Why He Did Not Mention All These in Beginning?

Burquashami says: April 5, 2015 at 1:47 am

hi friends.. im in a relationship with a muslim guy.. at first he just wanted me to convert to islam.. as I love him much and I also respect islam I said yes whole heartedly! but now he says he cant marry me.. and he is very afraid of his parents.. his father is in some high religious position..

I have never met his family.. he is so hesitant.. he wants me to be with him for few more years.. he is just getting upset whenever I talk about marriage.. the thing is I find it impossible to live without him.. he put his family’s issues in front..

I really cnt understand y dint he mention all this in the beginning.. he is crying at times too! I cnt see him crying.. I really don’t know what to do.. I cnt trust him any more.. ter r lots of complications.. can some one help me?! -Shami


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13 Comments

  • madhuresh
    May 7, 2015 9:03 pm

    what is your boy friend name, actually same incident have been with my relative. we did not know about it, when he left her then she had tried to commit to suicide.Still she was in depression. she lived in Delhi if you think it is a game by this community or same person we should action on it.

    • May 10, 2015 6:49 am

      Can you detail on “actually same incident have been with my relative”?

  • April 20, 2015 11:23 am

    Hi i am in love with a muslim guy frm past 7 years…neither of our parents are agreeing to let us marry…well he is a good guy and works in a good company…as a person he is good but also religious at the same time.please suggest me being a hindu girl what is right for me to do..for now he is telling me that u dnt hav to convert and no need to wear burka…but in reality will a marriage be valid if u dnt convert to muslim? can we still be like a hindu? i realy have no clue wat all muslim women follow…pls let me know wat all things wuld be different marrying a muslim guy…

    Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=9792

  • Kk
    April 12, 2015 11:26 am

    please leave this guy aasap Shami.it will benefit you.dont leave your religion.if he has the guts let him accept you in front of society as a hindu..if not run away from him asap

    • mac
      April 12, 2015 7:02 pm

      Which religion is better? Hinduism or Islam. Give logical reply.
      Why Islam is the fastest growing religion?
      Why so many western women are converting to islam?
      Why despite so much negative campaign against islam, it is still fastest growing?
      Why all the major religion of earth speak about coming of last prophet muhammad(peace be upon him)?
      ¤Read the real stories of few out of many people who convert to Islam > > > m.facebook.com/iconverttoislam
      ¤Muslim population growth > > > en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muslim_population_growth

  • April 10, 2015 9:10 am

    Aarushi,

    Why you feel pity? If you are interested in muslim guys, marry them, and see how you are passed on to different males for sex and within years after continued sexual harrassment, you will realize the reality.

  • April 10, 2015 9:07 am

    Muhammad said al Islamo deenun va dawlah, (Islam is religion and state). The goal of Islam is to take over the world and establish a world caliphate. Without this goal Islam becomes meaningless. The whole idea of jihad, which is an obligation on every Muslim, is to expand the Islamic domain. It is also said that the bigger jihad is the struggle against one’s self. This is a lie too. Many scholars of Islam have refuted this as an innovation, something that was never said by Muhammad.

    Jihad is through war, through financing the war (zakat) and through deception. The disagreement between Muslims is not in whether the west should become Islamic or not, but in whether it should be annexed through qital (fighting) or through taqiyah (deceiving).

    The Quran 9:33 says, Allah will cause Islam to prevail over all religions. One does not have to read the history of Islamic conquest and oppression of their vanquished nations throughout the last 1400 years to know Muslims have no regards for the human rights of the non-Muslims. A look at how the minorities are treated in Muslim majority countries in the 21st century can make that point clear.

    When Muslims become the majority, they deny the minorities any participation in political life. No non-Muslim is allowed to run for the head of any Islamic country and where they are allowed to become a member of parliament, it is only as a representative of their people. They are like ambassadors of their co-religionists in the Islamic state. They have no role in how the country should be run, but only as a liaison between the state and their co-religionists who are regarded as second class citizens.

  • logic
    April 10, 2015 7:42 am

    read rajiv malhotra’s books and videos on youtube, do meditation and yoga, live by the core strong values you have brought up with, I hope your parents can guide you if not yoga nad meditation will calm you and make you a peaceful person and you will find answers from within.

    My take on your situation do not marry this guy, do not get into the converting business, most muslims try to get people in.

    thanks

  • David
    April 7, 2015 2:41 am

    Hi Shami i think he loves you so much but at the same time he also loves his family but ones you accept islam and before accepting silam don’t listen anyone just read about islam and watch somw video of Dr.Zakir naik he his an indian scholr of comperative religion…that can help u so much..

    God bless you.

    • Irshad
      April 21, 2015 4:25 am

      Dont look here and there.Just see whats happening in Iraq.libya Yemen Syria.Pakistan
      In the name of islam.and thats true idlam.now its your choice.

  • April 6, 2015 3:57 am

    Shami are you mad?

    Dont you read criminal activities by islamic guys through out the world?
    Why are you interested in this cruel religion minded guys.
    For your benefit it is my sincere advice to forget that guy, who is ideologically a terrorist.

    • April 8, 2015 9:37 am

      Kartar
      I feel pity for you dear.

  • April 5, 2015 3:22 pm

    Shami,
    You have raised an excellent question, ” Why He Did Not Mention All These in Beginning?” His father is a religious person so he must know from very first day he saw you, a Hindu, that he will have to convert you to Islam one day. Still he never mention it till deep into love relationship. This is premeditated lies and deception. He is a lair.

    You said, “I also respect islam”, what does that mean? We know you also respect Jesus and Buddha, correct? Conversion to Islam means you will have to be 100% Muslim and 0% Hindu (no more Holi, Diwali, Sindur, Hindu wedding, visiting Hindu parents, teaching kids that Rama and Krishna are God, visiting temple, and more), is that your intention? If that is not your understanding, start walking away from him.

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