gul says: June 8, 2015 at 2:11 pm
Gul here I am also 15 years old and I am in love with a Muslim guy. I know love and all are very big words to say but believe me I mean it. My parents separated us a week ago. I fought a lot to be with him but because of his religion we cant be together.
Me and my ex boyfriend never thought of all this what happened to us because of his religion. We both had to face a lot; seriously our relationship became public.
Believe me we kids do have feelings that too strong ones. I know I may seem immature right now but trust me I mean everything i am writing. Many relationships are working out since the age of 15. Relationships do workout at this age and they also are for forever. I just want to say we kids do have feelings at least I have.
I so want him back. Anybody who could help? -Gul
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Admin says:
Dear Gul,
Sorry that people are putting you down or discounting you because of your age. We agree that you have a true love and good heart but you have not experienced realities of life. Idealism and reality are two different things.
For our views on parents-children relationship, read here.
Lets assume both sets of parents say you go ahead and get married but after marriage, you manage your own life but not be burden on parents (like many parents in the West do). Do you have money to manage your life? Did you check if any one is willing to give you (a 15 years young couple) a rental flat/apartment? Lets assume you got pregnant in your early-married life; do you have money to feed your baby? Alternatively, would you go for an abortion? Without being a burden on your parents, let us know your plans to manage your married life.
We are glad you came to this site and we will give you tips for realities of life (but ultimate decision will be yours!). Lets assume both sets of parents agreed to married you off. To start with, answer a first question…. how would you get married, Islamic Nikaah or Hindu wedding or both?
Tell us what type of married life are you dreaming about? Read Nusrat. Do you know what it may mean marrying a Muslim (read here a potential list). Let us know what you will do and what you will never do of these 30+ items. Lets talk more later. Come back! -Admin
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no one in India is pure Muslim coz b4 mughalls arrived from Arab and Afghanistan they were few…most of them Hindu and Sikh people who had converted to Islam…gul be careful your guy will use for sex for 3 years then talaq..talaq and talaq he can re marry coz he is a Muslim and it is legal as per their sharia law .Mohammed you are right Muslim population has increased coz of 4 wife and 40 children one Muslim thinks like this…that is why all world looks different to Muslim community… all are narrow minded.
hi gul
if u want to marry there is no option other than converting , because if u want to get married without coverting there is special marriage act which you can’t get married with being 18 + years ..
so either convert or wait , no other option
Hey admin its a request please remove my blog. I dont want any respones now please do remove.
A blog cannot be removed because others have also provided comments or are still using for educational purpose to help their situation. It is not fair to them. However, we could remove your last name. This way, it is safe for you.
As we said before, always try to learn from difference sources and people, not one. This site being one.
Interfaith marriages are like walking on fire, make fully educated decision in order not to get burned.
Remember, our doors are always open for you, right here. Best wishes.
His parents met me and they are happy with me.But they demand an early conversion and nikah.They don’t want to wait anymore.They are not interested in my studies.They love to see me as a homegirl/housewife.Confusion remains,but looking forward to become a good muslim wife,daughter in law,mother like..like
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hello, interested reading..! I wish Gul all the best..! I feel like Gul but some differences. I am a 17yr old hindu girl loving a muslim guy. I am a student and he is doing business with gud financial back ground.My parents not approve this relation but hav no strong objections and as you wish attitude.But they want me to wait and don’t understand my love. His parents approve us,want marriage as early as possible.He is 27yrs old.I respect islam and his family .
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very nice, you have nice future ahead as his family as no objection and you family is telling you to understand your love, means you can manage them.
Hey niya
Thats so nice 🙂 I feel happy to read it :’) .wish you luck 🙂 have a great life ahead.
and your parents are right, you wait and understand you love, also you are not yet mature for marriage as per Indian law, so you have time in your hand to think about your love
mac, are you talking about “a true love” or ultimate demand that to come to convert to Islam? If it is a true love, they will NOT be demanding religious conversion. This is just a love-jihad technique to lure a non-Muslim to Islam.
Gul, prove us wrong that he will accept you and keep you as a Sikh.
Admin, my above comment was for niya not for gul.
If she(niya) is willing to convert to islam and her family is not having any big issue, what is troubling you?
I didn`t bully those muslim girls who said they like Jainism.
thank you dear gul..wish you the same..!
Gul,
You may be 15 but we will respect you like you are 35 or even 95. This is your home and you are most welcomed here. We found you to be intelligent and in search of truth, and in this respect, you are lots smarter than most.
What you are missing is knowledge about complexities and reality of Hindu-Muslim married life. Over next 3 months, you will learn it all right here. Soon you will start educating other girls in your school/college. Best wishes.
Hi admin
If this is my home then you gotta support me instead you are scaring me. “ITS NOT IMPORTANT TO CONVERT”
Dear Gul,
There is no reason to be scared. Let us give you some lessons of life:
1) Be bold and fearless. You are not committing any crime so you do not have to be scared of anybody. People with limited knowledge get scared (even of God!), so gain “knowledge” and then your fear will disappear (actually that is what you are doing here now).
2) Always make fully “informed” decision in life. Again, saying it different way, increase your knowledge.
3) Listen to all but do that you feel that is right for you. In the end, be responsible for the outcome of your acts (and don’t be burden to any one, especially to parents).
4) Always ask to two people for their opinion on any issue. When you found any conflicting information between two, go check with two more people. This is the best way to make fully “informed” decision.
In your current situation,
5) Listen to Hindus and Muslims alike and with open mind.
6) Go to a local mosque and see what they do and see if you would be comfortable taking your children there.
7) Read Koran and Gita.
8) Go and spend 2 hours on your boy friend’s street, see if you would be happy making a living in such a place.
9) When your lover say something, follow #4 above. Go and challenge him why he said this or that, while others say otherwise. Don’t be blind in love, be smart.
10) Most important: Get top notched school/college education and then find an executive level job in a giant corporation. Then, you could rule the world. However, there is fierce competition out there, so start working on education now.
Does all these make sense?
Learn to remove your last name. We will not be able to delete now on-wards.
Hello.
A thought or we can a question is in my mind. My question to all the people who will reaf or have read this:-
Why everybody of you think muslims are bad?
I have heard of many sucessful hindu-muslim, sikh-muslim marriages. I really really want to prove everybody of you wrong who think that that guy my boyfriend will treat me badly and after using,me he will give me divorse. I cant prove this right now but I really want to prove when I am of a Suitable age to marry. And again i am sorry if I am rude.
sister,
here all are so smart and cheater including admin, That a muslim girl can marry hindu boy but hindu girl cant marry muslim boy. .
why? because they fear hindu girl can be convert to be a muslim before marriage. .and hindu population will be reduced. .thats what they call as love jihad. .but they dont know the meaning of jihad. . if same hindu boy willing to convert his lover(muslim girl) its ok for them. .
but fact is Islam is a fastest growing religion now a days but they didnt want to accept this. . .
Hello mohammed.
I know about jihaad. What do you think every muslim is jihaadi?
sister,
Many of the people misunderstood about the word “jihad” . .
according to me every muslims should be jihadi
Can you please tell me the meaning of jihad? And every muslim is jihaadi? Matlab? 😮
sister,
I have told you every muslim should want be jihadi. not every muslim is a jihadi. .
Jihad is an arabic word which derived from the root word “jahada” which means to strive and struggle for Allah(s.w.t) that you may succeed in this world as well as life after death. .
Many people misunderstood the word “jihad” . . They thought jihad is a killing to innocent people because of wrong information spreaded by the media. .
instead killing to the innocent people is haram(prohibited) in islam and its a major sin. .
while Allah says in the Quran
surah maida chapter 5 v 32
” Because of that, We decreed upon the Children of Israel that whoever kills a soul unless for a soul or for corruption [done] in the land – it is as if he had slain mankind entirely. And whoever saves one – it is as if he had saved mankind entirely. And our messengers had certainly come to them with clear proofs. Then indeed many of them, [even] after that, throughout the land, were transgressors.”
for example if a student strives to pass in the examination he is doing jihad.
same message on
bhagwat gita chapter 2 v 50
“Therefore strive for Yoga, O Arjuna, which is the art of all work.”
in bhagwat gita chapter 1 v 45
” I would consider better for the sons of Dhritarashtra to kill me unarmed and unresisting rather than fight with them.”
sister,
here all are so smart and cheater including admin, That a muslim girl can marry hindu boy but hindu girl cant marry muslim boy. .
why? because they fear hindu girl can be convert to be a muslim before marriage. .and hindu population will be reduced. .thats what they call as love jihad. .but they dont know the meaning of jihad. . if same hindu boy willing to convert his lover(muslim girl) its ok for them. .
They give you several reason to stop your relation. .
but fact is Islam is a fastest growing religion now a days but they didnt want to accept this. . .
Hey am sorry I didnt properly understood your comment thats why commented that. Am sorry. Well, I know. You know I just read about the problems we hindu girls have to face after getting married to a muslim guy the thing which was uploaded on this site. I was literally very very shocked to read that buy honestly I dont believe that and niether my guy is gonna do all that with me I am pretty sure.
well,
its good that you are understanding slowly. .be cool to face the problems and my advice is if you want to marry him then both of you marry with the same faith. . other wise you may get many problems to face in the future. .
now you can tell easily that either i dont want to convert nor he will convert..but in future you may get problems. .
both of you understand both the religions and decide it which is right for you. . .
Hey
In future If we marry we both wont change our religions and he desnt even want that to happen. He ready to convert himself and thats a point which proves hes a good man. I dont think so it is important to convert before getting married to a muslim guy.
Gul,
Muhammed is 100% right by saying “then both of you marry with the same faith“. This is the bottom line, realize it today or after 10 years into this love. Now instead of your love, think if Islam kabul hai?
Hey mohmmed
Your point is that coverstion is important? Well, if thats so then I dis agree.
sister,
its alright !! so how you are going to deal your life with ur family,relatives,communities etc. .
does they accept ur relationship?
Hey.
Thats what the problem is. They will not accept.
Mohammed, Gul xxxxx is Sikh not a hindu, there is a difference between Sikhism and Hinduism
Gul,
This is wrong to say that Muslims are bad. We know many many Muslims who are much better than others. However, you have to find out how is the guy you are dealing with. We are not talking about his face value but his religious beliefs. Most important question will be, do you have to convert to marry a Muslim? Go confirm with his parents. If they say you do not have to convert and they will accept you in their Muslim home as a Sikh/Hindu, then you got answer to all questions raised here.
Hey admin.
We both will live in a separate house but yes his parents are ready to accept its just his mother having a problem with my religion but she is a well educated women she will definatley Understand his som and will agree I am sure of that.
Admin can you please remove my second name please.
Done!
Lets know if there is any missed.
Hello everybody
Well, I just read everything right now.first of all everybody i dont want to marry right now Obviously I know I cant I am just 15 and I have nowhere mentioned that I want to marry him i just said that I want to be with him thats it.
Dear Gul,
To me first of all, it appears a fake story and fabricated contents. Secondly,
if it is true, you are just 15 years,having no knowledge of ups and downs, cultural barriers and bitter realities of life in such relations.So forget every thing on emotional attachments. Concentrate on your education.
Be aware of muslim guy(s), you may be a trap of sexual pleasure only and even if you are assured of marriage and blissful life, dont get swayed in the flattering commitments. You will be forced to lead a miserable life.
Hello.
This story is 100% true. Its not fake.
Same way we even don`t know who is Admin and he/she created a fake Fake Account to communicate
bro mac,
i want this comment on top of every topic. . .if some one comment then again u comment this.. .
Let others can know who is admin and what is his wonderfull background…
Fake was a wrong word and is corrected now.
She is Sikh, not Hindu.
gul, are you Sikh? If you have to convert to Islam as a requirement for marriage by Muslims, are you okay with it?
Hey admin
Yes I am sikh not hindu. And my guy doesnt want me to convert and I dont even want to convert. We want to live together forever we never imagined we have to go through all this. Well, whatever we both will respect eachothers religion and wont convert.
On this, “my guy doesnt want me to convert”, it is not him but his parents, community and Koran will make you convert (almost in 95% of cases).
Admn.
My request to you not to give cognizance to the text relating to love or marriage by BF/GF below age of 18 years. You should allow text above 18 years and above.
They are not matured and hence cannot take decision with judicious frame of mind and in the eyes of law, there is no substance in such life sharing experiences.
Hello rokhsana
I agree with you. But a question where should we kids go and share our thoughts, feelings and emotions? I know I am immature. I just wanted to share my feelings with you all but instead of Understanding and guiding me you are telling rybody or the admin to ignore? Well, you are elder than me I know but I think you are wrong. You need to Understand the feelings. Inam sorry if I am rude.
-gul.