Neha says: October 21, 2012 at 1:30 pm
hi priya…
i am also in same situation as you. I am a Jain girl and i love a Muslim boy from the past 8 years. He also loves me a lot and can do anything for me. we have decided to tell my parents about our relationship after one-two years. He always says that he is with me, whatever be the situations he never let me alone.
At present, the biggest issue for me is “non-veg”. I am not able to even think about that but he says that his family and even he never will force me to do this and he promises me that non-veg will never enter in our home.
i have complete trust on him but i always used to afraid about my children. I know, in my future life with him, he will never put any boundation on me as he always encourage me to achieve my goals and to do the things which i like. i feel so comfortable with him and hope things will be the same in future also.
i know it is bit difficult to adjust in a Muslim family for us but do you think that if you will marry a Hindu boy and he doesn’t love you then it will be easy for you? and no one has guarantee about future…and i strongly believe a line “whatever is written in our destiny, we have to face it” i suggest you to go with your love and try to understand his feelings and make him understand about your feelings with love. If he truly loves you then he will definitely understand you and your feelings.
8 years is not a short period…. you will never be able to give his place in your heart to anyone and even if you marry someone with someone else it really spoils three life and it is totally unfair with that guy who thinks that you are his wife and you only love him by heart….
one more thing i would like to say…according to me ‘nothing is greater than love’. definitely you have to adjust a lot but if you both try to understand each other then everything will become easy and then religion doesn’t matter.
Neha added:
I read the article ‘Hindu Girl’. It may be true in most of the cases but i am very happy because i already discussed all those things with my bf and we both are agreed with each other and find the ways which will not hurt the feelings of both of us and i know him since 8 years. no one knows us better than each other. After reading this article i feel so relaxed and so confident to marry with my Muslim love.
Thank you so much…. 🙂 -Neha
Admin says:
Hi Neha,
You are in relationship for 8 years, you will inform your parents in one to two years and may get married in another few years. Wow!! What a planning! Why it takes 10-15 years of your Golden period of life to make up your mind?
How are you planning to get married by? Jain wedding or Islamic Nikaah after religious conversion? You have said, “whatever is written in our destiny, we have to face it” and “Nothing is greater than love” does it mean you will convert to Islam for your love because it is probably written in your destiny? Only fool will have “whatever is written in our destiny” as a strategy. We hope, instead of “Nothing is greater than love”, you will say … if he ask for conversion, I will kick that Telibani to teach him a real lesson of life.
Are your children going to be Muslim only, or secular both Muslim and Jain? Can your children have Jain first names? Does he come to Derasar and bow to murtis (idols?) there? Will he fast with you for the Paryusen and you do for the Ramadan?
Please ask your boyfriend to read Muslim Boy. Next go and talk to his parents and tell them about your planned marriage, life and way to raise children.
Major issues will come up when parents are involved. We highly recommend not to waste any more time, talk to both parents within next two months. We hope to hear from you by the end of this year. -Admin.
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I am alos in love with a jain girl we both but not able to manage the future planning how convince parents. she don’t have mother her mother run way with his bf and his father is handicapped his cacha is all for him and he don’t want to do wrong think with them .now I can’t leave tell me what to do .
Hi Faiz,
Are you expecting her to change religion for the marriage? How are you planning to get married (which process)? Are your parents ready to accept a “Jain” as their daughter-in-law?
I’m a Jain girl ND I really love a Muslim boy I don’t know wheather it is correct or not shall I share my feelings with him or not I’m really confused but I think that we should definitely remove this castesim from our country love doesn’t have any caste only human beings have
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Sangeeta,
Castesm is not between 2 religion. Caste is a inter-religion. Anyway the way you thinks is wrong. If both religion is balanced then your opinion is OK. But look the islam religion, they only want to conquer only land and want to spread their religion. Look at Kashmir pandits were genocide, Kerala Hindu peoples are killing by Mulims, Westbegal etc because of Islam. My humble request dont take this destructive steps, first consult your parent who makes you great from your childhood to till date. Also there are many chances is that post marriage you will see and face the real problem that you never ever faced. Be careful.
You are JAIN and highest respect for you.
See this Video captured in Kerala. How muslims are attacking Hindu just crossed 30% of their population. When they crossed 50% population, then I am sure they will start genocide and force conversion rapidly.
https://www.facebook.com/sukumar.rangachari/videos/1523843341046977/
You decide what to do. Nation first and then your love
Hai frnds iam a muslim boy and iam loving a jain girl but she cant love me iam still loving her i like him very much when raise the question how i cannot express i dont the marrage is correct or not but in my life i cannot need any think with out her…………………………………..i want to say that u can love any girl/boy never cant put the back step
Do you know what is ur faith?
do you know what ur faith instructs?
Asif,
How are you going to marry her, with Islamic Nikaah? If yes, go tell her (and her parents) that after Shahadah she will have to be 100% Muslim and 0% Jain. If you think you are going to marry by a Jain wedding, go talk to your parents if they are okay.
Fake post …. This post is posted by a Muslims boy…
wow,
lots of hatered comment for muslims, and sure why not cause its India.
Dear Neha, one thing u should know that without convertion of ur relligion to islam u cant marry to a muslim boy. secondly just for marrying a muslim boy please dont acept islam, thirdly nikkah is not permited unless ur parents is not agree……
So please find out what relligion Islam is ? or u can join to those of cow dung worshiper.
When you can abuse people from other religions as cow dung followers, why are you surprised about hate comments from others? People sitting in glass buildings cannot afford to throw stones.
marriyng a muslim guy and living with him is very difficult never ever marry them
they would never change their religion but we have to change it for them all muslims are sluts
Islam is the religion of peace and love.I respect all other religions because Quran
says “there I’d no problem if you pick any religionf.” Why should we fight over such things?Not all Muslims are Taliban ! Kafir means a person who doesn’t believe in God not a person of any other religion and there are secondary ruled in Islam which mean that s leader of the ci etfy can change wrong rules like marrying a child and it I’d not encouraged in real Islam please let humanity and love breathe in this world Islam says any person is free to choose his own religion so no one can force his children to be Muslim
NEHA I think you are just fooling around and this is not a real post. Jain and muslim together for 8 years. Remember Islam is the worst religion in the world for women. The muslim youth all world round try to tactfully get hindu girls in relation as they just want to extend their family. If you are so silly that you want to make your life hell, go forward with your decision. Many posts here truly reflect how life has become like hell after marrying into muslim community. Parents are obtained by karmas of previous births only. Don’t fall into the trap of marrying this cunning muslim guy. Think about your parents. They gave you life, brought you up, no one will forgive you if you marry to a muslim. Have some brains even before thinking about such a thing. There are many handsome, rich, loyal grooms in your community also.
Hi..
I’m a Jain Girl, i’m 26 year old.
I have question .. I’m so confuse how to tell my parents about my situation..? Should i tell or Not..? Should go ahead or not..?
I’m in love with a Black American , he is my colleague . We share good chemistry,, I’m working in UAE. and my parents are staying in Back home in India.. they are looking proposal for me.
I like him.. he believe in Vegetarian food habit.. and eat 90% vegetarian.. He has express his feeling many times , he respect my religion.. and my Family Value and He is a very Decent Guy. He has told many time he will take care like anything .. he ask me to talk to my parents also.. and he is ready to to talk with them.. but i haven’t shown seriousness because I’m afraid How would they will behave with him..? .. .. .. ..
I have only one thing in my Mind .. that I wanna Marry him.. as far as i know about my parents are so strict..
Can someone help me .. pls
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Neha till my knowledge i think i know u r u a homeopaty doctor & have got married to a guy name khalid
U have hurted ur parents i m sure ur parents must have fulfilled all ur wishes till now in return they only want that u marry to someone of there choice & marrying to a muslim guy must have brought bad name to there family
I think u r nothing but a self centered selfish girl who only think about yourself without thinking about ur family & parents.
Neha,
Let us know if you are married, how did you got married by?
You said, “After reading this article i feel so relaxed and so confident to marry with my Muslim love”, please do not be relax. Real issues will start coming soon. Please do not plan for a child for at least two years. If you suspect any problem, delay the plan to be a mother. If necessary, do not hesitate to go back to your parents to cry, they will always love you.
Please update us as you go along.
NEVER A MRRY A MUSLIM GUY UNDERSTAND MARRY IN JAINS
MANY BOYS THEY ARE ALWAYS UNFAITHFULL
Dear Aryan,
Minimum age for a female as per the Vedas is 16 years and for the male it’s 25 years. The Vedas say, “A child, only when born of a male of more than 25 years and a female of more than 16 years, can have a life span for 100 years”. Said this, the usual age of the women used to be more as they were also supposed to be able to chose their own husbands as enshrined in Manusmriti.
To know in detail, see the following link:
http://agniveer.com/category/society/woman
Hi,
Before their wedding ceremony begins in rural Afghanistan, a 40-year-old man sits to be photographed with his 11-year-old bride. The girl tells the photographer that she is sad to be engaged because she had hoped to become a teacher. Her favorite class was Dari, the local language, before she had to leave her studies to get married.
She is one of the 51 million child brides around the world today. And it’s not just Muslims; it happens across many cultures and regions.
Photographer Stephanie Sinclair has traveled the world taking pictures, like the one of the Afghan couple, to document the phenomenon. Christiane Amanpour spoke with Sinclair about a book which features her photographs called, “Questions without Answers: The World in Pictures by the Photographers of VII.”
Faiz, 40, and Ghulam, 11, sit in her home prior to their wedding in rural Afghanistan in 2005.
Amanpour asked Sinclair if the 11-year-old Afghan girl married in 2005, and others like her, consummate their marriages at such an early age. Sinclair says while many Afghans told her the men would wait until puberty, women pulled her aside to tell her that indeed the men do have sex with the prepubescent brides.
Sinclair has been working on the project for nearly a decade. She goes into the areas with help from people in these communities who want the practice to stop, because they see the harmful repercussions.
“Whenever I saw him, I hid. I hated to see him,” Tehani (in pink) recalls of the early days of her marriage to Majed, when she was 6 and he was 25. The young wife posed for this portrait with former classmate Ghada, also a child bride, outside their mountain home in Yemen.
In Yemen, a similar picture. Tehani and Ghada are sisters-in-law photographed with their husbands, who are both members of the military. Like most of the girls, Tehani didn’t even know she was getting married, until the wedding night. She was six years old.
Tehani describes how she entered the marriage, “They were decorating my hands, but I didn’t know they were going to marry me off. Then my mother came in and said, ‘Come on my daughter.’ They were dressing me up and I was asking, ‘Where are you taking me?’”
@Veena:Child maariage was rampant in India as well.But thanks to the law now its not practised in most of the country.But it still prevails in some adivasi communties or backward classes.Girls are still married of at age of 16.recent comments of haryana khap show the mindset of people in rural India.the law needs to be stricter on these issues.nobody can be above law.but in islamic countries there is no such law.so it is bound to happen.infact the rulers there marry young girls of 10-11 yrs.so u cant expect any changes there.God protect the women there.i seriously pity them.imagine what their child will say to them?30 yrs age diffrnce is too much.and 11yrs is not the age to marry.Religion surely affects ur mindset towards things.And when Muhammad himself married such a young girl what a role model he is for child marriages.y so backwardness of people in arabic countries.U know what women over there must be waiting to get out of the hell there.So God protect them and give them enough strength like Malala.she should be the role model now for all Muslims
I agree that child marriage is also practised in India and it has reduced to a large extent. However it’s pattern is very different from what what we see in Muslim countries. The age difference between the bride and groom. In case of India, both brides and grooms are of comparable age. If the bride is of 12-13 years, the groom is also likely to be 15-16 years or so. On the other hand, in Islamic countries, the age differences between the brides and grooms is staggering. If the bride is of 11-12 years, the groom may be even 50+ years. I don’t understand, why the parents of the bride don’t look for similar age grooms instead of the brides’ grand fathers’ age grooms! This disparity of age is of grave consequences as the newly wedded bride may have to share her husband family where whe may have step-sons who are older than her! The whole world must wake up to cure this social disease.
Hello every body,
I have been reading comments on different blogs on this site and found that Amir, Indian,Srinivas,even Hindu girl, posing different names, disguising their exact identity, are writing all non sense here in favour of cruelty, discrimination, rapist character. Our muslim girls should be aware of these types of persons. Such people are responsible for the worst condition of muslim women in the world.
Hello,
Perhaps Srinivas is a Mulla or Maulvi, mentality of Prophet Muhammad, ?
Will he agree for marrying his own daughter or sister of 6 years age to 59 year old shaitan like prophet Muhammad?
Srinivas must be hakkani group of talibani? Shame on the name.
Dear Nargis,
I don’t know about Srinivas, but there are many slaves of Muhammad who won’t hesitate in marrying off their daughters/sisters to Muhammad like people becoz they have been brain washed. They don’t see anything wrong with the following practices, in fact they insist that they are practiced religiously:
1. Marrying young girls with grand fatherly people.
2. Marrying girls with a married person.
3. Marrying cousins.
4. practice of burqa/niqab is just fine.
5. Women should go out of home only with a male.
6. cruel practice of circumcision and qurbani
Nice to be called like that.
Oh…then I am just a hate monger.
Neha is mad to spoil her life.all these girls have gone mad.what is the guarantee they wont be compelled after marriage for conversion?i guess they plan to make their life hell already.
You must be one damn Hindu communal and misogynist too…LOL.
srinivas what do u mean by it?u should make fun of all u come across.u dont understand the complexity involved.and after i accidently came across the site ‘topix.com’ i just feel sic of some people.specially pakis are real sic.whatever shit they write for our Goddess.atleast Indian Muslims are somewhat better bcoz they stay wid Hindus.but there are ‘morons’ here also in India.who backstab.they should be taught whats tolerance n respect.unpadh gavar log.
I am just pointing to how these Hindu girls (wanna be Jodhas)will think about people like you and me….
They can not be helped. They think they do not need any help. They feel they are achieving a kind of celebrity like status.
It is a waste of time talking to them….
happy Dussehra to all.May Goddess Durga show u all the right path and save u from falling in problems.
The Dussehra reminds us the victory of women’s saviours over the oppressors/kidnappers of women. Let’s take inspiration and destroy the demon/the ideology oppressing the women.
May Mata Durga (women power) give us strength to accomplish this task without any further delay.
Hello every one,
The story of Priya and Neha in my opinion is not compatible. Jains are kind hearted, peace loving, high moral, pure vegetarian, where as Muslims are violent, cruel, non vegetarian.Even in Quran to convert any one, telling a lie is allowed,. In fact islam is not a good religion for females, beating wives, keeping extra marital affairs, sexual torture is allowed in the name of Islam.
Myself from Indonesia, presently in a Latin American country, working as Lead auditor (EMS). I have travelled worldwide and found that Hindus are liberal, kind hearted, open minded and respect their wives.
I am also in love with a Hindu boy,who met me in Japan and soon shall be marrying him.
Please rethink your decision as life is not supposed to be made hell during life time only.
God bless you both.
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dear Neha,its better if u sign an agreement with him.whats the guarantee he wont force things on you.there should be a written agreement between you two to clarify on things so that u dont land up in trouble if he thinks of changing his intentions.if he really loves u then he will sign on the things agreed between u both.like not forcing religion on u and kids ,for property as well.u never know when he will show his back to u.
Written agreement with the boy has not much meaning, best is to meet his parents and tell them that I am going to remain 100% Jain after marrying your son and truly believe in Mahavir Swami. Further, even my your Muslim son is going to come to our derasara (temple) to pray to the Allah. See what they have to say.
It is unbelievable that you have not done above in last 8 years??!! It takes only 10 min to tell all these to find facts, and you do not have time to learn the facts?
cant they sign an agreement along with the marriage contract and attach it to the contract?there is no harm in doing that.she should go for some legal advise regarding this contract.it is possible as far as i know.breach can result in case against the boy.
First they have to decide if there will be an Islamic Nikaah wedding. There cannot be a Nikaah without conversion. If one don’t have an intention to be a Muslim, why to “fake” convert and lie?
Hello Neha and Priya,
If your story is correct, it means you are determined to spoil your life by marrying muslim guys. In order to marry you, they can lie to any extent but once you are married, see their behaviour , how they change, putting all sorts of restrictions on you both, keeping in burqua, self going for another 3 wives, as Quran gives me so leverage to exploit females, you will be treated just like a sex doll. Read stories of Sabana, Nigar, Chand Osmani, Veena Malik, Salma Agha, Husna,Shamim etc.
You will not be able to run your marriage life even for 2 years, you may be brutually beaten repeated if you ignore your muslim husband or he may even chop your body parts. There is no kindness and humanity in them. If you still wants to lead a miserable and prostitutes life, go and marry them.
Please be more informative regarding Taqiya, through quran or sahih hadiths.
Given link does not have any referance…:(
Neha,
Are you giving a company to Priya or consoling her that she is not alone to be a Hindu begam of the follower of Muhammad? What’s guarantee that the would be husband will keep all his promises even after marriage (when the girl’s fate has already has been sealed in a Muslim lifestyle) against all his family members, festivals and community leaders? Do you think that he will stop the Qurbani (killing animals on Bakr-id) and none of his family members will object to it? Do you know that the Qurbani practice is part and parcel of the Muslims?
It is allowed in Islam to tell lies to Kafirs (non-Muslims) if it benefit the Muslims or helps spreading Islam. This is called Taqiya.
If you don’t believe me go to the following site:
http://www.deenislam.co.uk/demo/heart/Lying.htm
Thanks for spreading the truth, Amir, user indian, and others hindu haters will not tell this to world, there are many things they hide. Thanks for letting these secular people know that both parties must be secular, thats where muslims take undue advantage by faking secularism.
I am not hater at all.
But i feel there are more hateful people in perticular community. Reading comments on this site makes it very clear.
By the way 2 questions for you..
who is Secular???
What things are hide ?