Nancy says: March 28, 2015 at 12:39 pm
Hi Hardik,
Am also in similar situation lyk urs. My guy is a brahmin and we both are in relation for about 1 and half years. When we revealed out relation to our patents, initialy tey didnt agree and later agreed as my parents thought he wil become christian nd his parents wished me to be a hindu. And because of this we both started to fight. Then he asked me to just act as hindu at least. I refused it. As days go he stoped loving me as he did earlier and i started to cry evryday.
One day i thought its nothing wrong in doing what their parents wanted me to do. Then we spoke and he told abt my decision to his parents. But still they refused. Before this decision i said we didnt talk right, i thought we parted and told my parents. They started to see a groom for me. So now they dont know that i still love him. But the problem is, he initialy said that i have to act as if am worshipping the idols in front of their parents but now he himself wants me to convert to an hindu. I said okay but everytime when i go to church or pray i used to cry. I prayed to God that instead of me having my guy in my heart and to live a life with someone else, its better to live with him having U(Jesus) in my heart and to worship their gods. My decision is good but am afraid.
Now we both are in good relation and waiting for our marriage. Register marriage. Because my parents doesnt know that i still love him. And his parents wont accept me. But before we get married we wil invite them. Its up to them whether to attend our marriage or not. Hoping for something good.
And Ann dont worry. 1 good advice from me do what u want to do so that you wil b happy. Dont think about what the world wil think about u or what they wil say. God bless u. -Nancy
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Okay i will think about it. Thank you for your concern and time you have spent on me.
Nancy,
Let humanity a priority over man-made religions. Believe in Jesus but not churches. If you wish to give a priority to your church, then your option is clear, … to dump this guy and marry a guy who comes to your church every Sunday. We hope you will keep in touch with us.
Hi Nancy,
This is certainly a difficult situation. It is hard to please two sides of parents.
After marriage, do you have to go and live with your guy’s parents? If yes, you will be able to fake them only for a short period of time.
We feel you have to think through the whole matter again. Don’t jump into fake-conversion just to please in-laws. If you are educated and financially independent, there is no need for any one have to convert.
If you feel Hindus are sinners and idol-worshipers, then you should not marry that guy. You have to understand that no one is idol-worshiper. Alternatively, you have your idol (Mary, Jesus’ statue and wood cross) and Hindus have their own. Instead, learn to love and respect each others belief. Jesus taught us to love thy neighbor, why will you not love your in-laws? If you cannot do it, don’t bother with that guy.
What will be religion of your children? Will it be okay if they are not baptized? Will it be okay if they visit mandir on Saturday and church on Sunday? Will it be okay for them to learn from Gita as well as from Bible? If you cannot be a pluralist, then you should not go further in this relationship. Well, we wish you the best.