflection that something is missing in your petty life.

    Why Islam will always prevail, what you do today and how you defame Islam and Muslims is no diffrent to the idol worshipping pagan Arabs.

    They got no where and people realised the truth.
    When they do they will appreciate Islam.

    You people are sad, cowardly, deceitful and shameful.

    Its a prize for you to post a Hindu boy marries a Muslim in India because thats the extent of hate you have towards Muslims and based on centuries and centuries of inveriority complex.

    I pity you people truly do.

    • Aryan
      October 17, 2012 12:28 am

      Looking at you we can clearly see how much racist you are. Unlike islam Muslims girls are given freedom to marry hindu or any religion guy. But people like you who want to play with there life and misguide them.

      we Hindus believes in equality not racist like islam, which approves honor kill ! You are disgrace and inhuman to see Muslim girls with freedom to marry with someone they love!

  • Suzanne
    October 16, 2012 11:18 am

    Hello everyone,

    Thank you for the encouraging comments 🙂 As a female in the muslim community we experience Islam in a different way compared to the males. So obviously there are many muslim men who will not understand our position and opinions. Look at Saudi Arabia where women get treated like children but convicted like adults when they do something against the sharia law. In Iran women are no longer allowed to pursue studies in engineering or business courses.

    It is crucial to make the position of muslim women stronger in order to create equal rights between men and woman. YES, men and women are different when compared to each other BUT they are equal to each other. So this does not mean a muslim woman cannot educate herself, travel or work for herself. Having equal rights for women is not only important for the development of young girls and women but it will eventually be good for the economy of a country too.

    Im sure there are some good things written about women in the Koran and the prophet has also stated that a girl/woman has her right to educate herself. Just like our dear Malala is standing up for.
    The taliban should not even be considered muslims because they are uneducated and brainwashed men which originated from pakistan. So i hope you guys think the same about the taliban.

    Furthermore, lets not have discussions about which religion is better than the other. There are many other websites for these kind of discussions. Religion is something personal and you cannot force it upon another person.

    I hope many other liberal muslims just like me will stand up for the equal and well deserved right for girls and women all over the world. I highly respect young girls like Malala who even risk their life to raise their voice for their rights and i hope she gets the Nobel price next year!

    • Satyen
      October 16, 2012 9:24 pm

      It’s not the first time that Taliban has come into existence. Read the history of Islam and you will see it rising over and oover again. Let’s try to see where the philosophy of Talibanism gets inspiration from. Try to get rid of the inspirational source of Taliban and the Muslim women will be emancipated. The worst thing is happening now as even the best of minds with highest education are joining the Talibanic forces. It’s high time we reflected on this perennial issue. Unfortunately many of the oppressed people are still in the denial phase of the truth.

    • Choice
      December 14, 2012 4:54 pm

      you seem to have no knowldege about religon. This video I would like to share with u and all those eho are interested in marrying hindu boys. Its a bit long but dot u think undersgtanding what he believes in is also important. It is catered mainly to girls willing to marry hindu boys. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIzKgBxzg-I

  • October 14, 2012 6:55 am

    Hello every body.

    According to latest reports, the condition of Malala is satisfactory, her all vital parts are functioning perfectly well, but another 12 hours or so, are critical. It appears that in case she is needed to be flown to abroad, Govt. is ready to do so.

    Its a great satisfaction. She is an asset for female community.
    May God bless her speedy recovery.

  • October 14, 2012 1:26 am

    Dear Satyen,

    Very good suggestion,but how to break this nexus which is predominantly existing in countries like Pakistan, Afganistan, where terrorists have a strong hold.

    Only Amir like person shall be accepting grooms like Muhammad for their daughters, sisters, otherwise no sensible person would like his name on their lips.

    One good thing is that due to IT revolution, muslim sisters are awakening through various awareness programmes and cultural activities. Isolated incidents may happen any where in the world, but preaching, 72 virgins, two witnesses needed to seek justice, domestic violence, sexual assault, 4 wives concepts as almighty,s message, they are henious crimes against mankind.

  • Satyen
    October 13, 2012 4:48 pm

    Malala told him in broken words before falling unconscious, “Don’t worry, Baba. I am going to be fine and victory will be ours,”.

    http://news.yahoo.com/conversations-malala-yousafzai-girl-stood-taliban-133500248.html

  • Satyen
    October 13, 2012 12:00 pm

    Malala Yousufzai is the symbol of resergent women who will electrify the dormant power of the sensible Muslim women/men and uproot the warriors of Muhammad such as Talibans. Let’s pray to Allah to give us strength to spread his compassion and destroy the hypocrites.

    Allahu Akbar: Pray only Allah, no slavery to Muhammad

  • Sushant
    October 13, 2012 12:00 pm

    Suzzane , wish you have your way… after all its your life. I can assure you , that world will be a better place to live , if we are liberals, non imposing and good human. Dont know much about Islam , but can tell you one thing for sure, that the religion calling itself the best is only a comparison, it cant be a way of life and also cant be a way to discover yourself and God. Have a happy life ahead.

  • October 13, 2012 11:52 am

    The shooting of Malala Yousufzai along with two classmates while they were on their way home from school Tuesday horrified people in Pakistan and internationally. It has been followed by an outpouring of support for a girl who earned the enmity of the Taliban for publicizing their acts and speaking about the importance of education for girls.

    The Taliban have claimed responsibility for the shooting, saying that the girl was promoting “Western thinking.” Late on Thursday, a spokesman for one of the group’s branches in the country’s north said the top leadership of the Taliban’s Swat Valley chapter decided two months ago to kill Yousufzai in a carefully planned attack after her family ignored repeated warnings.

  • October 13, 2012 9:10 am

    Hi sisters,

    Malala, an innocent 14 year old school girl,raising voice against the talibani activities, was hit by talibani bullets and lying in a critical condition.

    Please pray for her survival and speedy recovery.
    God bless her.

  • Satyen
    October 13, 2012 9:09 am

    All enlightened Muslim women and Men,

    Though you might have got your love, your responsibility is not yet over. In fact it has increased many fold as you are the only hope for those remaining Muslim girls who have not yet seen the light of this freedom, passing their life behind the burqa/Naqab and are forced to live a miserable life. Will you all leave them in this condition which you all know how pathetic it is? Please raise your voice where ever you see injustice against them around your family, relatives or friends. Charity begins at home and the best place to do is the people around you who you can influence for the betterment. My suggestion is as follows:

    1. Education must be allowed to them freely
    2. No circumcision to any girl/boy child until maturity (age 18/21).
    3. No Naqab/Burka
    4. No marriage to Muhammad like husbands (aged,polygamist etc.)
    Nothing against Islam but how many sensible people today would
    chose Muhammad to be the groom of their daughters/sisters. Now it’s time to discard hypocracy and come to the open. Utmost respect to Allah but no to Muhammad (La ilaha Allalaha – Shahada should stop here).

    To summarize: Utmost respect to Allah but no slavery to Muhammad.

  • October 13, 2012 3:46 am

    Hello every one,

    Thanking our bold muslim sisters for putting factual evils and other discriminatory, cruel and defametary remarks, traditions and practices.
    Please continue to write more so that our new generation females should live a blissful life.I had already told that Quran is not for females, as it contains all sorts of evils and cruelty against woman.

    God bless you all

  • Afreen
    October 13, 2012 1:56 am

    Hi, I am Afreen, an iranian girl, postgraduated in abroad,in journalism and public relations. I am deeply touched the various inhuman treatment meted out to the female community in Islam, like (1) ten operessive rules of Quran against women (ii) Rapist and murderer treated as prophet, messenger of Lord (iii) circumcision of females brutually (iv) two witnesses needed by a female to seek justice(v)Imams and Maulvies using islam for sexual assualt against females (vi) 72 virgins for males in Jannat etc. What is this all nonsense?

    My life story is that I am married with a Hindu Nepali boy, settled in Kathmandu, maintaining my religion but not that way, also visiting Hindu temples, like Pashupati Nath etc.

    I am glad that our muslim sisters are raising their voices against discrimination and brutuality in the name of islam.

    This comment is moved to https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3157

    • Tara
      August 14, 2013 6:47 am

      Hi afreen, I am iranian, I live abroad.
      my boyfriend is a Hindu. He is an Iyer. I need some help to know obstacles we may have ahead!
      Can you please help me with that if you have any experience?!

    • September 29, 2015 2:00 am

      hi Afreen,I m also an Iranian girl going to marry an indian jain guy ,but i dont know what it will be as my parents and near ones are so much scolding me and warning me about marriage to foreigners?!

      Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=10602

  • October 12, 2012 10:38 am

    Hi Satyen,
    I dont understand why do you seek opinion of Amir, about women,s position in Jannat? He has got a very filthy mind, a terrorsit, supporter of rapist, just barking liking a mad dog. May God bless him a female life, circumcised, raped by a 59 years old shaitan,and remains bleeding throughout life.

    • Satyen
      October 12, 2012 1:35 pm

      @ Amir,

      I wish I could respect Muhammad but for the Hadiths. Hadiths have painted him in such a way that I have lost all my respect for him. You tell me honestly, how many sensible people today would chose Muhammad to be the groom of their daughters/sisters. I doubt if you chose one for your daughter/sister. Though he might have merits, but demerits overshadow them all.

      I adore Christ and Buddha, Mahavir, Nanak etc. and other prophets of other religions because the strength of their character. Probably Muhammad might have been similar to them but his life history has been hijacked and he has been depicted as role model of the terrorists. In fact, he was supposedly a good man before he started revealing Quraan. One can easily see the marked differences in his life style in his pre and post Quraanic life.

      I partially agree with you that some of the Hindus are straying away from their Hindu life styles and it’s not always for the good. But Hinduism gives the guidelines only and you can live your life as you wish as long as it is not against the good of the humaniity. However, Rampant sex is a matter of concern and it can make us the beast. So we must give them education to restrain their senses. And Hinduism has put a lot of stress for restraining the senses.

      In general, though the Hindus are westernising but they are not being Christianised per se.

      Shiv and Krishn are the manifestations of Omnipotent and omnipresent God.

      Five brothers married with a single woman. Yes it happened but was nowhere recommended. Is it worse than a single man marrying 13 women including a 6 year and daughter-in-law? What a gender discrimination!

      Why do the Hindus worship private part of the body? It’s the ignorance of the Muslims and the evangelist Christians who misunderstood the Shiv/Jyotirling worship. Shiv linga represents the infinite pillar of light representing the infinite God(Jyotir ling – Ling means mark or symbol and Jyoti means light). For details see in Ling Puran or Shiv Puran.

      I agree that usually parents should teach the children. But when the children grow up, they may acquire better understanding. So ideally, both should consult each other before coming to a conclusion. In case of discord, even children take their decision if the decision is going to affect their lives more. Everybody has a right to lead a blissful life and decide his/her faith. Others can ony help in taking informed decisions.

    • Satyen
      October 12, 2012 1:53 pm

      @ Nigar Bano,

      Thanks for the friendly chide to me. In fact I didn’t know the status of women in Jannat as per Islaam. So I asked him out of curiosity but he has not responded me fully.

      Though I am poles apart ideologically yet I request you not to curse anybody. I want to see everybody happy. In fact he is blinded by the ideology propagated by Muhammad and he considers him ideal or infallible. On the other hand it pains me to see my Muslim mothers/sisters/daughters in the present condition. I want to help them within my limited capacity.

      This circumcision must be banned till the age of maturity and those inflicting it on the children, should be punished. None including the parents have the right to disfigure the children’s physique.

  • October 12, 2012 10:19 am

    Hi BIG,

    Nice to see your comments. Thanks for writing for the noble cause. You are right to point out that Amir should have born as female in the muslim family and as a female she should have been circumcised.

    Female genital mutilation (FGM) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.

    The practice is mostly carried out by traditional circumcisers, who often play other central roles in communities, such as attending childbirths. However, more than 18% of all FGM is performed by health care providers, and this trend is increasing.

    FGM is recognized internationally as a violation of the human rights of girls and women. It reflects deep-rooted inequality between the sexes, and constitutes an extreme form of discrimination against women. It is nearly always carried out on minors and is a violation of the rights of children. The practice also violates a person’s rights to health, security and physical integrity, the right to be free from torture and cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment, and the right to life when the procedure results in death.

  • October 12, 2012 9:23 am

    Amir,

    According to Islam, women must provide at least two male witnesses if they are to take any case to court. Should a woman in the Muslim countries which judge according to Sharia thus have the guts to report a rape, it would be impossible to win the case, as any possible male witnesses to the rape would most likely have been involved in the assault themselves.

    In reality, a large part of the world’s almost 700 million Muslim women are thus without any real source of protection against sexual assaults by family members or other men in the surrounding environment. Only too often, this is exploited by Muslim men. When it comes to considering the actual wishes and desires of the women, the fact that a woman has any desire at all is frowned upon in many Muslim countries, even to the point of cutting off the erogenous parts of the female genitals preferably before puberty is reached. The New York Times thus related in the article ‘A cutting Tradition’ on the 20th of January, that 96 percent of all girls in the world’s most heavily populated Muslim country, Indonesia, are circumcised before they turn 14. Disgusting!

    So much cruelty with facts have been described, still you favour the evils of Prophet,a rapist, murderer,who did not spare 9year old innocent girl.Really your close female relatives of 9 years need to meet same sexual assault.

    • believer in god
      October 12, 2012 9:46 am

      dear Nigar ,people like amir can just talk.bla bla bla.when it comes to action they just sit like dumb asses.what culture is he talking about he only knows.he needs to be born as a female in a muslim country to know the reality of this bullshit thoughts in the name of religion.ur religion makes u vulnerable to all sorts of atrocities.until the women of these nations dont come together nothing will happen.i feel sick of such a religion where women are treated like animals.religion rules upon moral values in most islamic countries.so they are dumb asses who dont know to differntiate between right and wrong.pity them.women have to wake up now.Amir just can say bla bla like a sheep.

  • Amir
    October 12, 2012 8:42 am

    “Hindu is a very liberal lifestyle with a lot of freedom”
    Satyen Dear,
    Do you know customs for a hindu? How much?
    Truth is Hinduism is perishing and just imitating life style of christians. All hindu seem to be diverted from their religion and blind follower of western life style.
    Christians even forgot their faith and do whatever they like.
    Sexuality has no limit for them.
    Who is shiv? Who is Krishan? Who is Indra?
    Why 5 brothers married a single woman?
    Why you pray secret parts of human body?
    I don’t want to use bad words and you are wise enough to understand.

    “slowly convince your parents”.
    Who has more right to teach, parent to child or child to parent?
    You better teach your parent. 🙂

    “following Muhammad has the potentiality of making the women’s life an unbearable one”
    It is our prophet who uplifted life of women and provided them rights.
    If you disagree, see history of pre-islamic and islamic Arabia.

  • Satyen
    October 12, 2012 6:58 am

    Khurshida, Susanne and Golbahar,

    I think you all are well educated and financially independent. Moreover, you all seem to be liberal minded. So, your soul mate must have these characteristics as you have got. Additionally, he must not be of aggressive nature or womanizer. In your case, religion shouldn’t be a barrier as long as you don’t interfere in the religion of your husbands or force the upbringing of your child.

    The issue of parents is there but as the country of residence is not an Islamic one, it will pose less severe than it would have been the case in an Islamic country. So, take time and handle the case judiciously. Don’t convert any Hindu because they will start behaving as Muslim husbands and there is a possibility of development of the same oppressive attitude in him as you are opposed to. So, let him remain Hindu as it’s a very liberal lifestyle with a lot of freedom. You may or may not adopt this lifestyle depending upon your decision.

    I would suggest, take time and slowly convince your parents. You can start with other family members/friends or relatives who can help you. It’s better to start with any female wo has seen the male restrictions on their lives and don’t other women to undergo the similar way of life.

    Lastly, you have got every right to live a blissfull life and strive to have it. As I always say, believing Allah gives you strength and will make your life happier. However, following Muhammad has the potentiality of making the women’s life an unbearable one. Quraan are the words of Muhammad not of Allah and hence it cannot be considered infallible. In fact I don’t think any woman will like to have a husband who leasds the life of Muhammad (such as polygamy, marrying at age 54 with a child of 6 years, marrying daughter-in-law etc.). It’s time to say no albeit politely but firmly. You have to live your life and suffer the consequences, not others who are advising you.

    You all are the best judge and don’t take my words infallible. Wish you all a blissful married life ahead.

  • rohanmona
    October 12, 2012 6:53 am

    to Suzanne

    i like what you said that you are not expecting yourself to convert and also your boyfriend. Well i hope that everything goes well. I loved when you said you would allow your children to accept religion on their own. Really you are great.

    from

    rohanmona

  • October 12, 2012 5:39 am

    Hi every one,

    How male culprits are defened in the name of religion?

    In New Jersey, a 17 year-old girl had an arranged marriage with an accountant whom she had never met before the wedding. There was no factual dispute that he repeatedly raped and beat her. His defense was that he was simply acting out his rights as an Islamic husband.

    The trial court judge asked the husband’s Imam some questions, and “the Imam testified regarding Islamic Law as it relates to sexual behavior. The Imam confirmed that a wife must comply with her husband’s sexual demands,” said the appellate court opinion in S.D. v. M.J.R., 2 A.3d 412 (N.J. Super., 2010). On that cultural basis, “the judge determined to except defendant from the operation of the State’s statutes as the result of his religious beliefs”, even though the girl testified extensively about her abuse and “Four of the photographs of plaintiff’s body, introduced as exhibits at trial… depict bruising to both of plaintiff’s breasts and to both of her thighs, as well as her swollen, bruised and abraded lips.”

    Fortunately, the New Superior Court reversed the trial court, and said that the trial court should not have made an exception to criminal law based on Islamic religious creeds, “In doing so, the judge was mistaken.”

    In Nebraska, a 13 year-old girl was given in marriage by her father to 34 year-old Al-Hussaini. They had an Islamic wedding ceremony and, says the appellate court opinion: “After the ceremony, the victim was taken to her new home with Al-Hussaini where intercourse immediately took place. The victim stated she did not consent to intercourse with Al-Hussaini. The victim’s sister, age 14, was also ‘married’ on the same day to another Iraqi man…. Al-Hussaini stated that he is not angry at the girl and feels that he did not do anything wrong, as arranged marriages with young girls are customary in his religion.”

    The Nebraska Court of Appeals rejected Al-Hussaini’s culturally-based explanation for the crime and upheld his conviction for first degree sexual assault on a child. (State v. Al-Hussaini, 579 N.W.2d 561, (Neb. App., 1998))

    Respond

  • October 12, 2012 4:46 am

    Hi dear Golbahar,

    Perhaps you are in right track, but be careful to identify and assess all traits of your life partner. Regarding islamic rules against females according to Islamic Sharia law:-

    Women are considered whores if they dress even nicely.
    According to Islam a whore asks to be raped, abused, tortured beaten and turned into sex slaves.
    Since it’s the women’s fault for tempting the man, men are not liable.
    The Muslim rapists are even using this as their defense if caught.

    It is an epidemic that is even more profound than we know because:

    Muslim women don’t report rape because it brings shame on their family and they can be stoned for adultery.

    Non-Muslim women have their families threatened or are kidnapped into forced marriage (sex slavery).

    Be safe always.
    God bless you.

    Perhaps you are in right track, but be careful to identify and assess all traits of your life partner. Regarding islamic rules against females I can only comment that

  • Golbahar
    October 12, 2012 4:19 am

    Hi every body. I am Golbahar, an Iranian muslim girl, M.Sc (Mico bio), working in a Phraceutical Company in Europe. My parents putting me pressure on islamic traditions married to a Pakistani guy. That was my biggest mistake of life. First day of marriage he started putting restrictions on me in the name of Quran. Claiming to be a software engineer, just a technician, assembling computers. After facing tortureful life, with a great difficulty got rid of him.

    I have seen this forum incidentally and read so many stories of muslim girls and deeply convinced that muslim guys in the name of islam, snatch basic freedoms of their wives. I am fed up with reading horrible and miserable life stories of muslim girls. Several christian boys have offered me to marry, but I am hesitant to their life styles.

    I am now seeking a like minded, liberal and professionally qualified Hindu guy atleast 5-10″ height to be my soul mate till life.Though I am in touch with some of them, yet no firm decision taken.

    • suma
      October 13, 2012 1:03 pm

      Golbahar, i know Iranians well as I lived in Iran during 1990s, very nice people alright. But the mullahs have destroyed the fabric of freedoom loving Iranians, who are million times more civilized than their arab neighbors. Please visit a fellow Iranian blog faithfreedom.org run by Ali Sina. Hindus have married Iranians and are living happily. Pakistanis are worse than arabs, they are brainwashed from birth into wahabi and salafi mindset. They kill shias, hindus etc with impunity.You are lucky to live in Europe or anywhere outside an Islamic republic for that matter.Hindus dont make your life restrictive in the name of faith, they respect other person’s faith contrary to muslims.

  • Khurshida
    October 12, 2012 1:10 am

    Hi Admn.

    I am Khurshida from asian muslim country. My father is a hard core islamist. I have studied with non-muslim guys in a western country and got influenced by their life styles, behaviour and food habits, simpleness, liberal and respectuful. I am in the final year of master degree in electronics and also working in a company on part time basis. In the same company met with a Hindu boy, who is my immediate boss. I am in love with him and he wants to marry me without chaninging any one of us our religion. He is smart, loving, well mannered and pleasing personality. Soon I shall be getting full time job on regular basis in the same company. My parents are not against my working but they want to marry me in the muslim community only. I have observed that muslim guys are not compatible with my education or in the life style. They are mostly islamists, believing restrictions on females. That I donot like. I wish to live gracefully and respectfully.Hindu boy is 100% compatible as my life partner.Two times I have gone with him on tour to other country, and found him very loving and caring.Though we remained together 4 nights in the hotel on tour, he did not attempt to have sex with me, prior to marriage. He enjoys confidence and reputation in the eyes of top management of the company.I have made up my mind that I shall marry him only as we cannot live without each other now.

    Seeking positive comments from readers.

    Reply to Khurshida at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3189

  • October 12, 2012 12:35 am

    Hi dear,

    Dont get pressurized to choose your partner. You are independent and so marry, as suggested by Admn. Islamic religion is very harsh for females, irrespective of many things preached by mullahs and maulvies.Reality is far away.

  • October 11, 2012 11:37 pm

    Susanne,
    We honor your thoughts of accepting your bf as he is (not convert him to something he is not). Further, it is great that you are thinking of teaching your children best from both religions.
    Please come and guide other girls here, best way to learn is to teach! Best wishes for you.

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