A Sikh girl who has converted to Islam

G says: October 26, 2012 at 12:31 am

Hi I’m muslim man marrying a Sikh girl who has converted to Islam. She didn’t change name. But on the wedding card she wants her name to have Kaur in there. But it’s not accepted by my parents. Even her surname which is obvious that its not a muslim name is not accepted by my parents. So it’s only her first name. She doesn’t like this at all and won’t accept this as its her given name. Pls help what to do. -G

Amir says:

If she is muslim then what is the problem in marriage. Name has not much significance, be it Khan, be it Kaur. If she likes her name..keep it as she want. -Amir.

Admin says:

Dear G, you are starting your marriage life on a wrong foundation. She has not converted to Islam, she has only “fake”-converted to Islam without realizing what Islam is all about. If she has converted to be a true Muslim, she would not be fighting for her name. Ask her to read (this) and [that] and Hindu Girl articles to make her realize reality of life.

Further, it is possible that she may have different expectations from you, like you will take your Muslim children to Gurudwara and be part of Sikh religious celebrations while at her parents home. We don’t think she is a “pure” Muslim yet and is ready to give up her Sikh faith easily. You should read the Muslim boy article.

In this days and age of high divorce rates, we highly recommend you do not rush into marriage but take time to think through all issues of interfaith marriage life. May be you should ask her to spend 6 months at a madrasa to be a real Muslim. She may have “fake” converted, but now you have to do good work making her an “obidient” true Muslim girl before you marry her. If not, you have deeper troubles on your way.

We have many good consultants and they will share their views soon. Best wishes. -Admin.

Readers, should smart Muslim parents make sure if she is a Muslim or Sikh? If a Sikh has fake-converted to Islam just for marriage, how they will know? If this is a fake-conversion, will it brings more problems in their Muslim married life?

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36 Responses to “A Sikh girl who has converted to Islam”

  1. beena says:

    i am a converted sikh. and islam doesn’t ask you to change your name if you convert. you only have to change your name if the meaning of you name is not good.

  2. john says:

    plus were is allah hahahahahahahahahaa when the jews who
    are 14 million keep beating the day lights out of the
    muslim armies and keep beating the day lights out of
    them considering their are over a billion muslims
    and only 14 million jews

  3. john says:

    islam was spread by the sword google islamic conquest of
    iran afghanistan and so on as well if you are pakistani
    then your ancestors were either raped into islam and
    converted by the sword into islam by the mughals
    who came from turkey and spread islam by the
    sword

    plus mohommad had sex with a nine year old
    girl so he was a phedaphile meaning he
    would be in prision in the west with
    a boyfriend named baba

  4. Hello,

    Can you please define, what is 72 virgins in jannat for males?
    I could not understand.

  5. Muslim Truth says:

    Realities of islamic religion:-

    (i) ten operessive rules of Quran against women
    (ii) Rapist and murderer treated as prophet, messenger of Lord
    (iii) circumcision of females brutually
    (iv) two witnesses needed by a female to seek justice
    (v) Imams and Maulvies using islam for sexual assualt against females
    (vi) 72 virgins for males in Jannat etc. What is this all nonsense?

  6. Harnam says:

    Jo bole so nihal,sat sri akal,

    I wish to share my life story also. I have business of packed food in Vancoouver, Canada. One muslim girl used to work us and soon I fell in love with her and ultimately married. Our age was 28/27 respectivelyl that time. Now we have twins male and both using turban. No problem with her. Our business flourishing.

    My other Hindu friend, who has the business about 10 kms.away from our house, has also married her sister. Both are enjoying and next month expecting to become parents.

    Satsri akal

  7. Kulwant says:

    Satinam wahe guru,

    I am from Toronto and in love with a muslim girl. I am running agriculture business and dairy products. Almost same business her
    parents are doing. She is Sabia Qureshi and ready to marry me even if my parents insist her to covert to sikhism.

    She is very helpful in business and accommodative too.

    Sat sri akal

  8. Santji says:

    Wahe guruji ka khalsa, wahe guruji ki fateh,

    Illmotivated and false story by a muslim terrorist. Entire world is disturbed by these terrorists. They are making false propaganda.
    Their women are marrying outside muslim community, it is a well known fact.

    • Sikhni says:

      A true sikh has to know about shahidi!! Hamare guru ne shahidi kyu di he kyunki ye kutte musalman hame musalman banana chahte thai!! Par hamare guru haar nahi mane!! Vo larhe hamare liye !! Jo sikh musalman banta he vo marh kyu nahi jata ? Jaye or guru granth sahib parhe !! Sikhism is best ;)

  9. Amir says:

    Someone posted Long article. I will keep my answer short..

    1. Women circumcision -
    rituals of any country and Islam are different.
    rather than writing long article if some proof from Quran and Sahih-hadiths has been put, then would have been better. So bring authentic proofs and don’t discuss practices of perticular country.
    In india and other countries Matam is performed in Muharram, but it is not the part of Islam. It is public will, neither it is supported not forbidden.

    2. Wearing burqa –
    Mandatory is cover the body as much mentioned (from the men with whom marriage is possible.) wearing burqa is optional.
    Vitamin D can be obtained in home as well. This is nonsense to say remove you clothes when go outside for Vitamin D.
    would you like to wear bikini and resting on beach for sunlight.
    Maybe you but not a respectful girl.

    3. Honour killing –
    I don’t find it in Islam. what i find is solutions. Islam supports to marry early. Marriage has made very easy in Islam. Men and Women are encouraged to be chaste in Quran. Islam urges for a shameful society rather than shameless.
    Shameless people perform extra-marital sex and they are less in muslims.

    4. Wife beating -
    you have answered it through Quran – “As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For God is Most High, great (above you all).” (Surah 4:34 Yusuf Ali)

    So what would be the treatment of a wife who has ill-conduct and disloyal? I need your answer. By the way Quran has made beating last resort.

    5. Rape -
    Rape is least in muslims. Prostitution is least in muslims.
    “she must produce 4 male witnesses to justify her accusations. ”
    where did u learn this??
    Most rape cases are seen in so called free and liberal society.
    they promote women showing their body. They make porn movies which encourages rape. They promote bear and rave-parties to encourage rape.
    Are you blind to see truth and pick footnotes from news papers to blame Islam.

    • vaulakh says:

      Muhammad was a rapist and murderer ,please read Truth About Muhammad(book,based on Islamic evidence),or books/articles written by ex-muslims.Just know the truth!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Jew says:

      Aamir your responces show lack of intellect and sheer lack of secular un biased thinking, below is way:-

      you said “1. Women circumcision -rituals of any country and Islam are different.rather than writing long article if some proof from Quran and Sahih-hadiths has been put, then would have been better. So bring authentic proofs and don’t discuss practices of perticular country.
      In india and other countries Matam is performed in Muharram, but it is not the part of Islam. It is public will, neither it is supported not forbidden.”

      Real answer:-
      No non muslim country follows this practice. Thia is ONLY done by muslims in muslim country, so that women cannot enjoy sex, as sex according to muslims is bad( strange that muslims produce kids by having sex, double standard) so go and research about muslim country indonasia- where they truly follow quran and circumsise women and men with blade( blade is what mulana say to use), plus muslim girls are beheaded for having masturbate ( which usually humans do, super humans like muslims are killed for) great!

      matam is what muslims do, all around, non muslims never do matam, since shia muslims are killed and isolated by you sunni muslims, they arw forced live in few counties like iran and india etc…so your answer tbats its not part of Islam does not mean it was invented by non muslims, its done by Muslim and thats the truth, you cant misguide shias or non muslims.

      you said :-
      “2. Wearing burqa – Mandatory is cover the body as much mentioned (from the men with whom marriage is possible.) wearing burqa is optional.
      Vitamin D can be obtained in home as well. This is nonsense to say remove you clothes when go outside for Vitamin D. would you like to wear bikini and resting on beach for sunlight. Maybe you but not a respectful girl.”

      Real logical answer-
      1- chritianity, hinduism, judaism or any peaceful religon does not teaches to wear provocative dresses, or appear like prostitute. Non muslims girls wear modest dress. So may be your islam says “wear bikini and resting on beach for sunlight”. Our god does not says these idiotic things. As you say burqa is optional, many islamic men kill,beat muslims women to wear burqa, if you need proof this then you are a pure idiot.

      2- it was Christians scientists who invented, vitamins, not your muslims, as a facts, muslims are not capable of anything constructive, all muslim counties can do is buy or steal things, even are stealing things you can modify it , because that will need intelligences, few muslim named scientists were declared kafir by muslim organisations, because they cant do all that is required by your rules.

      “3. Honour killing – I don’t find it in Islam. what i find is solutions. Islam supports to marry early. Marriage has made very easy in Islam. Men and Women are encouraged to be chaste in Quran. Islam urges for a shameful society rather than shameless.
      Shameless people perform extra-marital sex and they are less in muslims.

      Real answer:-

      You will not find honor killing islam, because its done by muslims, not uslam, do you understand the difference, playing with words does not changes the truth. islam says kill the girl who brought shame to family, ( i can show u proof, but i think you are intelligent enough to get it) so your islam says to kill the daughter if she bring shame, muslims interpret this as kill the girl who married a chrisitan, hindu, sikh etc…so you must be a real dumb to not find honor killing done by muslim. in developed and secular world of ours, we judge the person by his deeds not by his religious deeds, ok so plz atleast think what your write( misguide)

      you said:- “ Wife beating – you have answered it through Quran – “As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For God is Most High, great (above you all).” (Surah 4:34 Yusuf Ali)

      So what would be the treatment of a wife who has ill-conduct and disloyal? I need your answer. By the way Quran has made beating last resort.”

      Real answer:- so your quran says to beat the wife as last resort if she does ill conduct, how do you ensure that the muslim husband will use it at the last? No answer rite, yes your qurans teaching is as idiotic as fake as possible. Tell me can women beat the husband if he shows ill comduct? Hahaa how does that taste, your own medicine. So first your quran says man is bigger than women, because women is half intelligent, with that half intelligent you expecf her to behave, comduct nicely, which is impossible, and then you quran says men to beat if she does not conducts well! My god its just nonsense. By the way your Qur’an definition of conduct is of refusal of sex to husband, so its mainly aboit sex.

      Christian,jews Hindus sikhs believe in equality men and women is same. See the difference, we dont kill our girls.

      You said:- “5. Rape – Rape is least in muslims. Prostitution is least in muslims.“she must produce 4 male witnesses to justify her accusations. ”
      where did u learn this?? Most rape cases are seen in so called free and liberal society.they promote women showing their body. They make porn movies which encourages rape. They promote bear and rave-parties to encourage rape.

      real.answer- bible, geeta, guru grant sahib does not promotes showing body, rave party, porn movies, where dis you read this. You muslim come to our free and libral country by immigration, why domt you immigrante to arab country? Coz your arab brothers, hate you rape your mawali girl, and you are treated as 3rd class. So shut the fuck up you muslim idiot. By the way, rape is maximums in muslims but due to 4 witness who sholud have seen intercourse to prove it, muslims women does not report it. What an idoit rule- you quran should use something called medical examination to confirm rape not witness, idiotic rule of quran.

      In free and libral countries most of rapes are done by muslims only, search who does maximum rape, its muslims, in UK, france, spain and india…so you are a total dumb to write you idiotic answers. Come prepared next time. You cant misguide everyone.

  10. believer in God says:

    chand has done a good job of bringing the above article.n Indian i want to sacrifice u as a respect to God the great.because u are a goat.all the bad words are made for u and other muslim guys like u.specially the mullahs and imams(assholes).if women would have divine powers then today not a single imam would be alive.i wish it happens soon.then only the world will be free from this stigma.that day will come soon.these imams should be eliminated from the society.and US and europe should hang all the terrorists and those rapists(mostly muslims) and also torturer of women in front of public.

  11. Chand Osmani says:

    Hello every one,

    Islam and the suffering of women

    There are many things that go on in Islam regarding women that are barbaric. Untold suffering has been heaped upon women due to these practices. There seems to be no one in the world of Islam that is willing to speak out and bring an end to these practices. Imams are silent, the women’s movements of the world are silent, particularly women’s studies in the universities, and reform seems impossible given the secondary position of women in the Qur’an and the hadiths.

    There are many practices that demean women and subject them to barbaric and evil conditions.

    1. Female Genital Mutilations

    Consider the following news story:

    TUZ KHURMATU, Iraq – Sheelan Anwar Omer, a shy 7-year-old Kurdish girl, bounded into her neighbor’s house with an ear-to-ear smile, looking for the party her mother had promised.

    There was no celebration. Instead, a local woman quickly locked a rusty red door behind Sheelan, who looked bewildered when her mother ordered the girl to remove her underpants. Sheelan began to whimper, then tremble, while the women pushed apart her legs and a midwife raised a stainless-steel razor blade in the air. “I do this in the name of Allah!” she intoned.

    As the midwife sliced off part of Sheelan’s genitals, the girl let out a high-pitched wail heard throughout the neighborhood. As she carried the sobbing child back home, Sheelan’s mother smiled with pride.

    “This is the practice of the Kurdish people for as long as anyone can remember,” said the mother, Aisha Hameed, 30, a housewife in this ethnically mixed town about 100 miles north of Baghdad. “We don’t know why we do it, but we will never stop because Islam and our elders require it.”

    More than 60 percent of women in Kurdish areas of northern Iraq have been circumcised, according to a study conducted this year. In at least one Kurdish territory, 95 percent of women have undergone the practice, which human rights groups call female genital mutilation.

    (“For Kurdish Girls, a Painful Ancient Ritual,” by Amit R. Paley for the Washington Post, December 29, 2008)

    Ayaan Hirsi Ali, in her book, INFIDEL, describes her experience as a young female.

    “In Somalia, like many countries across Africa and the Middle East, little girls are made “pure” by having their genitals cut out. There is no other way to describe this procedure, which typically occurs around the age of five. After the child’s clitoris and labia are carved out, scraped off, or, in more compassionate areas, merely cut or pricked, the whole area is often sewn up, so that a thick band of tissue forms a chastity belt made of the girl’s own scarred flesh. A small hole is carefully situated to permit a thin flow of pee. Only great force can tear the scar tissue wider, for sex.

    “Female genital mutilation predates Islam. Not all Muslims do this, and a few of the peoples who do are not Islamic. But in Somalia, where virtually every girl is excised, the practice is always justified in the name of Islam. Uncircumcised girls may be possessed by devils, fall into vice and perdition, and becomes whores. Imams never discourage the practice: it keeps girls pure.

    “Many girls die during or after their excision, from infections, Other complications cause enormous, more or less lifelong pain.” (New York: Free Press, 2007, p. 31)

    There are testimonies of Muslim girls who are frightened to death of their wedding night when they are forced to have sex under these conditions. Not only is sex a problem, but delivering a child through these conditions is abnormal. One would think that Muslim men would rise up and condemn the practice for there are men who married women and could not enter the woman on their wedding night. This reflects poorly on a man’s image of himself.

    I consulted a friend who is an ob-gyn doctor and asked his views on the implication of this mutilation. He wrote:

    “I looked up Frank Netter’s drawings of the procedure (Netter is a well honored MD/medical artist who is famous for his drawings of anatomical and surgical subjects). Netter shows various degrees of mutilation involved with female “circumcision”. It may involve “only” a partial removal of the anterior labia minora and clitoral hood, to the total removal of the labia minora, partial removal of the labia majora and extirpation of the total clitoris. This is the same as we do for cancer of the vulva (called a simple vulvectomy). In both cases with “circumcision”, the labia are the sutured TOGETHER! (with vulvectomy we attempt to resuture residual anatomy to appropriate residual anatomy). The net results leaves a nearly impenetrable vulva…or what I would think an actually impenetrable vulva. The following are some possible/probable side effects:

    1) Physical obstruction of the introitus may lead to a condition of hematocolpos and hematometria…the accumulation of menstrual blood in the vagina and endometrial cavity of the uterus which would cause(likely) sterility as well as endometriosis (a condition of small implants of endometrium in the lower abdominal cavity that causes pockets of blood in the abdomen and severe pain in the abdomen…and even potential death should the enlarging blood cysts rupture)

    2) A misdirection of the urinary stream–the labia minora fundamentally direct or point the flow of urine. This side effect is worse than it sounds…it may cause the smell of urine on the person so effected.

    3) Severe scarring of the vulva which would lead to a predisposition to severe tearing during childbirth. This (tearing) could lead to severe hemorrhage and the formation of huge hematomas of the vulva…I’ve seen them the size of a football and require several units of blood transfusion. As a corollary of this, scarring could cause dystocia (an increased disability, or even inability, to deliver.)

    4) Infection at the time of the procedure or shortly thereafter…infection with attempted intercourse or any trauma that might lacerate the scar tissue.

    5) Massive dyspareunia (pain with intercourse) due to the scar tissue. This would probably be a lifetime problem unless obviated by surgery. Normal sexual function would likely be impossible.

    6) The psychological effects would be massive. It seems to certainly have the grotesque psychological side effects as childhood rape has, which often leads to a number of problems, such as drug and alcohol addiction (high correlation), antisocial behavioral disorders (moderate correlation) and remarkably promiscuous behavior, including prostitution (high correlation)

    7) It has been my observation that many women who are self-described lesbians have had traumatic incidents analogous to this that are associated, in the victim’s opinion, with men.”

    One has to ask about this practice in the minds of people. Did the Creator make a mistake in making females the way they are? Do Muslims feel the need to improve on what He did? Is this not an insult to the Creator? What does this do for the female in terms of sexual pleasure? It is not commanded in the Qur’an, so why not reject the practice? Why do imams not condemn the practice?

    The story of Genesis 1-2 is that God created man and woman. No improvements were necessary. No barbaric operations were ordered. In fact the Hebrews were forbidden to cut the body. “You are the sons of the LORD your God. You shall not cut yourselves or make any baldness on your foreheads for the dead. (Dt. 14:1) In the New Testament we read: “And the God of peace himself sanctify you wholly; and may your spirit and soul and body be preserved entire, without blame at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. “ (I Thess. 5:23 ASV) The body, both male and female, is to be kept in its created state.

    The lone exception is male circumcision which was the sign of Yahweh’s Covenant with Abraham. As such the foreskin was cut, but the organ was not mutilated. Nor does it impose a hardship on the man. This was commanded for the Jewish people only. The Qur’an does not command female cutting. If one attempted to justify the practice from the hadiths it must be remembered they are not “revelation.” Moreover, there are so many fraudulent hadiths that one cannot be sure about using them to justify an evil practice on women.

    It is a horrible sin to mutilate little girls in the name of custom, Allah, religion, or tradition.

    2. Wearing the burqa.

    This is the most extreme form of covering for females. One of the most barbaric examples of this was in March 2002 in Mecca when fifteen girls were killed in a fire at their school. The Saudi Religious police would not allow the girls out of the building without the proper dress. They battled the police and the firemen who were trying to open the schools’s doors. Is this not an evil practice that required the girls to die rather than being seen without the burqa? What kind of value system is this? (Source)

    Can you imagine as a man wearing a tent to cover your whole body and not exposing any part of your body to be viewed by others? Not only is it demeaning to women, it is also unhealthy.

    “Muslim women who wear the burqa in Ireland are at increased risk of pelvic fractures during childbirth because of vitamin D deficiency due to a lack of sunlight, a consultant warns.

    Babies born to women with vitamin D deficiency are also more prone to seizures in their first week of life, according to Dr Miriam Casey, of the Osteoporosis Unit in St James’s hospital in Dublin.

    Casey said she was aware of cases involving pelvic fractures, and warned that these could become more frequent as Ireland’s Muslim population increased. “Ireland’s temperate climate doesn’t have the intense sunlight that keeps burqa-clad women from becoming vitamin D-deficient in their own countries,” she said.

    Vitamin D helps the body to absorb calcium and is crucial for making bones strong. The greatest source is sunlight.

    Casey said the fractures occur at sites of particular weakness which develop in under-mineralised pelvic bones. In these women’s babies, low calcium can cause “serious complications such as seizures, growth retardation, muscle weakness and fractures”.

    “As a toddler, carrying the weight of the torso can force the development of a bow-legged appearance and a waddling gait,” she said. “Later, there can be rickets, which is caused by vitamin D deficiency, with swollen wrists and bones that fail to fuse in adolescence.”

    Darker skins can produce as little as 1% of the vitamin D that fair skins produce. Moreover, studies have found that the rate of many diseases rises the further north one moves, leading researchers to suspect that vitamin D may play a greater role in health than previously thought. (“Ireland too grey for the burqa,” by Colin Gleeson for the Times Online, December 28, 2008)

    It seems that the Creator made us to be exposed to the sun for our health’s sake, but many Muslim cultures require a female to be covered and that is more important to Islam than health. It is irrational to think that only men will be excited by viewing women. Why do not the men cover themselves as required of the women? Women are not without passion. How would a man feel wearing a black tent that covers his entire body and his face covered so no one would recognize him? For more on this, go here and here.

    3. Honor killings

    No one knows the number of “honor killings” that occur each year. The estimates run into the thousands. Frequently the police do not investigate and bring charges against the murderer in Muslim cultures. Honor killings are primarily related to the females who may be suspected of having sex before marriage, flirting with someone, talking to a stranger, failing to serve a meal on time, rape by a relative, cousin, uncle, or brother. There is no limit to the reasons given for honor killings. One of the more notorious honor killings occurred in the Dallas, Texas area where two sisters were killed by their father because they were being too influenced by western culture and music. In many places records are not kept on these murders and that is one of the reasons statistics are not well documented. (*)

    Ayaan Hirsi Ali pressed for an experiment in Holland where figures were not kept. In a time period between Oct. 2004 and May 2005 eleven Muslim girls were killed by their families in just two regions of the country. There are 25 such regions in Holland.

    Shawbo Ali Rauf was a 19 year old Iraqi girl who was murdered by her own in-laws. Her crime was to have an unknown number on her mobile phone. Her “honour killing” is just one in a grotesque series emerging from Iraq, where activists speak of a “genocide” against women in the name of religion. (*)

    In the latest such case, it was reported yesterday that a 17-year-old girl, Rand Abdel-Qader, was stabbed to death last month by her father for becoming infatuated with a British soldier serving in southern Iraq. In Basra alone, police acknowledge that 15 women a month are murdered for breaching Islamic dress codes. Campaigners insist it is a conservative figure. Violence against women is rampant, rising every day with the power of the militias. Beheadings, rapes, beatings, suicides through self-immolation, genital mutilation, trafficking and child abuse masquerading as marriage of girls as young as nine are all on the increase. (*)

    A sixteen-year-old Palestinian girl became pregnant after being raped by her younger brother. Once her condition became known, her family encouraged her older brother to kill her to remove the blemish from their honor. Her brothers, the rapist and the murderer, were exonerated. The girl was blamed. “She made a mistake,” said one of her male cousins. “She had to pay for it.

    Even more horrifically, a four-year-old Palestinian girl, raped by a man in his mid-twenties, was left by her family to bleed to death. They did this because they felt her misfortune would sully their honor. (*)

    “European police report that Islamic honor killings are on the rise. In 2005, for instance, a review by British police of 22 domestic homicides led to 18 of the cases being reclassified as “murder in the name of so-called ‘honor.’” Polls routinely find that a disturbingly large percentage of Muslims – one in 10 according to a 2006 BBC poll – would condone the murder of someone seen to have disrespected their families honor.” (Frontpagemag, Jan.1, 2009)

    The claim is that the female has brought shame to the family. The greater shame is that they have no shame for what they do to the women.

    The Christian response to the issue of shame is that my identity is in Christ, not in my family. Jesus said, “God will bless you when others hate you and won’t have anything to do with you. God will bless you when people insult you and say cruel things about you, all because you are a follower of the Son of Man.” (Luke 6:22 CEV) Revenge is not something a follower of Christ can allow. Christians are told: “Dear friends, don’t try to get even. Let God take revenge. In the Scriptures the Lord says, “I am the one to take revenge and pay them back.” (Rom. 12:19) Moreover, “Don’t let evil defeat you, but defeat evil with good.” (Rom. 12:21)

    The Apostle Peter wrote to the Christians concerning Jesus, “Although he was abused, he never tried to get even. And when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he had faith in God, who judges fairly. Christ carried the burden of our sins. He was nailed to the cross, so that we would stop sinning and start living right. By his cuts and bruises you are healed. You had wandered away like sheep. Now you have returned to the one who is your shepherd and protector. (1 Peter 2:23-25)

    As long as the “shame culture” exists there will be lots of innocent victims put to death. Medical examinations have revealed that innocent girls accused of immorality were still virgins, and the real evil was in the minds of the fathers, or brothers, or relatives. The principle of “innocent until proven guilty” doesn’t seem to operate in the minds of these people.

    4. Wife beating

    The practice of beating a wife is not new in many societies. It may come about because of jealousy, laziness, indifference, or distrust. There are lots of irrational excuses for this in many cultures. Even among Christians there are those who beat their wives.

    There are no religious verses commanding a Christian to beat his wife. Most non-Muslims who beat their wives do not have any religious justification for it. There are Muslim men who do not beat their wives, however, the Muslim context is different. There is a religious directive for it. The Qur’an says, “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because God has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what God would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For God is Most High, great (above you all).” (Surah 4:34 Yusuf Ali’s trans.)

    Pickthall uses the word “scourge them.” Six other translations of the Qur’an use the word “beat them.”

    Obviously this is a command that gets a lot of attention both in and out of Islam. Inside are the defenders saying that it is such a mild beating as with a “toothbrush.” Those outside of Islam have seen the results of the beating of neighbors who have been bruised, battered, thrown against the walls of their apartments. Often nothing happens when the police arrive because the wives will not file charges. So it goes on and on.

    Statistics are hard to come by for obvious reasons. “The Pakistan Institute of Medical Sciences has determined that over ninety percent of Pakistani wives have been struck, beaten, or abused sexually — for offenses on the order of cooking an unsatisfactory meal. Others were punished for failing to give birth to a male child. In Spring 2005, when the East African nation of Chad tried to institute a new family law that would outlaw wife beating, Muslim clerics led resistance to the measure as un-Islamic.”

    Muslim leaders do affirm the view of the Qur’an and teach the idea of beating a disobedient wife.

    On October 5, 2004, France expelled Algerian-born Imam Abdel Qader Bouziane for telling a French magazine that Muslim husbands may beat their wives. This follows the sentencing on January 14 of the Egyptian-born Sheik Muhammad Kamal Mustafa, the imam of the mosque of the Spanish city of Fuengirola, Costa del Sol, for publishing a book that explains that wife-beating is in accordance with Shariah law.

    Sheik Yousuf Qaradhawi, one of the most influential clerics in Sunni Islam and head of the European Council for Fatwa and Research and the International Council of Muslim Clerics, has also advocated wife-beating on multiple occasions in his 1984 book “The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam,” and on his weekly Al Jazeera program, which is popular among the surging number of European Muslims who increasingly look to religious leaders from the Middle East for religious guidance. This is particularly true with the growth of viewers watching Arab TV stations, available on satellite TV in Europe, which frequently airs shows dedicated to teaching a husband how to beat his wife. The following examples on this subject can be viewed at http://www.memritv.org (MEMRI | Friday, November 05, 2004)

    For an extensive treatment on the issue of wife beating go here.

    There are probably many explanations why men do beat their wives. One may be that many marriages are arranged and neither person knows the other. If the marriage has a large age gap as in a 10 year old girl and a 40 year old man the marriage is doomed to have lots of problems. A recent story from Saudi Arabic tells of a girl who was 5 who appeared to be tested for marriage. The doctor denied the test and she could not get married. What companionship is there between two such spans of ages? What is the basis of love in an arranged marriage?

    The lack of education for females is also a source of problems. The Taliban has been burning down schools, threatening people who send their girls to schools, and the end result is an enforced ignorance of the females. Can there be any preparation for marriage in ignorance?

    There will be no change in this situation since the word from Allah and Mohammed is to beat the disobedient wives.

    5. Rape

    In a number of western countries, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Australia, there have been a large increase in the rape of non-Muslim women some as young as a 13 year old Swedish girl gang raped by 5 Kurds. The victims in Australia were called “sluts” or “Aussie pigs.” A Lebanese Sheik Faiz Mohammed blamed the women themselves for wearing skimpy clothing which invites men to rape them. In Copenhagen, Islamic mufti Shahid Mehdi declared that women who did not wear a head scarf were asking to be raped.

    What is the psychology behind all these rapes? (Someone has written that most of the men who rape had the name of Mohammed.) The answer lies in the example of Mohammed. Rape was permitted and encouraged by Mohammed. Rape is a part of jihad. It is a part of war. The women captured in battle were raped and the husbands humiliated.

    Mohammed participated in this horror. After the battle of Khaybar the spoils were given out. One warrior, Dihya bin Khalifa requested of Mohammed that he be given a slave girl from the captives. He chose a woman name Safiyya bint Huyayy. Her husband had been captured, tortured and killed by the Muslims. Later when Mohammed saw her he told Dihya to take another girl from the captives. Mohammed freed her and married her upon her agreement to convert to Islam. That night she was dressed in a wedding dress and Mohammed consummated the marriage. What was it like to see your husband tortured, killed, and then forced into a marriage on the same day?

    One of the problems discussing rape is that Muslims do not consider raping a non-Muslim as a sin or a problem. It is justified because Mohammed did it.

    Rape is not only bad in the western countries where there can be punishment for the offenders when caught and tried, but in Muslim countries there is a different problem. If a woman makes charges at the police station that she has been raped, she must produce 4 male witnesses to justify her accusations. If she cannot produce these four witnesses, she is often charged with adultery or fornication and may be imprisoned herself. In Pakistan 75 percent or more of the women in prison are victims of rape. To report a rape may mean nothing more than a confession of guilt. Little is done to investigate the charges. Can you imagine the chagrin of a women who reports a rape at a police station to seek justice and to her dismay finds that she is put in jail for committing fornication or adultery?

    For more information on the issue of rape in Islam, go here and here and here.

    These are a few problems for women in the Muslim culture. Unfortunately, there will be little change for improvement of the lives of half a billion women. Conditions vary from country to country, some worse than others, but none with real freedom and position.

    When women cannot be allowed a real education there will be problems borne of ignorance whether in growing up, marriage, raising a family, being a wife, being a real companion, or whatever. Ignorance is not bliss. Women can make a phenomenal contribution to the rising of culture if they are allowed this freedom. Only when one can escape the influence of a seventh century culture does this happen

    • JGandhi says:

      Ha Ha Ha

      Its very refreshing to see Israeli zionist agents sitting on an Indian blog and spreading the same lies against Islam as the ZPM (Zionist Propaganda machine)agents do all the time VERY DEDICATEDLY in the western media.

      Chand, your camouflage is wearing thin

  12. Satyen says:

    Everybody,

    It’s time to think and act to save our daughters and sisters. No blame game but time to say a spade a spade. Religions play a very inspiring role in the social customs especially in the rural and underdeveloped areas. I believe, most of the people give priority to the present life over the after life. Why we should sacrify this life which is a reality for the unknown afterlife! Why this contradiction in the two lives of here and here after? Is there any way to reconcile both the lives. Fortunately, my life doesn’t have any contradiction and happiness in this life doesn’t take me away from the blissful life after my demise. On the contrary, happy life at present paves a way for the blissful life after death. Why can’t other religions bring about compatibility in both the lives? I request everybody to act for this purpose and make this world a living paradise, in front of our own eyes, in broad day light! Selfish people should also understand that their selfishness and dirty hypocrisy will drown them one day as the Talibanis are taking away the happiness from the same people who used them as tools at one point. Will the supremacists flaunting their ideology as the best, live among the Talibanis who practice what the supremacists have been preaching and are still preach? They shamelessly call others as joke and fake and what not?

    Again it’s time to think and act in right direction instead of mocking at others. May Allah inspire the humanity on righteous path to save the afflicted innocent girls!

  13. Veena Malik says:

    Hi,

    Before their wedding ceremony begins in rural Afghanistan, a 40-year-old man sits to be photographed with his 11-year-old bride. The girl tells the photographer that she is sad to be engaged because she had hoped to become a teacher. Her favorite class was Dari, the local language, before she had to leave her studies to get married.

    She is one of the 51 million child brides around the world today. And it’s not just Muslims; it happens across many cultures and regions.

    Photographer Stephanie Sinclair has traveled the world taking pictures, like the one of the Afghan couple, to document the phenomenon. Christiane Amanpour spoke with Sinclair about a book which features her photographs called, “Questions without Answers: The World in Pictures by the Photographers of VII.”

    Faiz, 40, and Ghulam, 11, sit in her home prior to their wedding in rural Afghanistan in 2005.

    Amanpour asked Sinclair if the 11-year-old Afghan girl married in 2005, and others like her, consummate their marriages at such an early age. Sinclair says while many Afghans told her the men would wait until puberty, women pulled her aside to tell her that indeed the men do have sex with the prepubescent brides.

    Sinclair has been working on the project for nearly a decade. She goes into the areas with help from people in these communities who want the practice to stop, because they see the harmful repercussions.

    “Whenever I saw him, I hid. I hated to see him,” Tehani (in pink) recalls of the early days of her marriage to Majed, when she was 6 and he was 25. The young wife posed for this portrait with former classmate Ghada, also a child bride, outside their mountain home in Yemen.

    In Yemen, a similar picture. Tehani and Ghada are sisters-in-law photographed with their husbands, who are both members of the military. Like most of the girls, Tehani didn’t even know she was getting married, until the wedding night. She was six years old.

    Tehani describes how she entered the marriage, “They were decorating my hands, but I didn’t know they were going to marry me off. Then my mother came in and said, ‘Come on my daughter.’ They were dressing me up and I was asking, ‘Where are you taking me?’”

  14. Haifa says:

    Hello every body,

    I have read different comments on this blog from different persons.
    What I have understood, that love has no barrier of country, religion etc. but one thing must be kept in mind that interfaith marriages should be based on mutual understanding, trust, confidence and loyality with each other. I am Haifa from Lebanan a Senior Chemist in a British oil and gas company and I am too married with a Hindu guy, who is reservoir engineer in the same company. We met in Alabama Petroleum of Lebanan. I found him very nice, cooperative and dedicated to me, none of us changed relgion,but respect sentiments, and life styles of each other, by making suitable adjustments.

    Reply to Haifa at http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=3289

  15. Satyen says:

    Dear G,

    You can sort out this with your family members and and the would be spouse. But here is some bad omen for you. Today, she is insisting the name for her choice. Tomirrow she may insist for the name of her children! You are the root cause of all these becoz you didn’t educate her about the Islam. Will she is going to contribute to your Islam when she is herself a half hearted Muslim? What will you do when she will revolt against Qurbani or Sunnat of her children or refuses to cook beef!

    My suggestion is to educate her about Islam i.e. the Arabic practices in the Muslim community. The best way to teach Islam is introducing her with a perfect Muslim i.e. Muhammad who is the role model of most of the Muslims in the world. So give her an abridged biography of Muhammad to her as soon as possible.

    May Allah show you the right path!

    • believer in God says:

      satyen are u crazy?u r telln him to ask the girl whether she wants to jump in the well or not.she is already on the edge of a well.soon she will be a sunken ship with no trace back to her own community.She is real crazy to have started this fake conversion first.she shouldnt have agreed to him at all.This ‘G’ thinks that his fiancee is under his control now.so he can make her do whatever he wishes.poor girl.hope she visits this site once.so that Lord Vishnu may save her from drowning.’G’ is double standard guy.he loves that girl.but he wants his religion to win.sick moron.he thinks now his fiancee is his property.and his children also will be only ‘his’.not ‘hers’.Miss Kaur needs a last wake up call.Now Mr amir will surely have to comment here to guide his insane brother ‘G’.why doesnt ‘G’ and his brothers open up a place where u can do this business of conversion freely?and then get beaten up by RSS workers or VHP.that will be a mind blowing idea.and a lesson for all sick morons like G

      • Satyen says:

        Dear believer in God,

        I fully agree with you that the girl is fake converting without enough knowledge of Islam. That’s what I am trying to correct her by introducing her with Islam i.e. biography of Muhammad. If she loves to have a husband like Muhammad, she can continue with the conversion process. Only thing we can do is to provide her with informations that are critical to take the decision. Unfortunately, she is not reading this blog. So, her would be husband who must be caring to her, will educate her. It’s better to see the well and then decide whether to jump in it or not rather than to be tricked to fall in the well.

  16. Ayesha says:

    Hello every body,
    I have been reading comments on different blogs on this site and found that Amir, Indian,Srinivas,even Hindu girl, posing different names, disguising their exact identity, are writing all non sense here in favour of cruelty, discrimination, rapist character. Our muslim girls should be aware of these types of persons. Such people are responsible for the worst condition of muslim women in the world.

    • admin says:

      Ayesha,
      Very true, intolerants are there in ALL faiths.

      There are not two interfaith cases same. Take home message for any interfaith dating couple is to understand your intended-spouse well and make sure he/she and his/her parents are not “intolerant for what you are.” The scripture is one thing, but what your intended-spouse has learned from it is different.

      Muslim girls should not take a message from some of blogs here that Muslim guys (and community) are bad and Hindu guys (and parents) are good. You need to find facts of your individual situation.

      If one is going to be in a joint-family situation, meet the parents as soon as possible considering the boy/girl may not have understood his/her parents or a lier.

      Note: Shinivas is not (never) a Hindu (as per his earlier comment).

      Ayesha, please come back to warn to all Muslim girls looking for help on this site for “Our muslim girls should be aware of these types of persons.”

      • believer in God says:

        @Admin:we all know that a person is determined by his character and not caste.but when the charatcer is controlled by thoughts of orthodox Islam then a person cannot be rational at all.he needs to get out of it and just be educated and understanding rather than just following unjust ideology.No religion is perfect.But why is it that Islamists try to prove their religion at the point?why do they have to do this conversion and all crap?cant they live life of simplicity where both partners get space for both religions?why to compel people when and forcibly convert?And in this way Hindu girls are always an easy prey.In most cases they realise the after effects of conversion within 3-4years.but then they have no option specially when they have a child.Y is it that a Moslem husband demands that his child follow only Islam?now that means thats absolute sickness that he is into.his love is fake for the girl.the poor girl is trapped then.Its high time the foolish girls realise whats the actual reality of life and not believe in filmy things.Not all Guys can be Salman or SRK.

        • Satyen says:

          Believer in God,

          Bingo. The problem is with all religions but others can criticise their own religion and reform it. On the contrary, Islam is a closed religion where logic has no place. You have to follow the book and sometimes have to prove the illogical things as logical! If not, get killed by the warriors of Muhammad because blasphemy is not acceptable to them!

  17. Gulnar says:

    Hi G,

    It appears that disastrous start has been made by the sikh girl.This is just beginning of controversies, miserable life is waiting her.
    Restrictions will start on her and soon she is going to repent.
    I know, as a muslim womem, to what extent lies are told by the muslims to crush fundamental rights of a women. Under what circumstances, she converted, no body knows, but her sucidal decision is going to pay her very badly.

  18. believer in God says:

    @Amir:when a single hindu guy wrote about destroying Islam u feel insecure.what about ur insane brothers who actually do dis rubbish everyday?converts to other religions are killed.tab teri humanity ghas charane jati hai kya?akal k dushman.real pigs.why should a pig eat another pig..u wana see creatures of zoo dn go to pakis.mayb u wl b one of them too.bcz they behave like animals only.not like intelligent humans.u need to poke ur nose evrywr.to prove the false claims of hw cool ur religion is.right?

      • believer in God says:

        m not interested in personal chats.please put a link of the perfect quran so readers can know what u r trying to say.mayb ur interpretation is right.u knw better arabic than others.But all the muslim girls r are true.no 1 is fake.u should try to help them.n get them out of hell.simply preaching doesnt help.educate ur brothers.n teach the ‘meaning of peace’.n ‘respect women’.i wana read the correct version of quran.so post the link here.infact many others will also be wanting to.to prove u wrong.

  19. believer in God says:

    @Amir:when a single hindu guy wrote about destroying Islam u feel insecure.what about ur insane brothers who actually do dis rubbish everyday?converts to other religions are killed.tab teri humanity ghas charane jati hai kya?akal k dushman.real pigs.why should a pig eat another pig.thats y u dont eat.u wana see creatures of zoo dn go to pakis.mayb u wl b one of them too.bcz they behave like animals only.not like intelligent humans.u need to poke ur nose evrywr.to prove the false claims of hw cool ur religion is.right?

  20. Amir says:

    “6 months at a madrasa to be a real Muslim”

    this admin is such an idiot.
    i never went to madarsa and i am a muslim.

    • admin says:

      Amir,
      You seems to be happy with this “FAKE” conversion, are you?

      What true Muslim parents will do with this “half Sikh” in their home?
      What if she asks their Muslim son to go to a Guru Dwara for blessings?
      What if she brings in their Muslim home a photo of Guru Nanak?
      What if she starts teaching their grandchildren pluralistic teachings?

      These Muslim parents are honest and smart to stop all these none-sense BEFORE marriage. It should be very clear if she is a Muslim or a Sikh? It is smart to bring all these questions before the marriage rather than after the marriage.

      We are surprised that you seems to be endorsing this fake-conversion business. Are you?

      • Amir says:

        I never endorse a marriage without pre acceptance of Islam.
        Since she is muslim now, marriage has no problem.
        I and you can not decide whether this conversion is fake.

        Whenever somebody embraces Islam, He becomes pure, his sins ( towards God ) are forgiven. thats why there is no turning back in Islam otherwise everybody will start converting and re-embracing Islam.

        There is nothing like Half-sikh. Believe in One God to be worshipped and acceptng Muhammad as his messanger makes one muslim.

        Going gurudwara for worship is not allowed, but for blessings of elders has no problem.

        Keeping photo of Guru is not the issue. Issue is worshipping other than God. We keep photos of our elders to remeber them. we respect them but not worship them.

        • vaulakh says:

          Only mentally retarded people adopt Islam and prophet Muhammad,person who was so immersed in LUST that he married 9 year old,his daughter in law apart from several other wifes…..

      • Amir says:

        Fake conversion is not in Islam. You can not convert after being muslim.
        ( I know we can do what we want ) But God has forbidden it and God knows better what happen to such people.

        There are good and bad muslims both.
        Punishment and reward both are there for them.

        But a non-believer will not be rewarded as he performed sin towards God.

        Even somebody just believing in two lines –
        Nobody except God to be worshipped
        Muhammad is his messanger.

        is a muslim. and will enter paradise for eternal life after punishment for deeds.

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