Aaradhana says: December 3, 2013 at 9:54 am
I’m a Hindu.. I love a protestant guy. He attends church regularly and I go for temples once in two weeks.. We believe in interfaith relationship. He respects my religion. He wants me to attend church with him. I agreed to it. But he is not willing to go to temples with me. He says he’s not used to idol worship. He wants to raise our kids as protestants.. I want him to attend temples with me like I agreed to attend church with him.. Regarding children. I wanna let my children decide about what religion they wish to follow. Please advice me about what I must do.. -Aaradhana
Admin says:
Dear Aaradhana,
Yours is a very typical case on this web site. As a matter of fact, this web site is created just for youths like you.
Simply, you are a pluralist and he is an exclusivist. Christians have their idols but he does not like your idols. Basically he is telling you that his Barbie dolls are better than yours or his God is a real God and your God(s) is a fake one. It is time for you to educate him to respect others.
He is not discriminating you because you are a Hindu. If you were a Jew, Muslim, Catholic, Mormon, Baptist, Lutheran or Methodist, he would be asking for his own type of baptism/conversion. This exclusivist practice has nothing to do with God. If he was born to Muslim parents, today he would be telling you that Protestants and Hindus are kafirs, real God is only Allah as described by Muhammad. We hope today’s educated youths will put these exclusivist teachings to end. We hope you could educate your boy friend.
If he does not like idol worshipping, ask him to destroy the Cross and join Arya Samaj faith. Remind him that Jesus and Muhammad are the most idolized human beings in the history of this world. It is wrong to believe that only those who are baptized will be saved (read McKenna).
You are on track by saying “I wanna let my children decide about what religion they wish to follow.” How beautiful! We agree 100%. How could one decides for interfaith children even before marriage for which religion will be right for them? Teach them from both faiths and let them decide their faith at their age 21+ (NO BBS).
Tell him that you will take children to his church, have a Christmas tree, enjoy Easter Egg hunt with them and teach them about Jesus BUT will NOT baptize them. Likewise, tell him we will also teach children about Lord Krishna, celebrate Diwali, play Holi and do pooja at home BUT will never put a Hindu label (like Namasanskara) on children. If he wanted Protestant children, why he is looking for an interfaith relationship? Is he a love-proselytizer?
If he expects you to completely forget your Hindu faith and wants no part of you in his Protestant married life, then who does he wants to marry to, your body?
Aaradhana, you are not going to be happy in your life if he is looking to convert a rose (Hindu Aaradhana) to a carnation (Protestant Julie). Unless he is willing to give-and-take 50%-50% (be a pluralist), he is not the guy for you. Read all what we have written below and start educating him.
Tell him that this is what the “Aaradhana” is, take it as is or leave it!
Ask him to come to this web site and we would love to know his logic for not entering a Hindu temple.
Let us know how you are planning to get married? By Hindu Vivaha, Protestant church wedding or a Civil wedding? We are waiting to hear back from you. -Admin
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its a trap girl. he just wants to you to be submissive and even the kids. be clear as marriage is for life. You are a Hindu why cant he be a Hindu? why u go to church while he cant go to temples?
Hi. I m a Hindu girl and I am dating an east Indian roman catholic guy for last 9 years. I am not very religious. My parents also are quite open minded and like d guy. However his parents have only agreed for our marriage because I have agreed for conversion. They also told me that if I am not willing to convert then I should forget about him. He also is not very religious. Though he goes to church and all only to please his parents. He says that he tried convincing his parents for me to not convert but his parents are adamant. My parents are obviously not happy with the fact that I am going to convert. Now the problem is I don’t mind converting as I don’t believe anyway. But his parents are sweetly forcing me to follow each n every thing related to Christianity. I never even followed my religion. He does not get to have his say at all. Though he believes against conversion he is not making a proper stand. Also the conversion is a lengthy process. I tried to convince them against conversion but they are adamant. He is a good guy but does not want to go against his parents. And I feel just because my parents are lenient giving in and making them unhappy.. Is it right? If I give in now I may not even get to have a say later. Plus they want a typical catholic style wedding.. I want a court wedding. Please advise.
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Hello readers,
You have seen the statements of boasting or bragging master Mohd. Zia Ul Hauqe, claiming to be only Alim in the world. He has claimed to be advocate of apex court(s) of India and Govt. Position.
But the real fact about him is that he is number one liar, belonging to a prostitute family. In his locality of Kolkatta, his family is considered
untouchable, socially boycotted and just to protect his ego, he made several claims. Has he really contributed any thing, except loosing temper, whenever his weakness was pointed out. It is 100% sure that his mother married 9 times through mutta only. Now he is keeping quiet, because his reality has been exposed being son of a bitch. Please be aware of such so called experts of islamic religion. No one is expert in islamic religion because it is not a religion but a criminal idelogy against humanity and particularly against females throughout world.
Where is bragging master?
Why he is not clarifying the prevailing evil practices?
Why he will oppose, since his family had been indulging in
dirty games throughout generations to generations.
Hi every one,
I would like to submit a text about the evil character of Mohd.,so called messenger of God.
One day Muhammad went to visit his adopted son Zaid (also spelled Zayd). Zaid was not home but his wife Zaynab was. Muhammad saw her scantily dressed and commented on her great beauty. The wife overheard Muhammad and was flattered. This caused her to gloat and in turn she taunted her husband. Therefore Zaid, knowing that Muhammad wanted her to satisfy his sexual desire, went to Muhammad and offered to divorce her. Muhammad told him not to divorce her but to remain with her. However the damage had been done and Zaid could no longer withhold something, even his wife’s body, from Muhammad. A short while later Zaid divorced Zaynab to enable Muhammad to marry her and satisfy his lust. Thereafter Muhammad did indeed marry her.
Below is the passage from the Quran on this event.
You said to the man whom God and yourself have favored: ‘Keep your wife and have fear of God.’ You sought to hide in your heart what God was to reveal. You were afraid of man, although it would have been more proper to fear God. And when Zayd divorced his wife, We gave her to you in marriage, so that it should become legitimate for true believers to wed the wives of their adopted sons if they divorced them. God’s will must needs be done. No blame shall be attached to the Prophet for doing what is sanctioned for him by God. Such was the way of God with the prophets who passed away before him (God’s decrees are pre-ordained); who fulfilled the mission with which God had charged them, fearing God and fearing none beside Him. Sufficient is God’s reckoning. The Confederate Tribes, 33:37, 38 Dawood.
Sam Shamoun summarizes Muhammad’s justification and trite excuse, found above, and presents two significant problems with the Quran’s pretext:
According to the Quran itself Allah caused Muhammad to have desires for another man’s wife, namely his adopted son Zaid ibn Haritha’s spouse Zaynab bint Jash. This led to his adopted son divorcing her so that Muhammad could marry her. The alleged reason why Allah commanded this to happen was so that Muhammad could set the example for others to emulate, making it permissible for adoptive fathers to marry their adopted children’s divorcees:
The other problem with this marriage is that shortly after it took place Allah abolished the practice of adoption completely:
God has not assigned to any man two hearts within his breast; nor has He made your wives, when you divorce, saying, ‘Be as my mother’s back,’ truly your mothers, neither has He made your adopted sons your sons in fact. That is your own saying, the words of your mouths; but God speaks the truth, and guides on the way. Call them after their true fathers; that is more equitable in the sight of God. If you know not who their fathers were, then they are your brothers in religion, and your clients. There is no fault in you if you make mistakes, but only in what your hearts premeditate. God is All-forgiving, All-compassionate. S. 33:4-5
In light of the foregoing, how could Muhammad set the example for adoptive fathers to marry their adopted sons’ former spouses when Allah went on to forbid the practice of adoption? Does this make any sense whatsoever? Is it not obvious that Muhammad needed to find justification for marrying Zaynab so he came up with this excuse and after people continued taunting him for marrying his son’s divorcee he then decided to do away with adoption altogether?
Sam’s summary is below:
1. Allah caused Muhammad to start lusting for a married woman who happened to be the wife of his adopted son.
2. Allah even caused Muhammad’s son to divorce his wife so that Muhammad could then marry her.
3. The reason why Allah did this was to show others that it was permissible for them to marry their adopted sons’ former wives.
4. Yet later on Allah forbade the adoption of children and prohibited calling any one the child of someone other than his/her biological father.
5. Therefore, Muhammad’s marriage to Zaynab was unnecessary since Muslims have no chance of ever marrying the former wives of their adopted children since there is no more adoption in Islam!
6. Furthermore, Muslims believe that Allah knows all things which means that he knew beforehand that he was going to abolish the practice of adoption. Why did he then commission the divorce between Zayd and Zaynab in order to allow Muhammad to set an example for others to marry their adopted children’s divorcees when he already knew in advance that he would prohibit adoption altogether?
Hence, whether a person consults the Quran alone or seeks to understand it by turning to the hadiths and/or the Islamic commentators, the fact remains that a Muslim must still deal with Muhammad committing adultery by taking another man’s wife.
Let’s be honest: had Muhammad truly wanted Zaid’s marriage to work, he would have exerted his influence and continued to counsel them to stay together. After all, didn’t Muhammad teach that “Allah” hates divorce?
Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar:
The Prophet said: Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce. Sunan of Abu Dawood, Book 12, Number 2173:
Apparently when it comes to satisfying Muhammad’s sexual desires, Allah doesn’t hate divorce very much, he actually planned a divorce!
And my goodness! What does this tell you about Islamic marriage? Here is a man, married to a beautiful wife, but he does not love or respect her. She was nothing more than a sexual plaything to Muhammad and Zaid chucked her up on the meat block to gratify Muhammad’s lust. This was not a marriage based on love: it was a marriage for Muhammad’s lust.
Muhammad played the Jon Lovitz “Pathological Liar” character and invented “Quranic” lies to justify his sin.
MOHAMMED ZIA UL HAQUE, ALIM ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD, CAN YOU CLARIFY THE EVIL CHARACTER OF SO CALLED PROPHET MOHD?
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Dear readers,
Boasting may not be a serious problem for you, but we all know of others who do boast about their intelligence, their accomplishments, their knowledge, and their physical abilities. But most of us must guard ourselves carefully lest we fall into this sinful activity. To boast is “to glorify oneself in speech; talk in a self-admiring way. . . . to speak of with excessive pride.”[i] It is the same as brag, which means “to talk boastfully. . . . to assert boastfully,” and the noun means “arrogant or boastful speech or manner.”[ii] God says, “Love does not brag and is not arrogant” (1 Corinthians 13:4), thus it is important that we know something about this sin in order to manifest genuine love.
In the Greek, the verb for boasting is kauchaomai, which means “to boast, exult, glory, take pride in,” and the nouns, kauchema and kauchesis, mean “boasting, pride, exultation.”[iii] Two other words of interest are alazoneia¸ which means “boastfulness” or “arrogance,” and alazon, which means “boaster.”[iv]
Boasting can be used in a positive way, a negative way, and sometimes a neutral way. Paul says that “we exult in hope of the glory of God” and “we exult in our tribulations” (Romans 5:2-3; “we rejoice in hope. . . . we rejoice in our sufferings,” ESV). We “boast in the Lord” (2 Corinthians 10:17) and we “boast . . . in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ” (Galatians 6:14). Paul confessed, “I will boast of what pertains to my weakness” (2 Corinthians 11:30; cf. 10:13). He also said that he boasted to Titus of the Corinthians’ generosity.
The negative use of bragging and boasting is what concerns us here. Have you ever known of someone who always speaks well about himself, always tells you how much he knows and what he has done, and proclaims his travels and accomplishments? He brags about the important people he knows and the achievements he has made. Even professing Christians may boast of their exploits, not for the glory of God but for their own praise.
I once knew a man who would constantly tell stories where he was the chief character and was the leading performer who outdid others. It was so prominent that nearly everyone else detected his spiritual pride. Another person nearly always was anxious to share how much he knew about different subjects and how inferior and ignorant his friends and fellow-workers were. Are we like this?
There is a problem when we always proclaim our own achievements, without a thought of how God has provided for us and blessed us. Paul wrote, “Who regards you as superior? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?” (1 Corinthians 4:7). This speaks to our own experience, doesn’t it.
We’ve seen a person receive an award, a medal, a trophy, or a tribute. More often than not, they are willing to accept the accolades and receive the praise for themselves. Athletes are willing to spend thousand of hours in training so that they will beat their opponents and receive a prize. Sports stars are willing to live in self-discipline to beat the other players to receive higher salaries and receive the praise of others. This is true in the intellectual, business, and entertainment worlds as well. They are willing and anxious to boast about their achievements that will show their superiority over others. Even when they don’t open their mouth, they still relish the superiority feeling that comes with worldly success.
MOHD ZIA SHOULD LEARN FROM THE ABOVE TEXT.
Mohd.Zia
You are a person of self praising and boasting character.
Character is not what a person claims to personally have. Character is what others testify of you. If you boast of having character excessively, your boast is a hot air balloon being tossed by the winds from place to place — no consistency and no direction, no substance … hollow.
True character is not in the saying, not in the boasting, but in the living. Character is walking in integrity, not while being watched, but when in our own space, when no one of apparent authority is present. True character is acknowledging and living like there is a God who is All-knowing and All-present. You want to be pleasing to God, not just every once and a while, but at all times and not just when it makes us look good.
Your character has also been testified and certified by various learned writers, who know personally.
VERY TRUE!!
There is not a single blogger in last 6 years who came close to Mr. Haque for self praises and BRAGGING.
Intelligent guys like Tenali, Love.guru, Satyen and many more never even mentioned their education, how much rich they are and how much they have achieved in life.
Deep water always run silent, it is only the shallow jump up and down and make noises.
Mr. Mohd. Zia,
How do you knnow that I am a Bangladeshi and my name is Shanoo. Your interpretation are always fictitious and maliicous.I am a electronic engineer not like you a liar and married with a non muslim. What is your real position is known to every body and much has been said about you by different writers. If you want to tell, clarify following facts about islamic paractices:-
1. Why 72 virgins for Jihadies, criminals and terrorists?
2. Why Female genital mutiliations,
3. Why males allowed to keep 4 wives, why not women allowed?
4. Why Halala practices against females,
5. Why sex with dead wife,
6. Why female has to produce four witnesses to seek justice against rape,
7. Why testimony of female is half of the male?
8. Why rapist Mohd. is treated messanger of God?
9. Why women are treated fields to be ploughed any way?
10.Why women are kept in burqa?
11.Why tripple oral talak, as malafide intention of males?
12.Why bride is to be virgin and why not male to be virgin for marriage?
Mohd. Jani
You are boasting as Alim/Advocate, but your contribution on this blog is nil, simply writing shannoo, shows how cheap are your thoughts because of your dirty family background.
Shenaz my beautiful Bangsdesi Shannoo
To you I am cheap but Allah had/has given a good position/status in the society. Anyway, you have not seen what admin has written.I am here in this blog to answer any question relating to Islam and/or Shariat Law. Just ask me any question and see whether you get correct answer or not.
Your Mama Jani
Md.Zia-ul-Haque
Aaradhana,
Go to his Protestant church for an educational trip (or several trips) and ask these questions to their priest:
1) I am a Hindu in love with a Christian from your church and like to know what will it take if I want to marry in your church? Do I have to be Baptized? Do I need to sign any paper (pick it up for us)?
2) I wish to teach my children about Hinduism, can I do that? Can I take my children to a church and temple every week? Do my children must be baptized?
3) Will Mahatma Gandhi, who was not baptized, go to heaven (or hell?) on the Judgement Day?
Write down every thing they say and let us know. Send us the prenuptial form if they have. Educate yourself.
Basatard Mohd Zia,
Your mother knows that love does not consider any bar for earning money.
Son of bitch, sodomozed by imam, product of mutta.
Can we have logical discussion that will help the youth?
What would you advise to Aarathana?
Bastard massey,
Just see Aradhana,the educated lady, has given me thanks but you have not only taken it otherwise but also reacted like a hungry pig. Reason: I tell you. Because of my fantastic back ground your mother, sister, wife and daughter are all in love with me(and you can not control them) but I know they want to extract money from me as they are not satisfied with you, the electrician or with your limited income. So much so they will get social status if they can any how get me.They are also aware of the fact that I was Class-I Officer in a Govt of India Organisation and had my primary education in England and therefore it is foolish to suggest and say that I had attended Madarasa. Coming from the family (who were converted to christianity out of greed to get special favor from christian Britishers before Independence) of a beggar you are jealous of me. Electrici can you tell me how can I manage all four greedy witches? Bloody swine why don`t you make it clear as to why those bastard christians opposed India`s Independence?
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim
Advocate,Calcutta High Court and Supreme Court of India,
Do you know Massey?
Please stay focus on subject matter, please.
Dear admin,
Thank you for lending me your advice. About marriage.. I wanna get married according to both traditions. A Hindu wedding with a wedlock and a church wedding with rings.. But he prefers only a church wedding but agreed to get me a wedlock.. About naming the kids.. It’s still a problem.. I wanna name them with a name common to both religions. But he doesn’t feel the same.. I’d be glad to hear your advice..
If he is not willing to enter a temple, how he is going to be ready to be a part of Hindu wedding where Gods from water, earth and sky will be invoked to come and bless your marriage? He nor his intolerant family can tolerate a marriage ceremony where God other than Jesus’s father is being acknowledged. Ask to his parents and let us know if they are ready.
Further the church marriage also means you may have to write a pre-Nuptial agreement that children will be raised only in their faith.
Catholic Pre-Nuptial form: https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&id=100:pre-nuptial-with-roman-catholic-church&Itemid=78&layout=default
Please go to his church to find out facts and let us know what they say.
We understand you are in love, but religions intolerance of these Abrahamic will kill you in long run. More you submit to their irrational demands, more they will keep pressuring you to do (till you are Hindu no more).
Our advise would be …make it clear that children will not be baptized till age 21. Is he ready? If not, walk away. Educate him and somehow make him agree to no baptism deal. If he is educated and not religious fanatic, he will agree. Try.
Dear admin,
Thank you for your valuable advice.. I have hope that he’ll understand me and be religion tolerant.. Hope I will be able to educate him.. Thank you..
Believe us he is a good man, except he is being brainwashed in his churches. Now it is your job to take him out of darkness to enlightenment. We pray God will give you strength.
Sorry tell your BF that love knows no law.Neither Religious Nor Law of the Land.
Md.Zia-ul-Haque
Sure.. Thanks