Maria says: June 26, 2018 at 11:15 pm
(To Nandita)I don’t think it will be right to simply get converted for the sake of getting married in church if you want to continue your life as a Hindu and not follow Christian religion. I would like to share my story with you.
I am a Christian girl and my boyfriend is a Hindu. Before we got into the relationship I had told him that it is my dream to get married in a church, that’s why I cannot marry a non Christian. So we remained friends for a while and during that time we discussed our religious views and values. I am a person who follows Hinduism in a cultural level and respect the Vedic traditions. Gradually he started learning from me about Christianity and after a few months he asked me if it will be okay if you marry a Christian who is also a Hindu. It was a twisted situation… He said he will get baptized and will follow Christianity and go to church since he has already started liking going to church with me. But he cannot leave behind his Hindu culture. And he wants me to get married in a temple as well. I agreed and we started our relationship.
It’s been two years now. He comes to church with me on Sundays and we sometimes pray together he learned the Christian prayers and I learned some of the Sanskrit chants from him. We are planning to get married soon.
He introduced me to his family and they approve of me but are still trying to process the getting married in church part. My parents are still not convinced about him. I guess it will take some more time…. I don’t know if my story has anything to do here. But I just wanted to share it.
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I am a christian and my boyfriend who is a hindu got baptized so that he can fulfill my dream of getting married in a church. But he still wants to continue to lead a hindu life and keep his reservations. So we have decided to register our marriage under special marriage act once we get married in church. Can someone tell me if this is possible. Are there any legal complications here?
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Dear Maria,
Thank you for sharing your story. We see you can have a successful married life if you remain open minded.
Tell us where will you live after getting married? Are you going to move to that Hindu family to live with them?
As a Christian, you said, “I am a person who follows Hinduism in a cultural level and respect the Vedic traditions”, “he wants me to get married in a temple as well. I agreed” and “I learned some of the Sanskrit chants from him.” This is beautiful and shows that you are open minded. What part of Hinduism you don’t want him to follow? Did he agree?
We both are working in the city and staying there so we donot see ourselves moving into either of our family homes. We will get a place for ourselves.
He is not a very strict religious person and do not take part in religious practice as much as I do. All he does is an occasional visit to the temple which I am okey with. So looking from an outside point of view there is a domination of my religion over his in our relationship and that I simply because I have always been a rather strong followerof Christianity where as he donot follow Hinduism that strongly. I the relationship also we stay as what we are. I don’t think my relationship is based on equality. But it is based on a balance that we had created for ourselves.
Maria,
You have to realize that your marriage relationship is to last for next 70+ some years. Life will take lots of twist and turns. While dating time, all couples are very adaptive and going all the way to please their lover. However, after marriage, that could change 180 degree.
You are planning on your marriage based on inequality. What if he realize later that the church does not work for him and want to take his (your) children to Hindu temple? Will you end this relationship then?
What if your church decline to perform your wedding since you are also planning a Hindu wedding? If the church say no for the Hindu wedding, will he be happy? Ask the church earliest possible to be truthful.
We recommend to follow Jesus and not the church. Can you keep church at a distance and built your relationship based on true love and respect for each other (we believe that is what Jesus was about)?