Iranian: I am marrying a Hindu boy

Sahila on Hymen Replacement Surgery says: January 5, 2013 at 2:22 am

Hello every body,

Previsouly from Iran but presently born and brought up in Canada and also studied in coeducation pattern here. I am 27 years old and working girl in Toronto. During my study, I got in touch with several boy friends and enjoyed premarital sex frequently, loosing my virginity at 18 years old, since I was greatly impressed by canadian life style and deadly against muslim restrictions on females, as I obvserved in case of my mother since childhood.

My parents wanted me to marry my own cousin haling from Iran also but settled here. I happened to talk to him on various issues and came to know that he wanted a virgin wife, whereas he was married earlier and divorced his wife. I told him frankly when you are not virgin, how can think of a virgin wife? His mother came to know about this argument and one day came to me and asked me whether I was virgin or not? I told her that I shall marry only a virgin husband not your son. Ultimately relationship for future broke. Now I am marrying a Hindu boy, who knows every thing about me and working my company also.

My purpose to write all these things is just to make aware our sisters not to marry such muslim guys who are not virgin themselves but need a virgin wife. We should oppose such discriminatory mind set of islamic religion.

IN MY VIEW HYMEN REPAIR SURGERY IS A BOON FOR MUSLIM GIRLS OTHERWISE THEIR EXISTENCE SHALL COME TO AN END. IF MALES CAN CHEAT, FEMALE MUST CHEAT. TIT FOR TAT. -Sahila

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Sahila added: January 7, 2013 at 2:32 am

Thanks Admin and Suma,

I shall be marrying through Hindu traditions with out coverting my religion. I wish to live a graceful and respectful life with my husband.

My message to the muslim sisters is the same that they should oppose evil traditions of islamic religion to torture females. -Sahila

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11 Comments

  • muslim
    January 13, 2013 1:57 am

    Islam has given an esteemed rankto women. Allah Almighty announces in a verse, Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your lifetime, do not say”Ugh!” to them (as an indication of complaint or impatience), nor push them away, and always address them in gracious words. (Al-Isra Surah, 17:23)
    The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) announces, Heaven is under the feet of mothers. Let us touch briefly on the objection that some put forward saying there is o equality between men and women in Islam.
    Allah Almighty has instances of wisdom in infinite numbers. He creates in whatever way He pleases. He may give some peopledifferent capabilities and talents from others. No creatures can ever interfere with this will.
    Allah Almighty has not created men and women equally in all ways. To try to make these two genders equal in every way is only possible to change the nature of genders, which is impossible. The male and female natures differ from each other inmany ways. Considering the fact that judgments are made on behalf of majority, we can say that: men are superior in terms of strength, courage, and boldness whereas women are superior in compassion, tenderness, and fidelity. Both men and women may excel each other at some ways. Within family, the excelling sides of both are combined and thus the needs and happiness of the family are met.
    Since men are superior in strength, Allah Almighty, in the first place, has held men responsible for the family and protecting them from any kind of danger both physically and spiritually. This truth has been clearly written in the Holy Book: Men (those who are able to carryout their responsibilities) are the protectors and maintainers of women inasmuch as God has endowed some of people (in some respects) with greater capacity than others and inasmuch as they (the men) spend of their wealth (for the familys maintenance). Good, righteous women are the devoted ones (to God) and observant (of their husbands rights), who guard the secrets (family honor and property, theirchastity, and their husbands rights, especially where there is none to see them and in the absence of men) as God guards and keeps undisclosed (what should be guarded and private). (An-Nisa Surah, 4:34)
    Islam, on the one hand, wishes men to answer the needs of women, on the other hand, wishes women to be obedient totheir husbands. The verse above teaches us both the superiority of men and the virtue of women.
    However, being the head of the family is one thing, being superior in the religion is quite another thing. According to the Holy Quran, the criterion of the superiority is not gender but taqwa. Taqwa in short means fearing Allah, avoiding from sins, abstaining from the behaviors, manners, and words that He disapproves.
    For a family to continue its welfare and harmony it is of great importance that man be the head of the family and woman obey him. Absolute equality ruins the harmony in thefamily through when women do not obey their husbands, spoils the welfare and happiness, and mostly causes divorces.
    Just as it is necessary for a woman to obey her husband, it is also necessary for a man to maintain his wifes rights. It is a fallacy that in Islam women are slaves to men. On the contrary, inIslam women have more pleasures than men do. Because in Islam men are obliged to provide alimony for women in a case of divorce, whereas womenare exempted from that. Islam has given the duty of raising a child to women, which is the most essential and pleasurable thing for a woman to do. That is why Allah Almighty has given the feeling of compassion more to women than men have.
    Today what some call freedom of women has only brought about womens falling into debauchery and misery. However, Islam has protected their honor by ordering to remain chaste.
    Some circles present the Islamic order of veiling as the restrictionof freedom of women.
    First one need to know that veiling is not only an Islamic rule, but it is a rule of all divine religions. Nuns veiling themselvesis a clear proof to that.
    Veiling is not peculiar to women; it is a natural necessity for the whole humankind. It is impossible to see naked people around in any country. The point of debate is on its limits. In Islam women are obliged to cover all their parts which could evoke men sexual feelings. In this way, they protect their honor and chastity in the world, and win eternal bliss in the hereafter. On the other hand, when women wear immodestly, they lead men into sins, and according to the Islamic rule the one who causes is like the one who does, the same sins that men commit also go to women. The Islamic order of veiling protects women from such dangers.

  • muslim
    January 13, 2013 1:56 am

    Islam gives right of woman to marry a muslim man. If she is not consent for marriage marriage then marriage is not valid

  • suhail
    January 13, 2013 1:48 am

    Islam has given an esteemed rankto women.

    Allah Almighty announces in a verse, Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your lifetime, do not say”Ugh!” to them (as an indication of complaint or impatience), nor push them away, and always address them in gracious words. (Al-Isra Surah, 17:23)
    The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) announces, Heaven is under the feet of mothers. Let us touch briefly on the objection that some put forward saying there is o equality between men and women in Islam.
    Allah Almighty has instances of wisdom in infinite numbers. He creates in whatever way He pleases. He may give some peopledifferent capabilities and talents from others. No creatures can ever interfere with this will.
    Allah Almighty has not created men and women equally in all ways. To try to make these two genders equal in every way is only possible to change the nature of genders, which is impossible. The male and female natures differ from each other inmany ways. Considering the fact that judgments are made on behalf of majority, we can say that: men are superior in terms of strength, courage, and boldness whereas women are superior in compassion, tenderness, and fidelity. Both men and women may excel each other at some ways. Within family, the excelling sides of both are combined and thus the needs and happiness of the family are met.
    Since men are superior in strength, Allah Almighty, in the first place, has held men responsible for the family and protecting them from any kind of danger both physically and spiritually. This truth has been clearly written in the Holy Book: Men (those who are able to carryout their responsibilities) are the protectors and maintainers of women inasmuch as God has endowed some of people (in some respects) with greater capacity than others and inasmuch as they (the men) spend of their wealth (for the familys maintenance). Good, righteous women are the devoted ones (to God) and observant (of their husbands rights), who guard the secrets (family honor and property, theirchastity, and their husbands rights, especially where there is none to see them and in the absence of men) as God guards and keeps undisclosed (what should be guarded and private). (An-Nisa Surah, 4:34)
    Islam, on the one hand, wishes men to answer the needs of women, on the other hand, wishes women to be obedient totheir husbands. The verse above teaches us both the superiority of men and the virtue of women.
    However, being the head of the family is one thing, being superior in the religion is quite another thing. According to the Holy Quran, the criterion of the superiority is not gender but taqwa. Taqwa in short means fearing Allah, avoiding from sins, abstaining from the behaviors, manners, and words that He disapproves.
    For a family to continue its welfare and harmony it is of great importance that man be the head of the family and woman obey him. Absolute equality ruins the harmony in thefamily through when women do not obey their husbands, spoils the welfare and happiness, and mostly causes divorces.
    Just as it is necessary for a woman to obey her husband, it is also necessary for a man to maintain his wifes rights. It is a fallacy that in Islam women are slaves to men. On the contrary, inIslam women have more pleasures than men do. Because in Islam men are obliged to provide alimony for women in a case of divorce, whereas womenare exempted from that. Islam has given the duty of raising a child to women, which is the most essential and pleasurable thing for a woman to do. That is why Allah Almighty has given the feeling of compassion more to women than men have.
    Today what some call freedom of women has only brought about womens falling into debauchery and misery. However, Islam has protected their honor by ordering to remain chaste.
    Some circles present the Islamic order of veiling as the restrictionof freedom of women.
    First one need to know that veiling is not only an Islamic rule, but it is a rule of all divine religions. Nuns veiling themselvesis a clear proof to that.
    Veiling is not peculiar to women; it is a natural necessity for the whole humankind. It is impossible to see naked people around in any country. The point of debate is on its limits. In Islam women are obliged to cover all their parts which could evoke men sexual feelings. In this way, they protect their honor and chastity in the world, and win eternal bliss in the hereafter. On the other hand, when women wear immodestly, they lead men into sins, and according to the Islamic rule the one who causes is like the one who does, the same sins that men commit also go to women. The Islamic order of veiling protects women from such dangers.

  • suhail
    January 11, 2013 11:26 pm

    All stories fake under muslim names and Those who marry non muslims did not remain muslims and will go to hell forever life after death tell them you are not muslims. To learn about islam vist http://www.usislam.org for more ioformation about islam

    • Aarafa
      January 12, 2013 8:16 am

      Suhail is the son of a terrorist or murderer like Prophet.

      Do you know how your mother had to prove virginity on the wedding night?

      Do you want that your own daughter of 6 year is married to a 59 year old man to rape?

      • zahid
        January 16, 2013 1:29 pm

        I think your father had asked virginity of your mother.

  • January 7, 2013 2:32 am

    Thanks Admn. and Suma,

    I shall be marrying through Hindu traditions with out coverting my religion. I wish to live a graceful and respectufl life with my husband.
    My message to the muslim sisters is the same that they should oppose evil traditions of islamic religion to torture females.

    • January 12, 2013 8:25 am

      Congratulations for taking a bold step to live a graceful life. Keep us posted for how your life goes. Best wishes.

      Please come out to guide other needy women (and men) on this site for their interfaith marriage issues.

    • zahid
      January 16, 2013 1:34 pm

      You do not believe in teachings of islam then you are not muslim and then you will go to hell. to know real teaching of islam vist http://www.usislam.com or http://www.muslimconverts.com

  • suma usa
    January 5, 2013 2:58 pm

    Khaili kush ummadi khanum sahila(very glad).Ali Sina PhD was from Iran and presently an canadian immigrant. He runs a vibrant blog by name faithfreedom.org.,he analysed Mohammad very thoroughly and hence every muslims must read his forum. There is also formermuslims.com blog which i recommend to muslims. Dont be afraid to call a spade a spade. Good luck with the hindu man, hope everything works out fine for you both. On a sidenote,Shias have been protected by Indians for many centuries, whereas shias are slaughtered by Pakis and Saudis as we speak. Sadly all Iranians who were Zorashtrians origially have been forcibly converted and made into militants by Turks and Arabs.

  • January 5, 2013 12:29 pm

    Sahila,

    You are lucky that you are in the West, educated and financially independent and now found a liberal Hindu to marry, but how about other Muslim girls like Sara? What can you do for them? What should Sara do for her planned marriage in two months?

    Come to your marriage, how are you planning to get married by? will that be the Islamic Nikaah after religious conversion of that Hindu to Islam? What are you planning to teach your children from Koran?

    Do you consider yourself a Muslim or you already denounced Islam?

    Can you come and guide other youths on this web site to help for their love and planned marriage?

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