ana says: September 1, 2013 at 3:23 am
Religion plays an important role..
I am Muslim n yesterday I broke up with my Hindu bf..
he says he cant marry me because his mom is against..and if he do tie knot with me than she will be no more..than my bf just broke up with me..its hurting me..i am dying..m crying all the day.i cnt live without him..y did he do this..i want him back..i am so desperate.. -Ana
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ana added: September 1, 2013 at 10:38 am
His mom was 40% ready..but dont know what happened..ya he told me that he will marry me and he promised me also. but somehow he broke his promise..we were planning to get married within 6month by civil marriage..but all of sudden..he just told me he cant marry..y do people promise when they cnt fulfill..he used to tell me no matter what happened in future he wont live me but marry me..v were planinng to elope also..we both reside in india… but he just broke up..n now he says that move on..how can I move on? its not easy..he says I have to marry sumone..at some point of time..y did he do thus..i tired my level best to get him back..but all in vain. his mother saw a girl for him..n wantd him 2 marry that girl..but he said he cnt marry d=that girl..he say he is helpless..he tired to concince his mom but she is not willing to listen..why did he played with my life..its killing me..trying to comit sucide.
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Muslim girls have right to choose life partner
Dear Admn.
Since seven years i am in love with one boy. from mumbai… he is against my religion he is a hindu after a great effort i convinced him to convert to muslim and he had agreed but now he has changed his mind and he abuses me all the time on this issue and he ignores me because he income is good now i guess i am suppose to leave him but iam not able to do so because i love him a lot and i fear leaving him,he has taken care of me from four years now because i stay alone here for education and my parents are else where and they do not want me to persue higher education and they want me to marry my own cousin brother, which i dont like.i understand the environment of muslim, which is not favourable for females to become independent.
should i say him not to covert and i am ready to accept him as my husband on his own faith. is there any problem if i continue to be muslim after marriage? please suggest
WTH! another made up fake story, try something new
Assalamu Alaikum Ana,
Forget about that guy, that was nothing but a illusion of love created by the pervert shaitaan. Repent sincerely and Follow the Islam. InshaAllah you will be doing well in this world and hereafter.
Allah Hafiz
thnxs a lot kaveri..u knw my frndz also tld me dt ds iz jst a cmmn xcus a guy gve…i ws a fol 2 lov him..n waise yh uska loss h..qki I ws loyl n lovd him lyk nythng..n yh genertn mei aisa partnr pana its nxt 2 imposble..so its his loss..nw m mvng on..i knw it vl tke tym bt m dng it wd a smile..n ya kaveri he dnt hv ny guts..kbi kbi mjhe lgta h k sch mei usne uski mom ko hmre bre mei btaya b hoga k ni..bt nyws ab I dnt wnt him in my lyf..jo insan apna prmse apna pyar pura ni kiya wo mjhe kya kush rkhta..thnxs a lot kaveri n satyen..plz b in touch..i nd gud frndz..thnxs n tc
Yaa……Frgt him…. dnt love a coward…..!
Ana please contact me ..iam going with the same thing
Can you please give more details, we could help!
2dy I cld my bf..jst lst tym 2 cnvnc him bt al in vain..he ws jst syng me I cnt do dz..i cnt risk my mom lyf..n wt abt my lyf?i tld him dt hs mom iz jst blckmailng u bt he ws lyk wt if she rly do?i said dt v bth vl cnvnc ur mom..v vl tke our frndz hlp also bt he ws nt rdy..he ws jst syng dt mve on..fnd sm1 n mary him..i ws lyf wt d fck..i lov dz guy n he syng 2 find sm1 else n mary?jst cz of hs mom he brokeup wd me..i cried..i begd..bt al in vain..y allah u dng dz 2me..i nvr hurt ny1 nor did nythng wrng..dn y allah u dng dz 2me.i rly lov my bf..m gng crzy day by day…i dnt wts gng on..i hv nt slept n eat proprly since 4days..m gtng dprsd..i dnt knw wr 2go.2 whm tlk..my frndz are bzy in thr lyf..i tird 2 4gt him.bt al in vain..wt shud I do?i vl bcme mad..my hlth r sufrng..i jst cry al day..n barly tlk..m bcmng insane.i lov him so mch..y cnt he c dz?y he jst cncern abt hs mom..plz hlp me ot othrwse I wont b alive
Ana, Listen…. I have a frnd ok…she is muslim.. c was madly in love wid a hindu guy, 🙂
they dated fr like 1 yr dan 1 day he askd hr fr brkup…. 😮
he said that his mom will commit suicide if they wud gt married…
C tried to convince him so much bt he dint care.
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Dan 1 day we caught him red handed wid a gal in a park, he was actually doing two timing,ok ….
Nw dat gal,my muslim frnd c is happily in relationshp wid a another hindu guy(completed 3 yrs)…
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Wot i m trying to say is that this r all common excuses of boys…
the fact is that he dnt loves love u anymore or he was just doing timepass…. 🙁 Dnt be an emotional fool… i beg u to think nt by heart always otherwise u have to pay fr it.
i understnd dat his mom is impt fr him,bt at the same time he loved u na so kya tum koi value nahi rakhti uske liye??
agar usme guts nahi thi to y the hell did he cm into a relationshp wid a muslim gal…
If he truly loves u dan its his duty to convience his mother, brkup is not the only option always……
Think about it…. i am always wid u….sis!! 🙂
Take care!! God bless!!
Dear Ana,
Why do you want to live your life with somebody who is not interested in you? I believe that there are other reasons as well, not only his mom, for not marrying you. Even if you get him in marriage, there may come problems over and over again. So, it painful but better to swallow the bitter pill once than over and over again throughout the life. If you are a student, submerge yourself in your studies. If you are a working woman, keep busy in your work. Keep the company of your friends and talk about other things than love etc.
Allah is never partial and She will do justice with you and your guy. And not on the judgement day, every moment is a judgement moment. If you will have faith in Her, She (Allah) will definitely do justice with you. Allah is everywhere and just you have to feel Her.
thnxs satyen,kaveri n zara…ur advce ws rly vry hlpfl..i knw it tks tym..bt nw its killng me..smtyms I think he ws jst dng tymps wd me..he nvr introduc me 2 hs mom..wn I tld him dt I wn2 tlk 2ur mom..he said dt wn my mom vl agre I vl surly mke u tlk 2her..bt dt day nvr cmes…i dnt knw r8 nw wt 2do or thng..cz m nt in state of mind..i jst cry n mis him..since v brokeup he nt txtd me nor cld me..atlst 2 chk if m ok or nt..lyf is bcmng dfclt wdot him..bt insha allah I vl ovr cm wt it wd flyng clr..thnxs guys 4 rdng my post n gvng me advcs n sugntns..jst pray 4me..i nd prayer’s..thnxs
Hmm….. You seem to be a religious girl.
1st thing is that, Suicide is prohibited (haram) in islam && 2ndly, r u mad??
why r u thinking like that, dnt play wid ur life for a guy who dont even value your tears…
This is not the end of your life, move on!!
i knw its not easy at all nd will take time may be 6mnths or a year but ultimately a day will come you will overcome this..
so just wait fr that time,have faith in God….he will never do injustice.
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Dnt force him, its useless, if he really loved you he will come back… nd if he wont dan Bhaad mei jaye wo..frgt it…
its hard to digest a brkup but not impossible….. 🙂
Take care……
Dear Ana,
First, Suicide is not an option for you? Who has given you the right to destroy the beautiful gift given to you by Allah? Moreover what about your family members? How will they feel after you have left them for ever? Would you like to see them crying?
Love is fine but your life has much more in addition to it. Your present predicament is transitory and you will heal up in course of time and later on, there may come the happiest day of your life. Who knows, Allah may have better plans for you.
One of the girls at this site was in a situation worse than you and now she says she is happiest ever! And it all happened within a year. So, don’t lose heart and move on.
Also, you seem to be a religious Muslim girl and interfaith marriage might not have offered you all you were looking for. Now you have a breathing period when you can have a retrospective view of your love life and learn from this experience so that you can apply that wisdom to make your future life a promising one.
Probably Satyen is referring to SD…. https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=5455
That’s SD I have referred to.
I knw my parnts hv lots of hope 4rm me..bt m dprsd..hw cn he do dz?rlgn plays an imp role..nvr tot dt jst cz of dffrnt rlgn hs mom vl blckmail him..n he vl brkup…i jst pray wt hpns 2me..vl nt hpn 2 othr..grls who in lov wd othr rlgn boy..mke sure dt he vl mary u…thy vl tl u nce thng n prmse u..bt wn it cmes 2 thr parnts thy vl brk ur heart..so plz mke sure dt parnts r rdy n he mary u..
This shows that it works both way, as in not every hindu boy is such a darling like admins here love to potray, now lets see what twisted judgement they give, meanwhile ana stay strong and pray and do dhikr and lots of dua so you can come close to Allah, because human love is not perfect and finding love through Allah is the only solution, pray that Allah leads you to a partner who is best for you and who deserves to have you. I am praying for you too
no wonder he was frustrated with you and left. Just look at the way you right 🙁
Ana, we absolutely agree “so plz mke sure dt parnts r rdy”, youths in love should involve parents sooner than later. We have seen many cases where the love fall apart as soon as parents get involved.
his mom ws 40% rdy..bt dnt knw wt hpnd..ya he told me dt he vl mary me n he prmsd me also.bt c hw he broke hs prms..v wr plng 2gt marrd wtin 6mnt by civil marge..bt al of suddn..he jst told me he cnt mary..y do ppl prmse wn dy cnt fulfl..he usd 2 tl me dt no mttr wt hpnd in futre he wont lve me bt mary me..v wr plng 2 elope also..v bth resde in india…bt c he jst brke up..n nw he sy k mve on..hw cm I mve on?its nt easy..he says dt I hv 2 mary sm1..at sm pnt of tym..y did he do dz..i tird my lvl bst 2 gt him bk..bt al in vain.hs mthr saw a grl 4 him..n wntd him 2 mary dt grl..bt he said he cnt mary dt grl..he say he iz hlpls..he tird 2 cnvnc hs mom bt she iz nt wilng 2 lstn..y did he playd wd my lyf..its killng me..tryng 2 cmit sucde
I am sorry that you had to face such difficulty. But pls don’t lose your heart. Love is not the end of life. So pls don’t take any hasty decision. Remember that your family will have lot of hopes on you. So pls don’t spoil your life on a person who can’t keep his promises!
Do you think religion is a factor in this incident?
Ana,
Sorry to hear of your news. Can you share more information? What was the real issue with her mom? Did you two talk about getting married? …by Hindu wedding, Nikaah or civil wedding? Which country you live in?