Be carefull while taking ur life’s decisions

sana jafri says: March 14, 2013 at 8:30 am

All muslim sisters,

my name is sana jafri. i am a married women having 1 daughter. i live in pune. please be carefull while taking ur life’s decisions.

i was in love with a hindu boy named shrikant. he lives in mubai. we met on internet and get colse to each other. and very soon got in relationship. then i realise that i am a married women and having 1 daughter. and i shared all info with him. still he was very crazy to have relationship with me. i agreed and loving him too much.

i came to mumbai to meet him on his demand. he said k we will stay in mumbai only and get married. after that u can claim your daughter from your husband. and he was agree to take care of my daughter. when i met him and we stay in a room for 3days. and the 4th day we were going to do court marriage. that day shrikant went to bring something and never come back. i wait for more 2 days in that hotel. and call him many times. he did not pickup my call…and i came back to pune.

i gave him my all soul and he just used me for his thrust. he has broken my trust and even all those girl’s trust who love their boyfriends more then their life’s even not thinking of their parents and all bonding.

i trusted him very much as he talked with me very nice “i will marry u only” “i will die without you” and lots off…sent me a roses and chocolates, dresses on my birthday and win my trust and break it in few days.

i love him today too but just sharing this story for those who love blindly. don’t do it. and shrikant’s no today also working but he never pick my call and if i called from any other now he disconnect the call when here my voice.

i can not do anything to find him bcause i am not aware of mumbai city. and i live in pune. i am sharing shrikant’s no. here. if anybody can help me to find him please do replay on this post. i will be thankful for your favor.

9920_ _ _303. this is shrikant’s no i can not publish d full no here. because i tried it many times but it does not appear.

so shrikant if u read this post please come back. i want to spend all my life with u. i never ask you to convert in muslims. i will love you as you are now. i want only you. -sana jafri

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Admin says:

Dear Sana,

Thank you for sharing your life story. Yes, girls from ALL religions should read this. Bad people are there in ALL faiths. There are plenty of con-artists there and they will do or say anything for free sex.

In life, nothing comes easy. If you found something very easily and is too good, remember it may not be what you think. Especially the con-artist will be most attractive to you, because that is their profession. Now, this Shrikant (may not be even his true name) may be out trapping a few more girls on internet.

Beware of con-artists.
Love on internet is dangerous.
“Love” is short lasting, only real compatibility between couple will drive your life. If you don’t believe in this statement, go ask any married person or better ask your parents about their “love”.
The guy (or girl) who has slept with 10 other lovers before may look more appealing to you (because they are professional), while you may not like at first sight an innocent first timer (too naive but genuine).
Do not rush into decision for marriage, give at least 1-2 years of dating period to know the person.
Always, as hard it will be, involve parents in very early stage of your dating. Parents take time to understand and accept new reality, give them time.
Always meet your bf (of gf)’s parents, relatives, friends. This is a good way of knowing your lower.
If you are sincere and don’t believe in taking chances, NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE or no extra-marital sex. Only a true lover will hangs on you and the one who has only lust for you, will walk away.

We would like to quote what Abida has stated here earlier: “By nature girls are innocent and emotional, whosoever respects them (even falsely), they get trapped. There are so many anti social elements in the society who are disguised as gentlemen but internally conspirator

Sana, sorry that you got trapped. Admin.


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10 Comments

  • March 19, 2013 11:37 am

    I am muslim girl, working in a hospital in Zambia age 27 years and in love with a Black african age 29 years, who is also working in the same hospital, by religion he is christian.

    My parents wants to marry a muslim guy, who also talked to me one day. His mother also met me and said that they a virgin daughter in law. I asked what about the virginity of their son, she ignored to reply directly and said male is not needed to be virgin. I straightway refused to marry him. I am not virgin and had been in sexual relations with my BF, who is ready to accept me as his soulmate.

    We know each other and understands nature and likings of each other.

    Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4822

  • March 19, 2013 8:34 am

    PROSTITUTION BY ANY OTHER NAME: MUTA MARRIAGE

    “Muta Marriage” is a short term contractual relationship, lasting hours or a few days, where the man gives something of value to a woman and they “marry” and engage in sex for an agreed length of time. Once the contractual time expires the marriage is over and they go their own ways. This is legalized Islamic prostitution. Men get satisfaction and women get something of value, be it money, or clothing, or even a Quranic recital.

    Narrated Abdullah: We used to participate in the holy wars carried on by the Prophet and we had no women (wives) with us. So we said (to the Prophet ). “Shall we castrate ourselves?” But the Prophet forbade us to do that and thenceforth he allowed us to marry a woman (temporarily) by giving her even a garment, and then he recited: “O you who believe! Do not make unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you.” Bukhari: Volume 6, Book 60, Number 139.

    Temporary “Muta” marriage is practiced today and often arranged by Imams and other Islamic leaders in Europe (the city centre’s where Shia Muslims cluster), America (Shia parts of Dearborn, Michigan), and of course in the Mideast. The most common victims of Muta marriage are destitute widows and orphaned girls who are sold to old men. These females are driven to extreme means to pay rent and feed themselves and their children. These females are abused by both the men who purchase them and the Islamic leaders. Muhammad’s system allows them to be abandoned and then exploited rather than responding with charity and compassion.

    Sunni Muslims do not normally practice Muta marriage. But many Sunni Muslims today are ashamed of what Muhammad did because they know that Muhammad allowed prostitution to satisfy his men’s wants. And that’s the same story with Muhammad again and again. Like Felix and his bag of tricks, Muhammad always managed to pull a “revelation” out of thin air and change the rules of the game. If one reads the “Sirat Rasulallah”, (“The Life of Muhammad”, by A. Guillaume), one will find that Muhammad allowed, then disallowed, then allowed, then disallowed Muta marriage, etc. several times. Muhammad’s rules and religion depended on circumstances, not on God’s will.

  • March 17, 2013 11:14 am

    Madharchod Zunaid,

    You always talk all non sense here.Shut up your ugly mouth.
    You donot know any thing. pointing out different sites, but have you seen your mother or sisters position in islam? Do you know, maulvies and imams are involved in sexual games leading to prostitutions and earning a lot?
    In writing every thing may appear very good, but what is reality? Do you know who is your actual father? Even your mother does not know, by whose sperms you have born, as she was forced to have sex with multiple males by maulvies? Maulvies are suppose to teach good things, but are they doing that? They are indulged in rape, sodomy in madarsas and arranging muta marriages for rich people from girls of poor families? You are product of muta marriage, no doubt?

  • March 15, 2013 9:44 am

    Hello muslim sisters,

    As a sheer act of desperation and an obvious attempt of trying to justify Muhammad’s perversions, Osama distorts the following text in order to prove that the Bible condones Muta:

    “If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to be married and lies with her, he shall give THE BRIDE-PRICE for her and make her HIS WIFE. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to THE BRIDE-PRICE for virgins.” Exodus 22:16-17

    Anyone reading this passage can obviously see that this has absolutely nothing to do with Muta. Rather, this is dealing with a situation in which two parties engage in premarital sex. The verses demand that the person must marry the maiden whom he has seduced into having sex and pay her the bride price. Now in situations where the father of the young maiden refuses to give his daughter to the man then the father is to still receive the bride price, and the reason for doing so should be clear to the readers. By accepting the bride price the persons would be classified as husband and wife, with the sexual act being that which consummated their marital union. The father’s refusal to give his daughter to her seducer would function as a notice that the couple ended up getting a divorce in order to protect his daughter from being shunned by the community which would prevent her from ever remarrying.

    In light of the foregoing, how in the world can anyone claim that this is analogous to Muta? As we will discuss in more detail shortly, the main purpose for Muta was to permit men to satisfy their lustful, perverted desires by temporarily marrying a woman for a sum of money or fee. The text in Exodus, on the other hand, is dealing with the unfortunate situation of persons who engage in premarital sex and has nothing to do with a man pretending to marry a maiden for a sum of money with the intention of leaving her as soon as the specified time period for this sexual perversion has terminated.

    In other words, Muta is a contract where the man pays a certain price beforehand for the temporary marriage (sexual service) that the woman will then deliver for a certain period of time. That is what makes it legalized prostitution.

    The above passage, on the other hand, specifies the punishment for the man who did something forbidden. He has to pay a hefty sum for doing what was not allowed. In Muta the man pays for sexual service that is then legally his. In the Bible passage the man has to pay a penalty for doing what was forbidden.

    With the same logic, one could claim that buying a car is equivalent to stealing it and then paying a fine when getting caught.

    Osama’s gross reading of this text reminds us of the following passage:

    “To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled.” Titus 1:15

    It is only those whose hearts and minds are perverted who can distort God’s Word in the manner in which Osama distorts it.

    Osama complained that the Holy Bible prescribes no physical discipline such as flogging for fornicators, or for those who engage in premarital sex, like that found in the Quran. The answer is rather simple, why should there be a specific punishment for this sin? Is God required to prescribe physical punishments for every specific sin a person commits? Isn’t God’s command that the person must marry the young maiden who he has slept with punishment enough in that it shows that one cannot simply sleep with someone without being bound to that individual for life?

    What is even more amazing about Osama’s objection is his selectivity. Osama has no problem with the fact that the Quran nowhere prescribes specific physical punishments for acts of homosexuality, lesbianism or bestiality like the Holy Bible. It is grossly inconsistent for him to complain about the lack of physical correction regarding a specific sin but have absolutely no problem with the Quran’s utter failure to explicitly address perverted acts such as homosexuality, lesbianism or Muhammad’s permitting prostitution, let alone prescribe any specific punishments for such acts.

    Osama’s Challenge for Me

    Apart from his gross lies and distortions of what the Holy Bible says about marriage and divorce, Osama presented the following challenge to me:

    Where in the Bible are non-virgin girls forbidden from having sex with their boyfriends?

    I was expecting that Osama would have given me a rather hard challenge, but I am not surprised that this is the best he could do. Here is the answer from God’s true Word, the Holy Bible:

    “Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.’ But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, EACH MAN SHOULD HAVE HIS OWN WIFE AND EACH WOMAN HER OWN HUSBAND. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-5

    “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, THEY SHOULD MARRY. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:8-9

    “Now concerning the betrothed, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned.” 1 Corinthians 7:25-28

    “If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry–it is no sin. But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better. A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free TO BE MARRIED to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:36-39

    “Or do you not know, brothers—FOR I AM SPEAKING TO THOSE WHO KNOW THE LAW–that the law is binding on a person only as long as he lives? Thus a married woman is bound BY LAW to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from THE LAW OF MARRIAGE. Accordingly, SHE WILL BE CALLED AN ADULTERESS if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.” Romans 7:1-3

    Paul plainly states that a person who burns with desire MUST GET MARRIED, not engage in premarital sex. Paul even says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives and that she would be an adulteress if she were to live with another man while her husband is still alive. Paul then says that widows can be married if they want, but doesn’t say that they are free to find a boyfriend to sleep with.

    Here is what we find regarding divorce and remarriage:

    “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some INDECENCY in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance. When a man is newly married, he shall not go out with the army or be liable for any other public duty. He shall be free at home one year to be happy with his wife whom he has taken.” Deuteronomy 24:1-5

    “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matthew 5:31-32

    “And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. And he said to them, ‘Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.’ Mark 10:10-12

    “To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should REMAIN UNMARRIED or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11

    The above citations assume that if specific individuals have legitimate grounds for divorce then they are to remarry if they desire intimacy. In fact, Jesus goes so far as to condemn individuals that have divorced for reasons other than sexual immorality, and classifies any of their subsequent marriages as adultery. If God condemns such marriages then how much more would he condemn and despise divorcees from engaging in premarital sex?

    In order to summarize the preceding points, here is what we gather from the foregoing:

    A person who burns with sexual desire must get married, which means that no one is allowed to engage in premarital sex, whether that person has been married or not.
    A married woman is bound to her husband till death.
    A married couple cannot divorce each other for any legitimate reason with the exception of sexual immorality.
    A widow must either remain single or get married.
    The command in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 presupposes that a divorcee is to remarry if he/she wishes to engage in sexual intimacy, provided that their divorce was based on legitimate grounds. Otherwise, they must remain single or return to their spouse according to 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
    Basically, what all these passages are teaching is that a person has the option to either marry or remain single. There is no other option that allows for a person, whether single or divorced, whether male or female, to engage in pre-marital sex. That is why Exodus 22:16-17 demands that a person who has engaged in premarital sex marry that person.

    For a more in depth look on what both the Holy Bible and Islam say about these specific issues please read the following: http://answering-islam.org/Responses/Menj/remarriage1.htm

    Now that Osama’s challenge has been addressed we turn our attention to Muhammad permitting Muslims to engage gross immorality.

    The Meaning of Muta

    Osama failed to prove his case from the Quran that Muta has been abrogated. Out of sheer desperation he tried to appeal to the Sunni narrations in order to convince his listeners that Muhammad canceled out Muta. Before we proceed to refute his arguments we need to first provide an explanation of what Muta actually is:

    WHAT IS TEMPORARY MARRIAGE?

    It is a temporary marriage upon agreement of the two parties. This temporary marriage was a custom amongst eastern countries, as it was also practised by some men at the dawn of Islam on their missions / trips.

    Abdullah Ibn ‘Abbas (r.a.a.) said: “Temporary marriage was at the beginning of Islam. A man comes by a town where he has no acquaintances, so he marries for a fixed time depending on his stay in the town, the woman looks after his provisions and prepares his food, until the verse was revealed: “Except to your wives or what your right hands possess.” Ibn ‘Abbas explained that any relationship beyond this is forbidden. [narrated by Tirmidhee]

    As temporary marriage was a custom amongst Arabs in the days of ignorance, it would not have been wise to forbid it except gradually, as is the manner of Islam in removing pre-Islamic customs which were contrary to the interests of people.

    It is well established that temporary marriage does not agree with the interests of people because it causes loss to the offspring, uses women for fulfilment of the lusts of men, and belittles the value of a woman whom Allah has honoured. So temporary marriage was forbidden. (Source)

    Is Muta Really Prostitution?

    Osama objects to my classifying Muta as prostitution in the guise of marriage. Instead of refuting him personally, I will allow his own Muslim brothers and sisters do that for me. After specifying what real marriage is according to the Quran, this next Salafi website comes to the following conclusion regarding Muta:

    On these grounds, Mut’ah marriage IS CONSIDERED TO BE ZINAA (ADULTERY OR FORNICATION), even if both parties consent to it, and even if it lasts for a long time, and even if the man pays the woman a mahr. There is nothing that has been reported in sharee’ah that shows that it may be permitted, APART FROM THE BRIEF PERIOD when it was allowed during the year of the conquest of Makkah. That was because at that time there were so many people who has newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, BECAUSE THEY HAD BEEN USED TO COMMITTING ZINAA the Jaahiliyyah. So this kind of marriage WAS PERMTITED for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection, as was narrated by Muslim, 1406. (Source; capital emphasis ours)

    And:

    Mut’ah or temporary marriage refers to when a man marries a woman for a specific length of time in return for a particular amount of money.

    The basic principle concerning marriage is THAT IT SHOULD BE ONGOING AND PERMANENT. Temporary marriage – i.e., mut’ah marriage – was permitted at the beginning of Islam, then it was abrogated and became haraam until the Day of Judgement…

    Allaah has made marriage one of His signs which calls us to think and ponder. He has created love and compassion between the spouses, and has made the wife a source of tranquility for the husband. He encouraged us to have children and decreed that a woman should wait out the ‘iddah period and may inherit. None of that exists in this haraam form of marriage. (Source)

    See also their following responses:

    http://islamqa.com/index.php?ref=2377&ln=eng
    http://islamqa.com/index.php?ref=6595&ln=eng

    The following story is found on these websites (*, *) and recounts the experience of a young Sunni girl who was duped into having sex under the guise of Muta. Here are some of her comments which are relevant to the issue being raised here regarding Muta being nothing more than legalized prostitution:

    It all changed when I met him. It was fascinating to know that a college student would care so much about me. He was the most wonderful person. He treated me like a queen, and soon we became the best of friends. I felt I could tell him anything. As our friendship progressed, we talked about different topics including religion. He had different beliefs than me; he was Shia while I was Sunni. We always argued upon the differences. He had a way with making things sound better than what they were. Soon I became very confused.

    One day he mentioned the idea of Mut’a. He told me that it was a type of temporary marriage, which was halal even in Sunni books. At first I didn’t believe him, but he used sources such as Bukhari and Muslim. I took his word for it, and before I realized, I was into a lot of trouble. I was in Mut’a for four years. As time went by, I learnt that I had lost my honor and dignity to someone who had done this to several other girls. Allah helped me open my eyes and realize what I had gotten myself into. By now, I was on the verge of switching beliefs to be a Shia. At this point, I decided to really search for the truth. Since I cannot present the whole research, I have tried to give a very brief idea about Mut’a…

    Mut’a is a form of temporary marriage where a man can marry a woman for an agreed amount of time and money (mahr). In Mut’a, the husband is not financially responsible for the wife. There are no set limits in this kind of marriage by the Shias. According Shia beliefs, no witnesses nor a permission of the guardian is needed (the Sunni father does not believe in Mut’a), and there is no limit on the number of Mut’a one can do.

    Also, the time period can be AS LITTLE AS ONE HOUR to as long as sixty years. In addition, a man who is permanently married can do as many Mut’a as he feels like, even with married women. THIS IS VERY SIMILAR TO PROSTITUTION …

    Ninety-nine percent of the companions followed this opinion, but there was one percent who believed Mut’a can be performed in extreme case of necessity in the land of war. This one percent is divided into two groups. One says, it is allowed with the Caliph’s permission, and the other says there is no need for the permission. Those who do not believe in Caliph’s permission say that it was Umar who made it haram. Their proof is based upon an opinion by a companion namely Ibn Abbas. People misused this opinion of Ibn Abbas until he clarified himself and said, Wallahi I did not mean what they did! I meant similarly to what Allah meant when he allowed the meat of dead animals and pork to be eaten in extreme necessity. This is referring to the time when people abused the rule of necessity at time of Umar, following the understanding of the one percent. Finally, Umar declared and taught it to be haram when a lady came to Umar complaining about how her husband in Mut’a, who was married, would not take responsibility of the child. He realized how the society was becoming corrupt with similar conditions to adultery. Thus, he had to teach people and make Mut’a haram even in the case of the one percent opinion…

    IF MUT’A IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR SATISFYING LUST, THEN WHAT IS IT! IT SEEMS TO BE THE EASIEST SOLUTION FOR ADULTERY. If Mut’a really was to be done in case of need THEN WHY IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR A MARRIED PERSON TO DO MUT’A? Also, if one cannot marry due to financial insecurity then how can one be responsible for supporting the child and not be able to support the wife? And how is he going to know if the child is actually his, not someone else’s? …

    In Mut’a, THERE IS NO DIVORCE; once you pay the set amount of money and the assigned time ends there is no rights, no duty, no inheritance laws, or divorce process. The only law is that the woman waits for a period of 45 days before she enters into another Mut’a, while the man can have immediate one, even while he is married or in another Mut’a. This goes against what Allah assigned for marriage in the Qura’n. In Surah 2 Ayah 228 Allah says, Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods and it is not lawful for them to hide what Allah hath created in their wombs. If they have faith in Allah and the last day.” In Mut’a she can be pregnant with the child of her first Mut’a husband and be married to her second Mut’a husband or the permanent. In the book of Mustadrak-Alwasa il (Shia authentic hadith book) vol. 7 book 3 pg. 506 rewayah 8762, it states that the prophet said that who ever cannot find the ability to get married let him fast, my ummah s protection is fasting. Also in Beharul-Alanwaar (Shia hadith book in vol.14 pg. 327 rewayah 50:21) it states that Imam Ali said and seek protection from women desire by fasting. What is the need for fasting if Mut’a is OK? It is obvious that this contradict this idea. I hope and pray that we will take this matter seriously. (Capital, bold and underline emphasis ours)

    This Muslim woman mentioned that Muta could last as short as an hour, a position supported by the following Shiite source:

    Q1: Can Someone Contract Mut’a Marriage for 1 hour?

    I would say theoretically yes! Much in the same way that it is possible for some one to marry a woman permanently and then divorce her in one hour or even less. Logically, since the possibility of this action does not invalidate the regular marriage, therefore, it should not be applied in the case of Mut’a either! (Source)

    Notice the candid admission of these Muslims. These sources have no hesitation classifying Muta as fornication, adultery and prostitution! They also warn Muslims from engaging in this sick, filthy, and perverted act. Yet at the same time these sources are aware that Muhammad permitted Muta for a time, which is an indirect admission that Muhammad permitted fornication, adultery, and prostitution.

    The reader should easily see that their reasoning and justification for Muhammad’s permitting this perverted practice is utterly weak, with Osama’s logic being even worse. In order to expose the utter shallowness of their defense let us apply their reasoning to other sick, filthy practices:

    Islam allowed the raping of young girls and boys at the beginning, because at that time there were so many people who had newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, because they had been used to committing sexual acts with children during the Jaahiliyyah (Pre-Islamic period of Ignorance). So this kind of sex was permitted for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection. As child molestation was a custom amongst Arabs in the days of ignorance, it would not have been wise to forbid it except gradually, as is the manner of Islam in removing pre-Islamic customs which were contrary to the interests of people.

    The only shortcoming with the above analogy is that the Quran does allow for the raping and divorcing of young, prepubescent girls. It even has the audacity to call this marriage:

    O Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them when they have reached their period. Count the period, and fear God your Lord. Do not expel them from their houses, nor let them go forth, except when they commit a flagrant indecency. Those are God’s bounds; whosoever trespasses the bounds of God has done wrong to himself. Thou knowest not, perchance after that God will bring something new to pass… As for your women who have despaired of further menstruating, if you are in doubt, their period shall be three months; and those who have not menstruated as yet. And those who are with child, their term is when they bring forth their burden. Whoso fears God, God will appoint for him, of His command, easiness. S. 65:1, 4 Arberry

    The waiting period for the divorcing of women who haven’t even menstruated is three months, showing that these aren’t even women but are young girls who haven’t even attained puberty! Now a woman can only be divorced if she was first married, so it is clear that this injunction assumes that young girls can be married and divorced and remarry before they reach puberty. Even more, the purpose of this waiting period is to ensure that the wife who is about to be divorced is not pregnant, or if she is to make sure that the true father is known, i.e. that the child is from the current husband, and not a next husband that she may marry afterwards. Thus, this verse presupposes that the Muslim men who are married to prepubescent girls have sexual intercourse with them.

    The renowned Muslim commentator Abu-Ala’ Maududi, in his six volume commentary on the Quran, confirmed this when he wrote:

    “Therefore, making mention of the waiting-period for girls who have not yet menstruated, clearly proves that it is not only permissible to give away the girl at this age but it is permissible for the husband to consummate marriage with her. Now, obviously no Muslim has the right to forbid a thing which the Qur’an has held as permissible.” (Maududi, volume 5, p. 620, note 13, emphasis added)

    Let us therefore use another example:

    Islam allowed incest at the beginning, because at that time there were so many people who had newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, because they had been used to sleeping with their family members during the Jaahiliyyah (Pre-Islamic period of Ignorance). So this kind of practice was permitted for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection. As incest was a custom amongst Arabs in the days of ignorance, it would not have been wise to forbid it except gradually, as is the manner of Islam in removing pre-Islamic customs which were contrary to the interests of people.

    Would anyone buy this logic? Can there really be any justification for such perverted and heinous acts to be permitted, even if it is for a short while? Doesn’t this prove that Muslims will say just about anything to exonerate Muhammad from all the gross perversions he permitted in the name of God?

    Sunni Narrations That Claim Muta is not Abrogated

    The following verse is believed to have permitted Muta:

    O ye who believe! Forbid not the good things which Allah hath made lawful for you, and transgress not, Lo! Allah loveth not transgressors. S. 5:87 Pickthall

    The hadith states:

    Narrated Abdullah:

    We used to participate in the holy battles led by Allah’s Apostle and we had nothing (no wives) with us. So we said, “Shall we get ourselves castrated?” He forbade us that and then allowed us to marry women with a temporary contract AND RECITED TO US: — ‘O you who believe! Make not unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, but commit no transgression.’ (5.87) (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 13o)

    Another passage which Muslims claim allowed for Muta is Sura 4:24:

    And forbidden to you are married women, except such as your right hands possess. This has ALLAH enjoined on you. And allowed to you are those beyond that, that you may seek them by means of your property, marrying them properly and not committing fornication. And for the benefit you receive from them, give them their dowries, as fixed, and there is no blame on you what you do by mutual agreement after the fixing of the dowry. Surely ALLAH is All-Knowing, Wise. Sher Ali

    Noted Sunni commentator Ibn Kathir commented on the above text and claimed that:

    “… (4:21): the general meaning of which was given as evidence for Mut’a Marriage (Marriage for an intended short time) which was, undoubtedly, PREVALENT at the onset of Islam, but was abrogated thereafter. Ash-Shafi’i and a group of scholars were of the opinion that Mut’a Marriage had once been permitted but was later invalidated on two occasions. Some were more assertive than that, while others have made it lawful only if necessary. The majority of scholars, however, have opposed this view. The correct statement is mentioned in Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim, on the authority of Ali Ibn Abu Talib: ‘The Prophet forbade Mut’a Marriage and the meat of local skylarks (a type of bird) on the Day of Khaibar.’

    “It is narrated in Sahih Muslim, on the authority of Ar-Rabi’ Ibn Sabrah Ibn Ma’bad Al-Juhani, who had quoted from his father, who had participated in the Conquest of Makkah with the Prophet who said: ‘O, People! I have permitted you to do Mut’a Marriage and Allah has forbidden it until the Day of Judgment. Therefore, whosoever is married to a woman through this type of marriage, should release them and should not take anything back from Mahr you have given them.’ According to Muslim, it was said during Hujjatal Wadaa’ (Farewell Pilgrimage). This Hadith has other meanings in the Book of Al-Ahkaam.” (Tafsir Ibn Kathir, abridged by Sheikh Muhammad Nasib Ar-Rafa’i [Al-Firdous Ltd., London; First edition 2000], part 5, pp. 29-30 underline and capital emphasis ours)

    The following Shiite site quotes a slew of Sunni references admitting that this passage initially included an additional clause not found today which justified Muta:

    Sunni Doubts as to the Correct Recitation of this Verse

    Beyond these facts, we see that not only do the majority of Sunni ‘ulama accept that this verse was revealed about Mut’ah, but a large majority also believe that there has been tahreef (change, distortion) in this verse in order to create confusion as to its real meaning. A number of Sunni hadeeth claim that this verse was read in a different way than it is today, in a way that makes it clear that it refers to Mut’ah.

  • March 15, 2013 8:48 am

    I was fourteen years old and my relationship with my parents was on the edge just like any other teenager. I started to become interested in boys. I felt as if no one understood me, not even my friends. I especially didn t feel pretty with my braces

    It all changed when I met him . It was fascinating to know that a college student would care so much about me. He was the most wonderful person. He treated me like a queen, and soon we became the best of friends. I felt I could tell him anything. As our friendship progressed, we talked about different topics including religion. He had different beliefs than me; we both were Sunni. We always argued about restrictions on women in Muslim community. He had a way with making things sound bettter than what they were. Soon I became very confused.

    One day he mentioned the idea of Mut’a. He told me that it was a type of temporary marriage, which was halal even in Koran/Hadith. At first I didn t believe him, but he used sources such as Bukhari and Muslim. I took his word for it, and before I realized, I was into a lot of trouble. I was in Mut’a for one year and if I did not find pleasure with him, I can go for another Muta. As time went by, I learnt that I had lost my honor and dignity to someone who had done this to several other girls. Allah helped me open my eyes and realize what I had gotten myself into. By now, I was on the verge of switching beliefs to other religions. At this point, I decided to really search for the truth. Since I cannot present the whole research, I have tried to give a very brief idea about Mut’a.After one year, he arranged my muta with other friend of his own for two years. Being helpless, I accepted and after two years he left me and I was no where. Later on after 2 years, I met with an African black guy, who married me. I find him far better than muslim guys.

    I hope to inform and educate the people about the disease of Mut’a, which is spreading rapidly in the sunni community. It is the goal of certain Shia individuals to do Mut’a with innocent girls, who lack knowledge of religion and experience of life. They convince them with their beliefs, and create confusion in their minds. I beg every sister, brother, father, mother, and friend to take a closer look at their dear ones, and make sure they do not become victims to the concept of Mut’a.

    Mut’a is a form of temporary marriage where a man can marry a woman for an agreed amount of time and money(mahr). In Mut’a, the husband is not financially responsible for the wife. There are no set limits in this kind of marriage. According to beliefs, no witnesses nor a permission of the guardian is needed, and there is no limit on the number of Mut’a one can do. This is happening in collaboration with Imams, Maulvies, who lure poor parents of the girl and some times, even they do not consult the parents and trap the girls just for sexual and prostitution business and they earn a lot. Normally older age people with financial resources opt for this type marriage for sexual satisfaction many a times in their life.

    Also, the time period can be as little as one hour to as long as sixty years. In addition, a man who is permanently married can do as many Mut’a as he feels like, even with married women. This is very similar to prostitution indeed

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  • March 15, 2013 2:08 am

    Hello Zunaid,

    There are cheater and bad people in every community.It is the foolishness of Sana who blindly had a faith on a non muslim boy. May be quoting both names as false.

    In Muslims, what is Mutta Marriage? It is also an act of prostitution in the name of temporary marriages, even for a day or week? Whatis Halala, it is the same shameful practice.

  • junaid
    March 15, 2013 12:33 am

    @idiotmuslimtroll
    vist http://www.womeninislam.ws to know postion of women in islam yes there is so many things written in quran how to treat women but oppossite of itin afghanistan pakistan iraq only. In islam beating of wife is not allowed at all. According to quran if a women is wicked and do some wicked things it asks tohusbend that first taught your wives that you are doing wrongthings and if she do not come toright path after some weeks then do not sleep with them andif again they do not come to right path after some weaks and is doing wicked things again then beat them lightly with brush stick (beating shouldnot left any mark on body) if they come to right way do not go againest them now commingto rape cases the countries which you think women gets high freedom maximum rape cases are found in that countries like swedan America and european countries and women is maximum sexually exploited. In muslim countries if women is raped in that case man who raped a women is stoned to death and raped women must get four witness and she can get it easly for e.g a doctor may witness by carring some tests on raped women that she is raped her parents canalso witness that she is raped similarly other person by lookingat the condition of raped women can wittness that that she is raped. It is misconciption that a women actually needs four male wittness who actuallysaw the rape only can witness that she is raped actually it says tha four persons should say she is raped and after that man is punished to death
    Now comming to the education iam living in muslim majority country and i do not find any restriction on education of women
    you are correct that in afghanistan and pakistan and Iraq women do not get education and if women goes for education she is killed it is due to terrorist organisations al queda taliban etc which are the creation of America and their place is hell as quran said that those who kills a believer or unbeliever which are not wrongdoers Allah will cast hell fire on them. In iran saudi arabia turkey, malaysia egypt etc women gets easily education. Now 9/11 you can vist answering-christianity you will get your answer who actually do it. Why muslims carry terrorist actuties it is actually due to west who donot want peace in muslim countries and want to creat unrest in muslim countries. They creat isreal and removed 9 lakh arabs in 1947 from their homelands creat conflict in kashmir etc this is big reason for terrorism in muslim countries.

  • junaid
    March 14, 2013 10:41 am

    It discloses truth of hindus. Quran rightly said It is better to marry slave of own faith than the people of another religion. Since you commited this sin do tubah i.e sincere repentence vist http://www.womeninislam.ws

  • junaid
    March 14, 2013 10:38 am

    It discloses truth of hindus. Quran rightly said It is better to marry slave of own faith than the people of another religion. Since you commited this sin do tubah i.e sincere repentence

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