Muslim: Hindu Father is Giving Trouble

Ali says: August 20, 2017 at 4:45 pm

Hi.
I am in love with Hindu girl Since 7 years. I am Muslim. We are in Medical Profession. In short, my family is ready. My family belongs to normal middle class but from her side her father is not agree & he is politician connected. I am affraid if I go ahead for marriage. His father will give trouble to my family in India. I am out of India. Except me all are in India even my gf, both families. Too much marriage talk for her & she refused. Her father said he doesn’t allow to marry with me. He said he will commit suciside or kill her (just talking).

I do not Understand what to do next? Please help me out & give best solution. -Ali


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Malaysian Hindu with a Bangla Desi Muslim

Saloni says: August 20, 2017 at 2:50 am

Hi….
I am a Hindu girl from India and I love a Muslim Bangladeshi boy…. I want marry him, I want to know that after weeding their will be any problem?
–Saloni

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Hindu wants to Convert to Marthomite Christian

Anu says: August 19, 2017 at 10:57 pm

Hi..I am a Hindu and I am in love with a Christian Marthomite guy..My parents are also agreeing for my marriage with him..I want to convert to marthomite..we both are from kerala..please let me know the procedure to convert..Its urgent -Anu


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Our Child is Growing Inside Me


Bina says: July 23, 2017 at 11:26 pm

Hello, my name is Bina, i am from India, now living in UK for study. I have been visiting your site frequently for some few days. I want to share my situation with people here and seek advice so please help me. I am hindu girl from brahmin family (both of my mother and father is brahmin). I came to UK for sole purpose of study.

The guy first i saw was in a restaurant, normally we friend circle used to go there for gossip or to eat together. I get huge concentration because of my look or whatever, but was never dare enough to answer any of call because my family or my mother to be specific who is very strict about religion. I got thousands of proposal back there in India and get here too from many good looking guys, but never got any answer from my heart, i never wanted myself to be a playgirl.

The moment i saw that guy, i did not know, i felt an enormous attraction, when he looked into me and for first time four eyes met, i knew he was the guy i was the looking for, i have been waiting for.

As i am a bit shy, my friend circle is very protective but also very supportive of me. They were surprised i fall for that one guy at that short amount of time, but one of my friend took the initiative to get his information.

I was getting restless, i knew deep down i started to love him without saying a single word, after two or three days when she came to us, from her face i knew something is not right, she told me that guy is islamic, to make my situation more worse she said he was Pakistani. I could not talk for a few minutes after that. But i knew it was not going to stop me, i knew how madly i am in love with him, i just wanted to cry there in front of all.

That restaurant was the place where we talked first, here also my friends helped me, first time i talked to him, i was nervous beyond belief. No one had ever made me felt like that before. I got to know his name, involved in business of his dad who was based from Pakistan but spends considerable time in UK. After the first day of talk, as we were from same place(from subcontinent), in that way my friend helped me to get his phone number.

That is how we became “friend”, i can not tell how much indebted i am to my friends for doing this for me. But deep down i knew it was not friendship, we started spending time, sharing personal thoughts together, i visited his office several times too, i just could not tolerate the sight of any woman standing next to him, he literally became my oxygen ,i started to care for every tiny details of his life though he did not give me that right, he was mine to me.

And after spending near three months, i decided to tell him what was in my mind, i was nervous because i was aware of cultural differences and moreover the religious differences, i knew if i get refused i would not be able to pull myself up, i would die, i was not prepared to hear the word NO at any cost.

When he heard my proposal, he just laughed it off thinking i was joking, but as i said i am very emotional, i could not control myself, when he was convinced i was not joking, he got serious asking me if i had any idea about what i am saying, how crazy i do sound, the amount of struggle i will have to go through.

As i already knew about this all, my friends told me about those things, i was mentally prepared for that, He was my heart and soul, i could have jumped off a cliff looking at his eyes, this was nothing for me, that is how madly i wanted him. After watching my madness, he told me, let us give it some more time, may be i will not be in this kind of madness after sometimes, when i will know about reality.

In desperateness, i agreed with him, but i knew it was not going to change anything at all, i know myself very well, i just could not tear my heart and show him how much i loved him.

So i took the boldest decision i have ever taken in my life, took the decision to take the relationship in another level, may be i wanted to prove to him how genuine my love was for him. It was not anything forceful, i lured him. I wanted to make him only mine, tie him with an emotional bond so he can not break free off that, can not go away from me.

After that, he was feeling guilty, he said he should not have done that, he guiltiness was hurting me too much, because only i knew what my intention was.

My friends also reacted sharply hearing this, they said he will not stay, his need for me is over, i am a very homely girl, so i do not know about outside world much, when i heard them i was hurt and got very scared.

He was not talking to me because he was ashamed of what happened, so i had to talk to him, i just wanted assurance of him. I feared if i was going to loose him because of this. But after few days everything got normal.

After quite sometime of our meeting, i got to know i was not alone anymore, i had a part of him living in me. Before telling this to him, i shared this with my close friends. But what i faced was criticism, because i had no idea what i am falling into. They were so sure now he would definitely leave me. They tried to convince me to see doctors, but after watching my stubbornness, they gave up.

I shared the news with sheer anxiousness and nervousness, after hearing the news he was stunned, but then i could see the joy, the true love in his eyes for me, eyes do not lie, i never felt so secured.

I told him about my parents, my father was open minded, but my mother was very strict, i was so scared of her. He said we can settle in UK, but he has to convince his parents because they are very important part of his decision.

I was scared but at the same time happy about his honesty, i did not want to hear a cinematic dialogue like he would leave everything for me, my personal perspective is, if a guy can not be of his parents who have raised him from nothing, how can he be trusted? how can he be of someone else?

Now my future hang on to three persons decision, my father in law, mother in law and my mother.

I did not want to do court marriage because i want my two family together in my marriage sitting side by side happily. Even thinking of his parents or my mother not accepting me or my love gives me nightmares, the reason i can bear this because at the end of the day i can put my head on his broad shoulder and forget everything, i know he truly loves me, the guarantee i wanted so bad. He was only mine.

I have been living with him in his home, as his parents is due to come next month, with every single second passing my anxiousness is growing exponentially, our child is growing inside me, i just do not want him or her to bear the stress i am bearing, i want my child to grow in harmony of my two family and i want my child’s father to be the shadow for his child’s mom and his child always as he is now.

I love my mother way way too much to leave her from my life, i can not do that, neither i can leave the man i love who is my heart bit, i got my hands tied with two oceans probably flowing in different direction tearing me apart inside, i am so scared right now. If i have to leave any of them, i will not be myself, the only way will be let for me is to kill myself. -Bina


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He Asked Me to Convert 5 mins Before Marriage

Priti says: July 23, 2017 at 5:04 am
Hi… 🙂
I was in a relationship with a muslim guy for 4 years. At the beginning he was very nice and supportive. But later on, he came in touch with a few muslim imams and i don’t know what happened to him he started asking me to get convert to islam before marriage.
He asked me to get convert only for 5 mins before marriage, but i am not that dumb to not understand that whether it’s for 1 sec or 1 hour, if i get convert, i will go out my religion.
Earlier he was Okay with everything but later on he refused to follow anything related to my faith.
I tried hard to save the relationship but i couldn’t. We had a lot of quarrel. I was ready to adjust on 2-3 things but he was not.
And i just had one thought in my mind that ” A guy cannot be more important than my GOD/religion” And ya i left him.
It was not an easy decision for me but i had to take this decision.
If he can break his promise of keeping me as a hindu after 3.5 years of relationship, why cannot I break my promise of not to leave him?



and after 2 years of our break up, i got into relationship with a guy from my own religion and caste. And i am happy with him.
I loved him (muslim guy) truely but i had no independence when i was with him but this guy today i am with, he respect my feelings and i feel more independent with him today. -Priti


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My Parents are Forcing Me to Marry a Hindu Guy

Gowsi says: July 19, 2017 at 7:43 am

Hi.. Am from the Hindu family background but I started believing Jesus and am in Christian life for the past 1.2 years meanwhile my parents are forcing me to marry a Hindu guy,I explained them that I want to marry a Christian guy but they are not hearing my words. They are very stubborn in their point that I should marry that Hindu guy.Am clear in bible words that a believer should not marry a non-beleiver.. So pls suggest me what I should do -Gowsi

Rabia says: July 21, 2017 at 12:08 am
Dear Gowsi,
A) how old are you? If you are young and not financially independent then this may be a reason why you cannot stand your ground and are feeling pressure from your parents regarding marriage. One’s parents should never force their child to marry someone they don’t want to marry. Even some people I know who had an arranged marriage, they were always asked for their will before agreeing to marry that person. It’s not a joke – you are committing to spend the rest of your life with that person!
B) if you believe in Christianity and Jesus, marrying someone who isn’t Christian is probably not the best idea. It may create problems in the future if your belief is Christianity and that’s what you want to pass on to your children. A practicing Hindu husband will certainly have a problem with that.. It’s always best if husband and wife come from a similar background. Rabia

Admin says:

Rabia,
Note that probably Gowsi’s church may be teaching that Rabia (a Muslim) is a non-believer and sinner. Is this not a time to give up such exclusivist thinking? Christians have killed millions because of their exclusivity. Rabia, as a future author, have you read the Bible? Some Muslims believe that Shia and Ahmadia are not true Muslim, that is exclusivity. Our book has this ending-exclusivity as a core message. We hope you do believe the same. -Admin


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I Don’t Want my Hindu GF to Convert to Christianity

Ash says: June 14, 2017 at 12:38 pm

I am a Christian boy and my girlfriend is Hindu. She always told me that she do not want to get converted to Christian. I am open minded and I also do not want her to get c
converted to Christian nor my parents. It’s her decision. But now she is telling that she wants to get converted to Christian for our better future as God is one. But im upset i don’t want her to get converted into my religion because i dunno what will happen to her, will she adjust, will she be happy and if she will be sad o will feel bad. What should I do? Im confused. My 50% heart says its her choice let her do, but my another 50% heart says should i stop her. -Ash


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Hindu Girl with a CSI Christian

priya says: June 20, 2017 at 11:30 pm
I am in relationship with CSI guy..Suddenly he is saying that CSI Christians won’t accept love marriage even I am ready to convert and I am ready to speak with my parents..He is saying that In Bible there is a thing relationship with someone is wrong.Is it true? -Priya


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Hindu Nair with Love with Marthomite Christian

Ashmita says: July 10, 2017 at 1:55 am

Hi admin,
I am deeply in love with a Christian Marthomite guy. I am a Hindu Nair girl. We both come from the same community (Malayalis). My boyfriend and I have a mutual understanding that neither of us will convert. If we ever do have children in the future, we want our kids to be raised with knowledge of both religions. However, his parents are giving me a hard time and want me to convert in order to be married in the church. I want to have a Hindu ceremony and a Christian ceremony, but they are totally against having a Hindu wedding ceremony. My boyfriends mother feels that I don’t love her son enough in order to convert. My parents have agreed to us getting married and are not giving me a hard time like his parents are. My boyfriend is trying his level best to make his parents understand why I don’t want to convert. Please tell me what should I do? -Ashmita


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Muslim is Afraid of His Parents

Nita says: July 7, 2017 at 11:27 pm

Im a hindu girl my lover is a muslim..we both love each other unconditionally..he is afraid of his parents that they will not accept..but he needs me he truly loves me he never wanna leave me..what to do pls suggest any idea

But i need him and he needs me..our love is true -Nita


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He is Muslim and I am Sikh

Harmeet says: July 3, 2017 at 10:26 pm

Hey there– can i ask how you guys proceeded with the wedding and teaching your children the importance of both religions? I am in a similar situation, my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and plan on getting married. He is Muslim (however not very religious at all, drinks, smokes, etc) and I am sikh. We’ve discussed our future and want to get married but I’m just not sure how to go about it. Obviously we can’t do a Nikah or do it in the gurdwara. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. –Harmeet


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Swaminarayana Hindu Girl with a Hindu Panjabi

Kalpana says: July 3, 2017 at 1:52 am

I am a Hindu-Gujarati (Swaminarayan) in love with a Hindu-Punjabi man. We are beginning our careers. We are deeply in love and committed to one another. His parents have no objection, they are much more liberal than mine. However, I have told my parents about him and my father states there’s no way he will sanction the relationship. He has said I must marry in our own cast or else I shall be disowned.

I have told my parents I will end the relationship, however I will still be trying to convince them of our love for one another. I chose to take this route, because i feel as though my parents were blinded with anger at my lying to them for a year and a half, and this was the only way they would listen to me.

Our cultural differences should be celebrated and integrated. However, my strongly religious and conservative family completely disagree. I am having real trouble trying to accept their views, as we are both Hindu, and my boyfriend has become vegetarian and stated he wants to learn the teachings of Swaminarayan and integrate them into our lives and our future childrens lives. The basic fundamentals of Hinduism are the same for us both, so it’s not technically conversion.

My older siblings do not support me and they have married within my fathers requirements, I do not have their support. But they each suffer from their own difficulties. Being in a sanctioned relationship does not necessarily bring happiness. My boyfriend loves me without bounds, is ambitious, has financial stability, wants similar things out of life as i do, is very charitable and supportive. He has a kind, pure personality and makes me laugh to no end. We have an incredible connection which cannot be easily found in just anyone. I cannot think about marrying another man, nor he another woman, that would end in 4 lives being unfulfilled or at least 2 filled with regret.

I feel like my parents are being extremely close minded in such a modern world in the West. They do not wish to know about him or meet him or his family. I can’t forsake my family, but I can see a very happy future with my boyfriend. I don’t know what to do. –Kalpana

Admin says:

Hi Kalpana,

We absolutely agree to “Our cultural differences should be celebrated and integrated.” However it will take some time for parents to come around.

You have described your boy friend in details so we do not have much concern there. Sometimes Gujaratis have impression that Panjabi are meat eater and drinkers. If yes, that will be hard for your parents to accept.

Parents-child relationship may get worst when a child become an adult. Parents may want their children to dance at their tunes, but sometimes it does not work for the child. It is a matter of expectations verses reality of life. If you fake-told your parents first time that I am in relationship with Muhammad or with another girl (like Meera & Margaret) , they would have boiled over but then you change that now I have a new boy friend who is Hindu, that would be a big relief for them. Sometimes it is good to present the worst to lower expectations.

What would happen if you tell them honestly that I am still in love that Panjabi and will marry only that guy? Let them shout at you. Listen to them patiently and respectfully. Remain firm in your position. Stay very close to them. Play cool because it is a game you are playing. It is possible a year down the road, they will come to terms. Let us know what you think of this idea.

Since you are in the West, it is not a bad idea to take a few more years to get married. This way, you are giving sufficient time for parents to soften (they will!) and also make more mature decision to marry that guy. Since you are not in rush to marry immediately, we will give you more tips later. Hang on with us.

We just release our book and this is what we said about parents in the book:
Messages to all parents
➢ Parents must realize that their children are not their property.
➢ Parents don’t own children. Children just came to this world through parents, that’s all.
➢ Treat your children like guests.
➢ Talk to your children like you would do to your best friend or a boss at work.
➢ Do not suppress your children (like a spring), one day they will bounce back with disaster.
➢ Treat your children like a wet soap in your hand, if you hold too hard or too soft, it will slide out. You have to learn to hold them with just right pressure.
➢ Trust them, respect them, give them good practical education and hope for the best.
➢ Give them education about sex and interfaith marriage assuming they could potentially do it. Proper teaching and trust will go a long way.

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Both side of Parents are Against Us

Manira says: June 28, 2017 at 9:43 pm

Hi Rook!

Did the couple have support from families when getting married or after marriage?

I’m in a similar situation where I like a Muslim guy but our families are quite against a marriage, his as there cannot be a Nikah given that I am not converting, and mine as there will be no external support from in-laws and extended family to keep this marriage together. I’m being told that the courtship period is a myth and any understanding and trust that I have developed with this guy will go down the drain unless we have support and acceptance on each other’so families. That his parents will always hate me and their disapproval will eventually affect our relationship.

Kindly advise. -Manira

Manira says: June 30, 2017 at 12:03 pm
Hi Admin,

Many thanks for your prompt response and for the educational links.

Yes it’s very sad that religions that are meant to guide one towards an internal journey, become the basis of external conflicts. I never expected to see such blatant racial hatred in the eyes of my father and brother when I spoke to them. Whilstbi was prepared for opposition and resentment, I was disgusted with what I saw in their eyes.

My boyfriend is supportive. He wished for me to “consider” conversion when we first discussed marriage, but he has since realised my commitment to my faith, and therefore agreed to the model of bilateral beliefs for us and also for any children that we may have. He has borne testimony to this intention by wilfully and happily partaking in the religious prayers I conducted in my new dwelling in Guru Granth Sahib’s presence. (He did not Matha-tek though as that is against his own principles. I can understand that).

He has stated to his family that I wouldnt convert and the children would follow both faiths. His parents are therefore annoyed with him, and obviously super-annoyed with me. We doubt that they will agree to a wedding or even attend it. He is however willing to go forth without them.

I on the other hand expected better from my parents and always held that I wouldn’t get married without my parents blessings. But given their standpoint, I’m forced to consider the option of getting married without their blessings if they do not change their mind over the next year. (I’m 36, and I cannot be liberal with waiting time).

At the same time, I do take their concerns on board, which resonate with my own. What if despite the right intentions and plans today, he does find it hard to function in a bilateral belief model later on? What if his parents always try to tear us apart? What if the pre-marriage compatibility, as my brother puts it, only a mere myth? What if I feel strained and exhausted trying to keep him, his parents, my parents, our extended families, all happy enough so we can be accepted and respected as a couple amongst people that matter to both of us. To exist in isolation is not going to be possible.

I am trying to seek answers by discussing with him, and by praying to God to show me the way. My family is never happy with the agreements and explanations that I provide because they think that these agreements will change as our dynamics change after marriage.

For me, marriage is not about reproduction and daily responsibilities. At 36, I would only get married for a deep level of intimacy, friendship and respect. I’m half-scared wondering if what my parents say is true and that there is no way to figure this stuff out before getting into a wedlock. Would married to my boyfriend ruin it for both of us??

Many thanks for your help. -Manira


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Chinese Malaysian with Muslim Iranian

Cindy says: June 27, 2017 at 8:57 pm

Hi,

I am a Chinese Malaysian who planning to married with a muslim Iranian soon. We have been together aroud 7 years. My case is similiar as above senario, I wish there is no need convert to muslim but can get a international marriage cert with my fiance, I have no problem for convert to muslim, but I have the heritage tranfer name issue. I am the only child, my mother past away suddenly two years ago without will, If I convert to muslim now, will it effect my heritage transfer?

If I marriedge with my iranian fience, he can have PR in Malaysia? How about if I married in western country / Singapore without convert and if within 6 month I do not register in Malaysia, will it cause any trouble?
Please let me know.

Thanks a lot! -Cindy


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Orthodox Malankara Christian with a Hindu Nair Girl

Arun says: June 27, 2017 at 10:22 am

Hello sir,
Am arun from orthodox malakara sabha. I am in love with a hindu nair girl. We are planning to get married in my church as per my family instructions but we are not planning her to convert to Christianity. Will our church customs allow that? From whom should we get permission for that? What are the rules to be followed & also can our kids are baptized in my Church & follow Christianity. –Arun


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Am a Hindu and He is Anglo Indian Christian

Veena says: June 19, 2017 at 5:36 am

Hi
Durga,
I read your story in interfaith shaadi. Am really sad and presently facing the same situation as u have now only one change is that we both have job still his mom is not allowing. Actually I thought of presenting this relationship first at his home after that in my family. But thngs had gone really worse that his mom is not allowing it. Am a Hindu and he is Anglo Indian am realy dull thinking about my future too. Can u please giv me any advice for this. Really finding it lost -Veena


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Bible’s Views on Interfaith Marriages

priya says: June 20, 2017 at 11:30 pm

I am in relationship with CSI guy..Suddenly he is saying that CSI Christians won’t accept love marriage even I am ready to convert and I am ready to speak with my parents..He is saying that In Bible there is a thing relationship with someone is wrong.Is it true? -Priya

Admin says:

Yes, read Bible here.

Part VIII: Interfaith Marriages

The Bible has many stern warnings against interfaith marriages. Probably for this reason, a fearful Christian (Muslim or Jew) will want to solve this interfaith marriage problem by religious conversion of his or her Hindu fiancée (or children by this marriage; read BBS).

Here are Bible’s recommendations on interfaith marriages:

Then Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married; for he had married an Ethiopian woman. (Numbers 12:1)

And when the LORD your God delivers them over to you, you shall conquer them and utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them nor show mercy to them. Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the LORD will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly. But thus you shall deal with them: you shall destroy their altars, and break down their sacred pillars, and cut down their wooden images, and burn their carved images with fire. (Deuteronomy 7:2-5)

When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her acertificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, then her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance. (Deuteronomy 24:2-4)

But you shall destroy their altars, break their sacred pillars, and cut down their wooden images (for you shall worship no other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God), lest you make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, and they play the harlot with their gods and make sacrifice to their gods, and one of them invites you and you eat of his sacrifice, and you take of his daughters for your sons, and his daughters play the harlot with their gods and make your sons play the harlot with their gods. You shall make no molded gods for yourselves. (Exodus 34:13-17)

And they took their (idolater’s) daughters to be their wives, and gave their daughters to their sons; and they served their gods. So the children of Israel did evil in the sight of the LORD. They forgot the LORD their God. (Judges 3:6)

Judah has dealt treacherously, and an abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem, for Judah has profaned. The LORD’s holy institution which He loves, he has married the daughter of a foreign god. (Malachi 2:11)

From the nations of whom the LORD had said to the children of Israel, “You shall not intermarry with them, nor they with you. Surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love. And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines; and his wives turned away his heart. For it was so, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned his heart after other gods; and his heart was not loyal to the LORD his God, as was the heart of his father David. (I Kings 11:1-4)

And he did likewise for all his foreign wives, who burned incense and sacrificed to their gods. So the LORD became angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned from the LORD God of Israel. (I Kings 11:8-9)

Now therefore, do not give your daughters as wives for their sons, nor take their daughters to your sons; and never seek their peace or prosperity, that you may be strong and eat the good of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your children forever. (Ezra 9:12)

Should we again break Your commandments, and join in marriage with the people committing these abominations? Would You not be angry with us until You had consumed us, so that there would be no remnant or survivor? Ezra 9:14

We have trespassed against our God, and have taken pagan wives from the peoples of the land; yet now there is hope in Israel in spite of this. Now therefore, let us make a covenant with our God to put away all these wives and those who have been born to them, according to the advice of my master and of those who tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. (Ezra 10:2-3)

Then Ezra the priest stood up and said to them, “You have transgressed and have taken pagan wives, adding to the guilt of Israel. Now therefore, make confession to the LORD God of your fathers, and do His will; separate yourselves from the peoples of the land, and from the pagan wives. (Ezra 10:10-11)

These joined with their brethren, their nobles, and entered into a curse and an oath to walk in God’s Law, which was given by Moses the servant of God, and to observe and do all the commandments of the LORD our Lord, and His ordinances and His statutes: We would not give our daughters as wives to the peoples of the land, nor take their daughters for our sons. (Nehemiah 10:29-30)

So I contended with them and cursed them, struck some of them and pulled out their hair, and made them swear by God, saying, “You shall not give your daughters as wives to their sons, nor take their daughters for your sons or yourselves. Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? Yet among many nations there was no king like him, who was beloved of his God; and God made him king over all Israel. Nevertheless pagan women caused even him to sin. Should we then hear of your doing all this great evil, transgressing against our God by marrying pagan women?” (Nehemiah 13:25-27)

They have dealt treacherously with the LORD, for they have begotten pagan children. Now a New Moon shall devour them and their heritage. (Hosea 5:7)

And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. (I Corinthians 7:13-15)

A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. (I Corinthians 7:39)

Judah has been unfaithful. A detestable thing has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem: Judah has desecrated the sanctuary the LORD loves by marrying women who worship a foreign god. (Malachi 2:11)


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Talaq, Talaq, Talaq, No More?

Muslim Women in India Challenge ‘Instant Divorce’ Law (source: New York Times)

MUMBAI — When Neeha Khan’s husband entered her parents’ house in eastern Mumbai last February, he carried a letter that contained a word, repeated three times, that can instantly change the course of a Muslim woman’s life in India.

Talaq, talaq, talaq.

He flung the letter to the floor and just like that, Ms. Khan’s seven-year marriage was over.

In person, over the phone, in a letter or even on WhatsApp, Muslim men who repeat talaq — the Arabic word for divorce — three times can instantly end their marriages, according to some interpretations of Islamic law. The word is used by Indian Muslims even if they do not speak Arabic.

With such divorces, which are available only to men, husbands can oust their wives from their homes, usually without any alimony or other financial support, leaving the women with few resources or prospects. Half of Muslim women in India are illiterate, and only 14 percent have ever worked outside the home, according to a 2014 study by the Bharatiya Muslim Mahila Andolan, a Muslim women’s advocacy group.

But now the Supreme Court of India is poised to rule on complaints filed by five Muslim women who argue that being divorced in this way violates their fundamental right to equality under the Indian Constitution. Three Muslim women’s organizations have filed petitions in support of the divorced women.

The Constitution grants citizens the right to “equality before the law” and prohibits “discrimination on grounds of religion, race, caste and sex.” But it also gives Indians “the right to freely profess, practice and propagate religion” and allows every religious denomination the right “to manage its own affairs in matters of religion.”

In practice, although the Constitution guarantees equal rights to all citizens regardless of their religion, matters dealing with marriage, divorce, alimony and inheritance are handled differently by members of different religions. India does not have a uniform set of laws on marriage and divorce that applies to all citizens.

The case pits religious freedom against individual rights guaranteed by the Constitution. The issues involved are similar to cases in the United States about businesses refusing to serve same-sex couples and requirements for employers to provide free insurance coverage of contraception for women.

A ruling is expected in the next few weeks.

Last Monday, in an affidavit filed in court that seemed intended to stave off an unfavorable ruling, the All India Muslim Personal Law Board, the conservative nonprofit group fighting to uphold what is known as “triple talaq,” promised to discourage the practice. Whether this will affect the Supreme Court’s decision remains to be seen.

There are no official statistics to suggest how widespread the practice of instant divorce is, but the Bharatiya Muslim Mahila Andolan study found that among a sample of more than 4,700 women, 525 were divorced and 404 of those were “triple talaq” divorces. A Muslim woman in India who seeks a divorce must generally gain the permission of her husband, a cleric or other Islamic authorities.

The Quran makes no mention of instant divorce using the talaq method. The practice is outlined in the hadiths, or sayings attributed to the Prophet Muhammad, which are regarded as less authoritative than the Quran but still influential in shaping Islamic doctrine.

Today, instant divorce is not uniformly practiced or accepted in the Muslim world. In many Muslim-majority countries, religious leaders frown on the practice and note that the Quran recommends that couples make a genuine effort to reconcile and resolve their differences before parting ways, said Julie Macfarlane, a law professor at the University of Windsor who wrote a book on Islamic divorce law.

Ms. Khan, 28, whose husband divorced her with his letter to her, has been visiting one Muslim cleric after another, searching for one who will say she and her husband should try to reconcile.

“I am a devout Muslim,” she said, “but I think the Muslim law board is crazy.”

“There’s no way I can ever believe I am divorced by such a letter,” she said as she thumbed limply through photographs of her wedding day. “It cannot be Allah’s will to break up families in this way.”

An instant divorce method available only to men would seem to be obviously discriminatory and an easy ruling for the Supreme Court of India. But it is not so simple.

The All India Muslim Personal Law Board, which presents itself as the protector of Muslim rights, has argued that instant divorce is part of the practice of Islam and thus protected by the Constitution.

Triple talaq is going on since 1,400 years, how can you say it is unconstitutional?” said Kapil Sibal, the lawyer representing the Muslim law board, who is a Harvard Law School graduate and a former minister of law and justice.

If men are unable to instantly divorce their wives, they “may resort to illegal, criminal ways of murdering or burning her alive,” the Muslim law board said in an affidavit to the court.

But beyond such claims, Indian Muslims are worried about preserving their right to practice their religion without interference from the application of secular laws.

Modern Indian history is replete with clashes between Hindus and Muslims. More than one million people were killed in the violence that erupted in the 1940s, when the subcontinent gained independence from Britain and was partitioned into India and Pakistan.

Pakistan defined itself as an Islamic country, but India’s founding fathers laid the groundwork for a pluralistic country where practitioners of all religions would be treated as equals. Muslims are India’s largest religious minority, making up 14 percent of the population.

Many Muslims feel particularly vulnerable today under the government of Prime Minister Narendra Modi of the Bharatiya Janata Party, which has Hindu nationalist roots. Several states have banned the sale of beef because cows are revered in Hinduism, even though beef is a staple of the Muslim diet. A government crackdown on slaughterhouses in the most populous state threatens many Muslims who are employed in the meat industry.

The Indian National Congress, which casts itself as secular and the guardian of minority rights, has resisted challenging Muslim divorce practices.

In 1985, the Supreme Court ordered the husband of a 62-year-old divorced Muslim woman to pay her alimony of about $15 a month.

The Congress party, which counts Muslims as a core constituency, moved to nullify the court’s ruling and pushed Parliament to adopt a new law shifting responsibility for supporting a divorced wife away from her husband after three months and to her relatives or Muslim charities.

That law was a grave disservice to Muslim women, said Noorjehan Safia Niaz, co-founder of the Bharatiya Muslim Mahila Andolan, one of the Muslim women’s advocacy groups that have filed a brief in the Supreme Court case.

Instead of making husbands responsible for helping support divorced wives, the new law left women “to beg at different places for maintenance,” she said in the 2014 study.

The Congress party and Indian authorities have erred in considering the Muslim law board to be “the overarching leaders of the whole Muslim community,” she said in an interview.

By listening only to male Muslim leaders, and particularly conservative clergy members, “Muslim women become voiceless and faceless persons,” she said.

Muslim women do not support the practice of instant divorce, she said. Of the more than 4,700 Muslim women from 10 states surveyed in the 2014 study, more than 90 percent opposed instant divorce. Few received any substantial payments from a husband for use in the event of his death or divorce. Most had never heard of the Muslim law board that claims to speak for India’s Muslims.

Among the Muslim women whose petitions are before the Supreme Court is Shayara Banu, 35, whose husband divorced her in 2015 by writing the word talaq three times in a letter.

Her husband, a property dealer in the northern Indian city of Allahabad, took their three children and pays no money to support her, she said in an interview. They had been married for 13 years.

Another plaintiff, Ishrat Jahan, 31, is challenging her divorce, which her husband of 15 years carried out in a phone call from Dubai, where he had gone to work.

An embroidery worker, he took their four children, married again and provides her with no financial support, Ms. Jahan told the court.

Mr. Modi’s government, which does not rely on the Muslim vote, has backed the ban on instant divorces. The practice not only discriminates against Muslim women, but also is “not integral” to the practice of Islam, Attorney General Mukul Rohatgi told the court.

Some critics view the Modi government’s position with suspicion, fearing that the intent is less to support Muslim women than to please Hindu nationalists, who have long argued that the same laws on marriage and divorce should apply to all religious groups.

But others say the time has come for the government and the courts to stand up for the rights of Muslim women.

“Religious practices cannot trump modern constitutional morality,” Pratap Bhanu Mehta, president of the Center for Policy Research, a New Delhi think tank, wrote in the May 18 issue of The Indian Express.

Indira Jaising, a lawyer representing a Muslim women’s group called the Bebaak Collective, argued in court that in a constitutional democracy, “no law, which is imposed on individuals and which is enforced by the State, can be immune from the test of fundamental rights.”

“There can be no more injustice than to be constantly at the fear of being unilaterally divorced, with no judicial recourse available,” she said in a brief to the court.


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Christian: I don’t Want Her to Get Converted

Ash says: June 14, 2017 at 12:38 pm

I am a Christian boy and my girlfriend is Hindu. She always told me that she do not want to get converted to Christian. I am open minded and I also do not want her to get converted to Christian nor my parents. It’s her decision. But now she is telling that she wants to get converted to Christian for our better future as God is one. But im upset i don’t want her to get converted into my religion because i dunno what will happen to her, will she adjust, will she be happy and if she will be sad o will feel bad. What should I do? Im confused. My 50% heart says its her choice let her do, but my another 50% heart says should i stop her. –Ash


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My Hindu Family or Muslim Lover?

Suchi says: June 12, 2017 at 4:15 am

Hey I’m maharashtrian girl…I love a Muslim guy very much…I can’t leave him…and he loves me too…But the main problem is…My family naver accepted to other religions…Kuch time phle Meri life m ESI situation aagyi thi…Jisse mne Meri family ko bhut hurt kia h…But now the condition me family n mere pyar ko bhi khona nhi chahti.. What can I do… -Suchi

Rabia says: June 13, 2017 at 9:39 am

Suchi, is his family conservative? Will they accept you as a Hindu or would you have to convert to Islam?

I am a Muslim myself and my observation is that Indian Muslims tend to be quite religious and conservative (most of them). Love is great but dont let your love And feelings for this boy blind you.

Suchi says: June 14, 2017 at 1:05 am

I wan to b Hindu after marrige as well he is also agree to do so but he was saying that his family is not going to accept me as a Hindu after marrige n he was saying that I have to accept Islam after marrige I m very confused what to do now after all this thing will going to effect my future. Suchi


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It is Hard but I will Convert to Marthoma Christian

Aruna says: June 7, 2017 at 1:36 am

I am a hindu girl and i am in a relationship with a marthoma chirstian boy.I hae spoken to my family about it but they took few months but now they r fine about it. the boy spoke to his family his mother at start was not comfortable but now she is also fine, but his father is not favorable for the marriage. he is the eldest son in the family and has a brother and a sister. his father is saying there will b a lot of problems if u get married to a hindu girl as u being the eldest of them all. he told his mother that im ready to convert into a marthoma christian which i know is hard for me but im okay about it. –Aruna


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Hindu Girl: I will Convert to Islam

Deepika says: June 4, 2017 at 12:33 pm

I am a Hindu girl and want to get marry a Muslim guy we both love each other ….but my age is 17 and his 20..and our parents are also not agreed… I will cnvrt to Islam ….but we CNT wait to become my age 18 …so what should we do now….pls suggest us smith -Deepika

Rabia says: June 5, 2017 at 2:50 am

Deepika, wait until you are older and legally allowed to marry. What’s your hurry? Do you know this man and his family enough? Will your parents be OK with you being a Muslim? (I am a Muslim myself)

Just make sure you have thought a lot before entering into any marriage with any guy, Muslim or Hindu. You are very young. –Rabia


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Syrian Orthodox Christian in Love with a Hindu

Soosan says: June 1, 2017 at 12:42 am

Hi I am a Syrian Orthodox Christian from kerala. Iam in love with a hindu boy for the past 8 years. We would like to get married according to both customs. One of my friend got married like that from a roman catholic church. But is that allowed in syrian orthodox churches?? -Soosan


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One cannot Marry a Hindu after Baptism

Emima says: May 31, 2017 at 9:02 pm
Hi,

My name is emima

I am a Christian ano I am loving a hindu guy it’s only 7 months that we got committed now I am in a great confusion because my guy is very good and perfect in everything but he is Hindu. Some plp tells me he is very good never miss him in ur life but some tells we cannot marry a hindu guy when u have taken baptism. Yes I have taken a baptism now can u plz help me in giving a suggestion. Is it a sin r not r can I marry him or not and one more thing my mom is completly into God she will never accept this. Someone plz help me in giving a solution
Thank you, –Emima

Emima says: June 1, 2017 at 7:57 pm

No I don’t belive in Hindu religion on sinners and more over I already said him that I cannot do idol worship coz I know that is d only one God hates d most and yes if in case if I marry him I’ll be staying with his family. Because his loves his parents just lik me and he is the only son to his parents. Now I am in situation where I m very much confused. I said him only if u get converted tgis marriage will happen but he is not ready to get converted and he is also telling that after marriage u can go to church be the way how you are I’ll not restrict u , but that is impossible coz even their parents should agree for that, so I have given him a last chance that is I have asked him to com and spk to my mom directly and he said ok. So plz help me can I share this to mom r no coz obviously when we share it the trust which they kept on us will be no more plz give me a solution. I don’t have peace of mind plz help me –Emima


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Christian Married to a Muslim Girl in Kerala

James married to a Muslim girl 7 years back and survived.

James says: May 30, 2017 at 5:00 am

Hey Anjana,

According to islamic Laws any Muslim Boy can marry anyone in this world. But you will have to convert to Islam. But recently the Kerala HC is against conversion for getting married.Even today (30 – May – 2017 ) there is a Strike in Ernakulam just because of this Issue.

Now, as you are in Kerala you may know that Hindu – Christian weddings are common(You can search in Google or Youtube) and they conduct the wedding in both places and hence staying neutral.

But in your case it is impossible because your boyfriend will NEVER EVER LEAVE HIS FAITH or NEVER EVER MARRY YOU WITHOUT YOU CONVERTING to islam.

Note – Before doing anything think 100 times if your boyfriend is worth it??
In my opinion if your boy friend will accept you without forcing you to change your religion then he really loves you otherwise after marriage and having sex he will just kick you out.

Note – Once you convert you will be judged by Islamic law. Don’t expect it will be favorable for women.

Note – Educate yourself. Google about Indian laws. Listen to lectures about laws in Youtube. Take Indian kanoon (a website) and read about related cases.Knowledge shall liberate you

Now, I am a person who married a Muslim girl like 7 years back, but within one day her family became her enemies and the entire Muslim community was ready to finish us off. But God was with us and he guided us and we are still alive. They ruined my family but still they couldn’t do us any harm. –James


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Malay Muslim girl will Marry an Indian Hindu

Sue says: May 27, 2017 at 8:49 pm

Dear Admin,

Im Sue a muslim girl of Malaysia. I would like to marry an Indian Hindu guy in India. Both our family now each other well. We are planning to get married on 2019 and settle in India after conversion to Hinduism. Both families agreed for our marriage. But recently i am planing to start a business In Malaysia.

Will I face any problem if i come back to Malaysia after marriage to run my business here? What are the process i will go through? –Sue


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Hindu Kerela Girl in Love with a Muslim

Anjana says: May 27, 2017 at 2:03 am

You r right zameer I’m a Hindu kerela girl and I’m loving a Muslim boy I love his character and his attitude I want to be his life partner but my parents are not willing to. What is the solution? I luv him very much I will change my religion for him I believe that Muslim pure than hindu –Anjana


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I am a Muslim by Name Only

Shieny says: May 26, 2017 at 8:52 pm

Hi, I’m a Muslim girl and my bf is an Indian. He working at Singapore. We in relationship for three years. Basically I’m a Muslims by name only because I’m a mix girl which my mother is Indian and my father is Muslims from Indonesia and married my mum. My mum convert to Muslims because of my father but then she still following all the Indian traditions. Me it self I don’t want my partner to convert since I’m not following that religion. And he also don’t want to convert. since small I have been live as Indian. But then wen it comes to marriage life what should I do. He don’t want to convert and me itself I don’t follow the religion. We want to live as Hindu. Is there any possibility to married without convert. Because basically I’m following Indian religion and culture.

I’m a Muslim girl and y bf is Indian. And I don’t even followed any single thing of the (Islam) religion.. Is it possible for me to convert into Hindu, Buddhist or Christian? What I know I don’t want to be in the religion which I don’t even practice.–Shieny


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I Just Broke up with my Muslim Boy Friend

Jy says: May 26, 2017 at 7:09 pm

Hi,

I just broke up with my bf whom is a Muslim due to this conversion issues. We have been together for 3yrs and had many ups and Downs together. From my dad not being able to accept me having a Malay bf to him going for CNY visiting with me for the last 2 CNY celebrations.

As much as we know that we are able to have a civil marriage in sg, he mentioned that he would still like to respect his mum and would want me to just sign the document and show his mum as a paperwork only. But my family is a strict taoist and my mum has just recently became a Chinese medium.

We knee in our hearts that this is not what we wanted.. But we just have to get break from each other as we had been fighting alot for the past 12-18months. And it all boils down to this conversion issue.

I would like to know if I’m able to pay for a “fake” conversion cert to show his parents (would you be able to advise onto where I can get it?) 1but then register our marriage as civil marriage? –Jy

JY says: May 27, 2017 at 10:42 pm

Hi Admin,

Thank you for your prompt response.

And thank you for sharing with me on the concept in the video. Actually I had research before on what the video had mentioned about. This is the reason why at the end of the day we decided to take a break from each other first.

However I really do love him, but I am unable to convince him to have an open mind and accept a civil marriage that is possible for us. The thing is that he typically did most of the harem things, such as drinking, smoking, wearing gold, piercing his ears, had tattoo. We even had several overseas trips together.

Yes I know that if he marries a woman that is not from the book, the day that he dies, he will be punished and be considered as a sinful man. However if were to look at his past relationships, all his muslim ex girlfriends did not motivate him to work hard and save money. Instead it was the other way round. I’m not trying to boast around but ever since we were together, his temper did simmer down and he had really became a better man.

I just do not understand why would Allah punish both of us or rather him if he had became a responsible and sensible man who knows how to then cherish and look after his family now, with just one reason that is me not being a Muslim. –Jy


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After 25 years of Marriage She Wants me to Convert to Islam

Lokesh says: May 25, 2017 at 9:41 am
Please don’t convert
I faced this problem

After 25 years of marriage my Muslim wife left me

So my advise to all…never marry Muslims –Lokesh

Lokesh says: May 27, 2017 at 8:35 pm

I stay in Mumbai and married a Muslim girl. I want to share my life experience with all and hope it serves some young people in making right decision. She wanted to convert me after 24 years of marriage. And since I refused it lead to our divorce. My son had a huge physcolgical impact. My life shattered. I initially didn’t believe it Indian subcontinent is filled with people and societies of extreme back particular are extremely narrow minded and backward. -Lokesh


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A Different Muslim

Mommen is an interfaith marriage consultant at InterfaithShaadi. You may ask her questions for guidance of your interfaith love with a Muslim.

Hanna Khan (former Momeen): says: May 25, 2017 at 10:36 am

Rabia,
Just have a look at: http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=10469 and http://www.interfaithshaadi.org/blog/?p=10641, so that you’ll have an idea of the philosophy.

My case is pretty difficult since I’m from a practicing Muslim family. Everyone in my circle knows that I don’t buy the religious theories which gloat on supremacy or discriminate with a ‘varna’ tag. I take good from all and shun bad from all.
Prayer gives me inner peace and hence mostly I start my day by reading Surah Yasin and Surah Mulk. Some years back I also chanted ‘Om’, since I found absolute tranquility in reciting the sacred mantra but my spouse felt uncomfortable and hence I stopped. I firmly believe that be it Surah Yasin or Gayathri mantra or Psalm 23‐ all are one and the same in front of God’s eyes. I also have very strong belief in Ajmer Sheriff. Some great temples I’ve visited, I love them from all my heart but I don’t pray there since that breaks my people’s hearts.

And yes, since one of the persons whom I hold in great regard, both ordered and requested that I should offer my Juma namaaz, I do follow that since I don’t want to hurt that person’s sentiments. -Momeen

Hanah Khan says: June 22, 2017 at 3:02 am

I got married into an extremely religious family. My parents-in-law were shocked to find that their only bahu doesn’t follow the Islamic norms but were exceptionally magnanimous enough to not torture me to toe their line of belief. Now, this I call it as chaste piety ‒ you believe in your God but do not force down the throat of others. The nobility gains mammoth proportion if you consider the fact that they were extremely religious, practicing Muslims.

Once my father-in-law told me that I should at least offer my Juma namaz, I hesitated for a moment but I did my prayer since that was the only way I could honour their broadmindedness. Even after his death, today I regularly offer my Juma prayers and I thank God that I was woman enough to accommodate the wishes of the noble soul.


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Sufism is not Islam; I condemn Sufism

Zakir Naik on Sufism:

mac to Rabia says: May 22, 2017 at 5:35 pm (Edit)
I have watched his videos telling people sufism is not Islam, not today but way back in 2014 and he is right about it, i love him for blatantly speaking out the truth. Sufism is not Islam, there is no mention of it in Quran, it`s an invention of people who don`t like 5 pillars and other strict rules of Islam.

While those `so called` sufi saints were real Muslims and i have deep respect for them,more than that I have for Zakir Nayak. The Sufi saints(so called) lived their life following true Islam, they never called them sufis, they identified them as muslims and preached islam, which btw is known as Islamism.

Let me make it very clear without any ambiguity, I condemn sufism as well(but i am not forcing you to condemn as well), it`s a total rubbish, Sufism is menmade non-sense it doesn`t make sense to me, people who drink, don`t read namaz, don`t practice etiquette of Islam , don`t obey advises of Prophet , take dowries, take brirbes and what not, but they visit dargahs and bow down in front of tombs of those saints, did those saints ever told people to visit their tomb of bow in front of their dead decayed body? If they have any wish, instead of asking allah and doing hard work, they visit dargah and spread chaddar over tomb of those dead bodies? For why? Who told them to do so, and who told them islam requires that?

Islam is direct connection between God and Human, God sent guides in various times of civilization,even prophet never said to visit his dargah and ask forgiveness from Him, he always pointed towards God. These Sufism has destroyed the essense of Islam in Sub continental muslims, that is why mass muslims in sub continent do not bother about learning islam, for them islam means dargah. I have no problem if people seek inspiration from lives of so called sufi saints( actually Islamic preachers, that`s what they were), so am I to object and who am I in front of those great muslims….nothing…But I would say it is best for us to seek inspiration from Quran and Hadith directly because those people also got their inspiration from these sources…they became totally greedy less because they understood the true essence of Islam.

Sufism ec are fancy words used by non-muslims to hide how islam was actually spread, because calling those people as simply pirs or fakirs or islamic preachers will disprove the myth they spread about islam being spread by force. Like Moulana Jalal Uddin Muhammad Balkhi`s quotes are shared probably million times every day in social medias and people seek inspiration from him, both Muslims and Non-Muslims, mostly non-muslims, but they share it as quotes of Rumi, and no one knows who Rumi was, they just pass his quotes, without knowing who he was, from where he got his inspiration…But Moulana word is used before Anti Indian terrorist like Azhar masud, or fake skull cap wearing guy talking non-sesne in TV, the world islam will be used in sentences containing words like Laden(who wasn`t a scholar or anything, infact he was western educated) or Al Quida and in this way a negative perception about islam and muslims have been created. I bet people will stop share same quote if in the end of quote the name Rumi gets replaced by Moulana JalalUddin…because so much negativity have been spread…what if today`s Indian youth who are bigoted and passionately hate islam for all the wrong reasons read quotes of Moulana jalal uddin instead of Rumi, their perception about Islam would have been completely different. To them islam means what Bhagdadi`s translated speech that they get to hear every time their parents switch to any news channel -mac


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Hindu Girl sincerely in Love with a Muslim

Avantika says: May 23, 2017 at 11:30 pm

Respected Authority;
I am hindu girl sincerely in a true love with a muslim boy..We are in a relationship since 6 years and personally i love islam and had great respect for islam and there is no force which insist me to follow….But his family became a great hurdle sir how to convince his family -Avantika


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Advisors at InterfaithShaadi

It is an honor of InterfaithShaadi that we have many intellectuals and experts from different faiths helping youths in love. Here is a list of a few advisors. InterfaithShaadi has not verify provided information about these advisors.

mac: Mac is a (science) college student from India. His father is a Muslim and mother a former Brahmin Hindu. Mac’s view on Hindu-Muslim marriages are summarized here and has made 2232 comments at InterfaithShaadi. He represents represents the Muslim religion.

Rabia: Rabia married to a Hindu (details) and lives in the West. She is an author of an upcoming book “An Infidel’s Diary – Memoirs of a Muslim Girl.” She has made 183 comments at InterfaithShaadi and carries moderate Islamic views.

Hanna Khan (former Momeen): Hanna is from India. She is from a Muslim family but carries very pluralistic views. She has made 155 comments on InterfaithShaadi.
Author : The Faith Strings.
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You? We will be glad to list you as a consultant here provided you make at least total 10 comments and at least one during last 3 months.

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Muslim wishes to Marry a Christian and Convert

ASHA says: May 23, 2017 at 1:04 pm

Walakum Asalam, my name Asha i got marrieed two times through my family and i got one son both husbands not with me now iam trying to marry a christian and i want to convert to as a muslim my parrents not allowing me please helps me sir to marry a christian iam working in chennai….. -Asha

ASHA says: May 24, 2017 at 10:40 am

Wappa no one call me my mobile please call me some one advise me i can marrie 3rd time muslim or christian because my brother running the masque in NEYVELI ARCH INSIDE he cant suffer when iam marrie thrid time please call me thanks –Asha


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Issues in Interfaith Marriages

source: Peninsula Multifaith Coalition
March 24, 2016

Interfaith marriage is a part of our new life. There is a high rate of interfaith marriages (40% to up to 70% in America) across all faith groups. Interfaith marriages are increasing but unfortunately issues in interfaith relationships are not reducing.

Today’s youths are secular and are influenced by media. Many don’t care to strictly follow norms in their family/culture and thus end up dating people from other faiths. Many times they even agree to follow new faith/traditions without really understanding what they are agreeing to. However, unexpected issues surface when they decide to get married. The issues get worst when time comes to give religious education to their children. A few issues are summaries here:

ISSUES IN INTERFAITH MARRIAGES

1) Which Church to Join?: Will the interfaith married couple and their children join: 1) one of two church/mosque/synagogue/mandir, 2) will attend both on different days or 3) will decide not to be a part of any of religious institution? Certain faith traditions may not allow dual religions and thus the interfaith couples will be compelled to decide one or the other.

2) What will be religions of children?: Will interfaith children follow one, the other or none of two religions of their parents? Will these children be honoring one, both or none of two Traditions? Will children follow certain milestones (like christening, baptism, bar mitzvah, sunat, namasankara, etc)? What will interfaith children learn about God?

3) Role of in-laws and community: Today’s pluralist and secular youths may wish to find some middle ground and manage their interfaith life with harmony of two faiths but that may not be acceptable by one or the other in-laws or community.

4) Weddings: Is interfaith couples going to have wedding ceremony from only one of two traditions or going to have dual weddings to satisfy all? Alternatively, will they consider only civil wedding and ignore both faith traditions? Conflicting rituals in two faiths may create problems. Certain religious institutions forbid dual weddings.

5) Holidays: Conflicting religious traditions will bring headaches to interfaith couple during major holidays, especially when two faiths are at odds or with historical conflicts.

6) First name of children: Will children have names of one tradition or both?

7) Food/Diet: Will the interfaith family cook and eat halal, kosher or vegetarian food?

8) Culture: Individual cultural practices will impact family life. In some cultures dominance by in-laws is considered an acceptable practice. In some other cultures, male dominance is expected. Certain dress code (like hijab or turban) can be an issue by the other family. Is the other interfaith party aware and can cope with such cultural differences?

9) Finances: To be a part of a religious institution, the couple may have to pay 3-12% of their total gross income to the institution. Will the other side okay with such financial commitment for life?

10) Burial: One day we have to go and can go only one way. Will the burial for the couple (or children) be according to one or the other tradition?

WHAT COULD A DATING COUPLE DO?

What should a dating interfaith couple do before getting deep into a serious interfaith relationship to make it a healthy one? The couple could discuss above listed issues and decide before hands for how they will handle their planned married life. It is also good to run by couple’s decision to the two sets of parents to make sure parents are on board for the planned married life.

A big confusion may come between a pluralist (all faiths lead to salvation) and an exclusivist (only my faith is truth). A pluralist may agree for religious conversion to the other faith without realizing what they are getting into. In the later case, major issues may potentially surface 5-10 years down in couple’s married life when time comes to guide children.

Instead of picking one or the other faith, and if it works for the couple, Unitarian type unifying concept may be a good solution. Sometimes, the couple will have to make compromises and reluctantly accept the other faith practices even not acceptable in own faith.

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Indian Hindu Girl with Indian Muslim in Malaysia

Anu says: May 20, 2017 at 4:40 am
Hi,

Please help me. I am an Indian hindu working in Malaysia and my boyfriend is an Indian muslim, we want to marry and respect each other religion and no one wants to convert. Is it possible for 2 expats from muslim and non muslim background to marry. Please suggest. –Anu

Sharis Laws that all non-Muslims should know, Malaysia Marriage laws, A Hindu cannot marry a Malaysian Muslim, Singapore marriage laws, Indian marriage laws, DON’T Fake-convert (focus on Malaysia laws), Koran on Hindus?, Islamic Nikaah without conversion is not possible, Malaysia Muslim is not allowed Hindu wedding, InterfaithShaadi does not recommend this: I am in Singapore and married to a Muslim without conversion, Malaysia’s Sharia law costs non-Muslims their kids, Registration of marriage for non-Muslims in Malaysia (note: A confirmation letter from the respective government that the applicant is not a Muslim),

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Media Coverage of the Book: Interfaith Marriage

These are media coverages for the book and/or work:

Rajiv Malhotra (Aug 7, 2017): Youtube and Facebook (with more than 70K hits).

IndoAmerican News (Aug 3, 2017) Full article

India Herald (Aug 1, 2017) Full article

***Houston Sanatan Hinduism RADIO show (July 30, 2017): Facebook and Youtube

IndoAmerican News: Managing the Stresses of Complicated Interfaith Relationships (July 28, 2017)

India Herald: Interfaith marriages (Jul 19, 2017)

Hindu Press International: Interfaith Marriage: Share & Respect with Equality (Jun 29, 2017)

Sanatan Radio Houston (July 22, 2017)

Voice of America (VoA): Indian Laws, Culture Boost Inter-Faith Marriages (Apr 12, 2012)

Pittsburg Pattrika: Interfaith Marriages is Part of Our Life Here — Let Us Accept it! (Dec 23, 2011)

Patheos: Hindus, Abrahamics, and Intolerants (Aug 25, 2010)

Patheos: Dharmic Plus Abrahamic? (Apr 27, 2010)

Stephen Knapp: Interfaith Marriages: What Young Dharmists Should Know

Hindava Kerala: A message to Dharmic youths on Interfaith Marriages (Jun 17, 2010)

India Abroad: I Salute a Muslim (Letter; Dec 4, 2019)

PRLog: Changing Landscape of Muslims in America (Nov. 1, 2009)

Beliefnet: Hindus Find New Faiths In Marriage (Nov 2008)

PRLog: Changing Landscape of Hindus in America (Nov. 11, 2008)

Hinduism Today: In My Opinion. Inter-religious Marriage: What our youth should know about the potential stumbling blocks of multi-faith marriages (Jul 2008)

If you have seen a citation, do list it below, thanks.


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Religion and Science

Rabia says: May 15, 2017 at 7:32 am

mac, … A girl once asked him why us Muslims are so left behind in science etc nowadays. Why can’t we as Muslims be more advanced and proud of making inventions etc in this day & age? A lot of Muslims go abroad to Western countries to get their professional education and become doctors, scientists, engineers, researchers etc there.

Why, for example, can this not be done in Pakistan instead? Why does Pakistani government spend less time protecting the killers of people who were rumoured to commit “blasphemy”, or spend less money on their ever-increasing defense budget, and instead use that money & energy on scientific advancement?

just some food for thought… –Rabia

Admin says:

Hi, Rabia,

You have raised a great question worth discussing. Being a cancer research scientist and have spent more than 40 years in the medical research field, let us share our view points on this subject. Science requires open mindedness and financial support from government. You decide where those two points stand when comes to what Muslims want.

Christianity: Galileo was imprisoned because he discovered things against the Biblical teachings. It was not in the interest of churches that such disclosures gets out of hands. Later, luckily, Christians decided to settle for science and not the church. Now the West if enjoying prosperity.

China: They surpassed Buddhism/religions and instead focus on economical progress. Now China is a world power.

India and Pakistan: Both these country have same type of people, same land and same type of financial issues. In about 1965, India decided to put all money for science and maths and created lots of engineers and scientists/doctors. Instead of that, Pakistan’s Zia-ul-Haq decided to take the country to Islam. He Spend all spare money in creating Mosques and madrasas and banning all non-Sunnis. Results are obvious today. Pakistan has now very strong Islam base and no one has daring talking against Islam. Since there are not many jobs, that created rooms for al-queda and other fanatic organizations. Compared to Pakistan, today, India has lots more peace and prosperity.

Within India: Indian Muslims are less educated and poorer compared to counter parts Hindus, Jains, Sikhs, Christians and Parsia. However, Indian Muslims have maximum number of kids because Allah said so.

Turkey: We visited Turkey four years before and found the country to be prosperous. However, at that time, President Tayyip Erdogan was spending lots of money building Mosques in every town and government spent lots of money taking control of mosque management in Turkey. Burka was banned but he lifted that and took the country from secular to religious side. Results?… Now Islam is stronger than ever in Turkey. And the economy? Tourism is drastically down and economy GDP was all time high of 823 USD Billion in 2013 when we visited, but today 717 USD. Only thing up is the bombing and terrorism.

Pakistan and Turkey’s problems are increased because government decided to give importance to Islam and less to progress, open-mindedness and science. Results are apparent, load and clear.

Which scientist wishes to go live in Saudi Arabia, even for any amount of salary? Muslims have to decide what is more important for them. Good luck!

Don’t blame others for Islamic issues, but always remember there will be 3 fingers towards you when you point one finger to others.

mac being a scientist, we wish to hear your views. -Admin


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Authors Presentations and Travel Plans

Book: Interfaith Marriage – Share & Respect with Equality

These are presentations and travel plans for Dr. Dilip Amin.

Jul 29, 2017: Houston, 3-6 pm
Sep 15-17, 2017: HMEC meeting, Indianapolis

Apr 23, 2017: Pluralism, Sacred Heart Cathedral Prep School, Islamic Network Groups, San Francisco, California

Mar 25, 2017: Beyond Hinduism, Jewish Students from Temple Shalom, Burlingame, California

Feb 24, 2017: Living the Faith, to Holocaust Survivors, Jewish Family and Children’s Services, San Francisco, California

Feb 7, 2017: Living the Faith, Del Mar San Carlo High School, Islamic Network Groups, California

Oct 4, 2016: National Day of Prayer for Behavioral Health and Understanding, San Mateo County, California

Jan 31, 2015: Beyond Hinduism, Peninsula Temple Shalom, Burlingame, California

Dec 15, 2014: Beyond Hinduism, Peninsula Multifaith Coalition, San Francisco, California

Sept 18, 2014: Beyond Hinduism, Jewish Community High School of the Bay, San Francisco, California

April 27, 2014: Interfaith Relationships with Equality, Global Hindu Conference, San Jose, California

April 22, 2014: Mind, Matters and Faith, BHRS Spirituality Initiatives, San Mateo County, California

Jan 12, 2014: Beyond Hinduism, Jewish Students, Temple Shalom, Burlingame, California

Dec 15, 2013: World Religions, Sanatan Mandir, San Bruno, California

May 15, 2011: Inter-Religious Differences: Interfaith Marriage, Plymouth Balvihar, Pennsylvania

Oct 23, 2010: Preparing for Inevitable: Interfaith Marriages, Hindu Mandir Executive Committee (HMEC), Houston Texas

Aug 20, 2009: Interfaith Relationships with Equality, Vivekananda Family Summer Camp, New Jersey

Nov 15, 2009: Interfaith Marriage with Equality, Plymouth Balvihar, Pennsylvania

Jul 1, 2009: Interfaith Relationship with Equality, Sadhu Vaswani Summer Camp, New York

Apr 11, 2009: Interfaith Relationship with Equality, Berlin Temple, New Jersey

Mar 25, 2009: Interfaith Relationship with Equality, HSC, Rutgers University, New Jersey

Nov 16, 2008: Interfaith Marriages and Unanticipated Consequences, Arsha Bodha Center, New Jersey

July 2008: Inter-Religious Marriage, Hinduism Today

Feb 24, 2008: Interfaith Marriages and Unanticipated Consequences, Plymouth Balvihar, Pennsylvania

Feb 10, 2008: Interfaith Marriages and Unanticipated Consequences, Hindu Student Council (HSC), Gurukulum, Pennsylvania

Dec 15, 2007: Interfaith Marriage and Future of their Progeny, Hindu Collective Initiative, Orlando, Florida


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Malaysian Hindu Girl with a Yemeni Muslim

Janani says: May 12, 2017 at 12:38 pm

Hi I am a Malaysian Hindu girl and in love with a Yemeni guy who lives in Saudi Arabia. We met at our college during my pre-university year. We were first friends for 6 months, and although I knew I shouldn’t have due to wanting to respect what my mum told me, I eventually confessed my feelings to him and he felt the same way too. We have been together for 8 months since.

We are still students, we are both each other’s first partners, therefore we are still young but I have high hopes for this relationship that it will last till marriage. My mother told me no dating Muslims or I will have to bear my loss (whatever that means), but I know myself and I know I didn’t fall for the religion. I fell for his kind heart and personality. It’s the same as falling for another human being (which would preferably be an Indian Hindu to my mother’s liking), but I don’t see a reason why it’s wrong to be with him/break up with him just because he’s a Muslim.

I understand my mother’s worries, that she doesn’t want me to convert to Islam. Only the Malaysian laws state that non-Muslims have to convert to Islam to marry their Muslim partner. This is not even stated in the Qur’an but although they do state that Hindus are not accepted in marriage to Muslims mainly because they are totally different. I must say that I am not a pious person, but being born a Hindu, of course I love my religion. If I want to be with him, I don’t want him or I to convert ourselves just to be with each other, it doesn’t make sense to me.

I don’t plan to tell my family or anyone now because I am only 19 and so I don’t know what lies in the future for us. I won’t tell them now because telling them now will just make it seem like I want to marry him while I am still this young. I can’t help if they spot me holding his hands in public and if they confront me about it, I will just be honest about how I feel.

Yes, maybe it’s because he’s my first love I feel like I want to marry him, but not having hope in the relationship is of no use, so I stopped doing that because it led to thoughts of breaking up. I don’t know how far this will take us but all I know is that I love him with all my heart right now and that’s all I need to think about. I am just going to focus on the present and make the best out of it. Therefore,

My questions are:
1. Does the Sharia Law in Malaysia apply to foreign Muslims as well, should be want to get married here.
2. If we cannot get married in Malaysia due to the Sharia Laws here, are there other countries that will accept this marriage without the requirement of either one of us to convert our religions. If so, which countries are these?
3. Is it impossible for Hindus and Muslims to live together and build a family? –Janani


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Fatwas against Zakir Naik

Rabia says: May 12, 2017 at 8:17 am

Mac, I just discovered that there are lots of fatwas against Dr Zakir Naik that you love and follow. Admin, kindly e-mail this to Mac privately in case he no longer visits the website. At least one misguided brother will see this.

Mac, see this too: http://www.hindustantimes.com/india-news/zakir-naik-unfit-to-preach-muslims-shoud-avoid-listening-to-him-darul-uloom/story-uyLibblyU8av4Y79r2kIPI.html

(8) DR. NAIK DECLARED KAFIR BY OVER 50 FATAWAS AND MILLIONS OF CONDEMNATIONS

(a) In August 2008, Darul Uloom Deoband, India issued a fatwa stating: “The statements made by Dr Zakir Naik indicate that he is a preacher of Ghair Muqallideen (People who reject Imams of Fiqh., like Salafis, Ahle Hadith, etc.). One should not rely upon his speeches.”

(b) Similar Fatwas are issued by many other scholars including Deobandi Mufti Zar Wali Khan, founder of Jamia Arabia Ahsan-ul-uloom, Karachi, Pakistan

(c) Yaha Al-Hajoori, the famous Ahl-e-Hadith scholar condemned Dr. Naik in many of his writings and declared him Kafir.

(d) More than 20 Fatawas of Kufr were issued by the Shariah Board of America against Naik. They say Naik has gone astray as he is not a scholar but is involved in Islamic teachings without authority or any knowledge to do so, which is dangerous to Islam. “Naik is known for discussions on comparative religions. He is not a qualified Aalim-e-Deen, therefore his comments on fiqh have no merit. If it is true that he condemned the fiqh of the Imams, then that in itself is a clear indication of his lack of understanding of Shariah.”

(e) A Fatwa was issued by Darul Ifta Jamia Binnoria, Pakistan, regarding Zakir Naik not being a certified Aalim of Deen.

(f) In November 2008, Lucknow, India based Government appointed Mufi Abul Irfan Mian Firangi Mahali issued a fatwa-e-Kufr against Naik, describing Naik as a “Kafir” (non-believer) and stating in the fatwa, that Naik should be ex-communicated from Islam. He argued that “Naik is not an Islamic scholar. His teachings are against Quran. In his speeches, he insults Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alaihe wasallam and his family members and glorifies Yazeed, the assasin of Imam Husain Radiallahu anh.
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If after seeing all this information I copied from the internet does NOT change Mac (and other like-minded Muslims’) minds about Zakir Naik, I don’t know what will. I don’t know the man enough to pass a judgement on him, but I would be very very careful before listening to him knowing what I know now.

I feel so sorry for Muslims, Admin. I don’t know what it’s going to take for us to stop listening to hate preachers and dividers, and to actually seek advice from real scholars of Islam. Even education may not help. I want to stop being a pessimist but every time I see an ignorant Muslim comment on something, declaring the other side “Infidel”, it just upsets me. –Rabia

mac says: May 13, 2017 at 5:17 pm

Darool ulum and other tekedars of Islam has destroyed Islam, these are the people in the hands of which Islam was been defamed most, these are business and political organizations, nothing else. If Dr. Zakir Nayak was really unislamic, Saudi Arabia or Malaysia wouldn`t accepted him or awarded him. A person who converted so many people to Islam convert is kafir for these Indian moulanas, who doesn`t get a damn from Islamic countries thus jealous of Dr. Naik popularity and acceptance. While not a single Islamic Sharia following countries has rules of instant triple talaq, these Indian mouluvis Indian so called product of prestigious religious institutions of India were defending triple talaq for so long by saying it is law from Allah and can`t be changed, but they never answered by Saudi Arabia or Pakistan or Bangladesh despite being Muslim majority country and some even Islamic don’t have such laws, but now that BJP has pressed hard on them, these moulanas are saying govt don`t need to change abolish triple talaq, they will abolish it themselves.

Muslim Law Board: Will Abolish Triple Talaq in 18 Months
http://www.ayupp.com/myindia/muslim-law-board-will-abolish-triple-talaq-in-18-months-14919.html

Sharia not meant to change, any alteration will not be tolerated: AIMPLB member MahaliM
Sharia not meant to change, any alteration will not be tolerated: AIMPLB member Mahali

Now question is why they are saying to abolish it when all the time they kept on repeating that it was from God? Actually they were fooling Indian Muslims who can`t read Quran and are uneducated at the same time to gain knowledge about Islam from other sources, since listening to Zakir Naiks talks, these people were getting awakened and starting avoiding these so called true ulemas who misguided people for so long realised that it is because of this guy that they are becoming valueless in the society.

These people even went on to say Triple Talaq is about life and death for indian muslims, how can triple talaq be life and death for muslims?
So it doesn` surprise me when these people issue fatwa against Zakir Nayak.

Rabia says: July 16, 2017 at 4:38 am
Momeen,
What you said below about what you envision Islam to become one day will happen one way or another – InshAllah if we are lucky we will see the begininga of this in our lifetime.

“And why I should only be a ‘he’, I’m a He-Man, man! If only God were to bless me with the powers, I would scrap the entire venomous ideology elucidated by Muhammad ibn Abd-al-Wahhab, Muhammad Abduh and reform it with a brand new Islam which would be more peaceful than Buddhism, more magnanimous than Hinduism and more humane than Christianity and all the sycophant-warriors of Muhammad ibn Abd-al-Wahhab, Muhammad Abduh will become angelic-carriers of messages of peace, magnanimity and love− only, if only”

Let the Wahhabis do their thing. There is a Hadith against them, I won’t even quote it here – let them read and figure it out on their own since they go around preaching Islam to you and me… -Rabia


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Children Half-Sikh and Half-Muslim

Rook says: May 1, 2017 at 2:42 pm

A member of my family (Sikh) is married to a non practicing Muslim. They have been together 16 years and married 4 years with 2 children (with mix of half Sikh and half Muslim names) neither kids are forced into either religion.

Neither of them converted, they just had a registery and not a Sikh marriage or Muslim marriage. People are very quick to judge but I though Sikhism was about equality.

This is an extract I’ve taken from realsikhism:
The more a married couple has in common, the more likely their marriage will be successful. Sikhism is a modern religion, and instructs that all humans are created equal. In no way Sikhism states that one should not marry another human because they are less of human or inferior. Neither does Sikhism state not to marry anyone from another religion. All humans are equal but people from different religions do have different beliefs. So, it is best to find someone who shares the same belief system as you or you both would like to learn and grow spiritually in the same path.

In order to live a peaceful spiritual lifestyle to accomplish the purpose of the human life, one should get married to someone who agrees with and would like to follow the teachings of Sikh Gurus so that the couple can together carry on their journey to be One with God. To clarify, the teachings of Sikh Gurus are not focused on belonging to a particular religion, the teachings value becoming a good person, helping others, and loving God.

Written very well. It’s a shame ‘Sikhs’ are making up their own beliefs within their own religion even though it’s meant to be about equality and being peaceful and spiritual. Actually I guess it’s the same for all religions. Just like someone mentioned that Muslims are forcing others to convert when this against Islam and they pretend it isn’t
Religions have lost their innocence and pureness that was meant to bring humanity together. Not to divide us.

God bless x


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Endorsement of the Book: Interfaith Marriage

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Raman Khanna: This book is an outstanding addition to any library on both child-rearing and “what to think about before marriage”….

Deepak Bhatt: Dr. Amin is NEITHER against any religion nor interfaith marriage but emphasizes on doing your HOMEWORK before making any final decision.

Pastor Connie Winter-Eulberg: As a Christian Pastor I really appreciate all of the work and experience that Dilip Amin has put into this book. This is a great resource for me and I highly recommend this book to any faith leader or counselor who works with couples who are from different faiths. This is what I have been looking for!

Ashley: As a woman in an interfaith marriage I really got a lot out of this book. Even though it’s aimed at young people and their parents as an advice book BEFORE marriage I found the personal stories enlightening and educational. The author offers their own perspective but also allows room for comments by people who have disagreed with him, in order to give a balanced view and I really appreciated that. I think this is definitely an important read for anyone considering entering into an interfaith marriage. Marriage is a challenge, even if it seems like it’s made in heaven. People coming from vastly different faiths need to address these issues early on and not be afraid of the answers they uncover. It’s so important to communicate, and this book helps readers think about issues they might not have considered, or maybe didn’t know how to address. The book may feel repetitive at the very beginning, but it is easy to read and the author provides a plethora of footnotes and references for further reading.

VMS: This book shows how an interfaith marriage can be harmonious, supported by poignant examples from many years of counseling. Not only a great tool, but also a good read.

By Aasiya Khan: First of its kind, this book explores the peculiar situation: a world where you’re free to marry a person of your choice but are stifled by the strictures created by irrational religious institutions and intolerant communities. The author has meticulously documented as how an individual willingly or unwillingly loses identity due to marriage with a person from other faith. It is just mind-blowing to learn that even in this modern world men and women hang on to every word of the Holy Book and force faith on partners who adhere to other religious beliefs. Incredible, informative and well-timed book.

By RJ: This is an interesting book. It will be useful when my children gets into an interfaith relationship. I like the “Meera versus Margaret: Discrimination of Own Type” article, very interesting!

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As a Christian Pastor I am always looking for resources that equip my ministry. The author has written a respectful and “tell it like it is” book that brings together information on a subject that breaks apart many families. This book is helpful, insightful and a gem for people working with couples from different faiths.
Pastor Connie Winter-Eulberg, St. Andrews Lutheran Church, San Mateo, CA

For two individuals who grow up in different religious belief systems, it can pose an impediment to marital bliss. As a wedding officiant who has performed many interfaith ceremonies, I find this book based on hundreds of actual cases, a MUST READ.
Deepak Kotwal, Author: Vivaha Samskara

In an era of maniacal slogan, ‘My Religion Is The Truest,’ this book strives for the Utopian, ‘All Faiths are Good and Equal’ philosophy. The book is a must-read for people who envision an egalitarian society in general and an eye-opener for couples who plan to enter an interfaith marriage in particular.
Hanah Khan, Author: The Faith Strings

“This book offers a guide to topics including conversion, dealing with in-laws, raising children in one or both faiths and sharing worship practices. Real people share the worries, challenges and joys that their interfaith relationships present and these are valuable contributions to a very useful book. If you are contemplating an interfaith marriage, this book is a must read.”
Deb Motto, Yoga Teacher

This book definitely helps any Jewish-Hindu (or any mix of faiths) couple ask the right questions as they prepare for a marriage of equality.
Richard Heiman, Past Board Member of the Jewish Community Relations Council

This book is a good resource for any one, especially college-aged, who may be getting serious with a date-mate from a different faith.
Sona Kaur, a Sikh-Hindu student at University of California, Davis


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This book is written to promote interfaith marriage with equality. It highlights complexities of interfaith relationships for the benefit of interfaith couples and their parents. Using interfaith marriages as a tool, the author wishes to promote religious pluralism and tolerance in this world.

This book is more than “Interfaith Marriage for Dummies.” It provides relevant texts from scriptures, historic perspectives, practical issues, laws governing interfaith marriages, and real-life experiences from hundreds of youths.

As the world is getting smaller, there is greater personal interaction between people with diverse backgrounds. This results in an increasing number of interfaith marriages, and, this trend is expected to increase over the coming years.

Most interfaith conflicts appear only a few months before marriage or in worst cases, just a few days before the birth of a child. The objective of this book is to help educate new adults so that they make fully informed decisions before committing to long-lasting married life.

It is easy for a religious leader to give grand sermons on interfaith harmony but quite difficult in the day-to-day life of an interfaith couple to find middle ground between conflicting religious beliefs. Unfortunately, most interfaith dating couples don’t have sufficient knowledge about the intended spouse’s faith, or even about their own faith. Further, in the early dating period, it is difficult to bring up sensitive topics like religion for fear of disturbing the fragile romantic relationship. However, couples would be better off discussing critical issues sooner rather than later. Relevant guidance and talking points are provided in this book.

Historically, interfaith marriages between Dharmics (Hindu, Jain, Sikh and Buddhist) and Abrahamics (Christian, Jew and Muslim) were rare, but now they are becoming common and increasing in numbers. Table 1 shows the important differences between the belief systems of Dharmics and Abrahamics. The author’s marriage survey in 2009 found that 38% of Dharmics got married to Abrahamics in America. About the same percentages of interfaith marriages have been reported for Christians, Muslims and Jews.

Table 1: Abrahamic verses Dharmic Faiths*


The main focus of this book is to help navigate a Dharmic-Abrahamic couple from conflicting religious issues. However, the author would like to warn interfaith dating readers and their parents that the journey is not going to be easy.

It is not the objective of this book to criticize any particular faith or religion, but to highlight potential conflicts and major differences. The author expects readers of this book to be educated intellectuals and thus be able to objectively navigate through the difficult-to-swallow information provided in this book. It is hoped that the readers will appreciate the objective of the work in promoting the equality of partners in an interfaith marriage.

Ideally, it would be better if an interfaith couple believes that religious scriptures were written by apostles/sages in earlier times and should be interpreted within its context. However, if one member of the couple believes that the scripture is a direct message from God and must be followed literally, then the other member should know how that will impact their planned married life.

It is fashionable to talk of being secular and tolerant in colleges, and thus not always easy to recognize an exclusivist. To help readers learn to spot exclusivist thinking in the intended spouse, simple lists of questions are provided in this book.

For the most part, Abrahamic faiths are monotheistic, exclusivist and believe in the superiority of their faith over each other’s and others’. Dharmic faiths, on the other hand, are relatively more pluralistic. Abrahamics are expected to identify themselves by clear association with their religious institution and must “formally” accept a particular faith by certain religious ceremony, like Baptism, Bris, bar mitzvah, Shahadah, sunat, khitan, etc. (referred to in this book as “BBS”) These exclusivist ceremonies have certainly created problems for even interfaith marriages within Abrahamics, because dual ceremonies (like baptism and bar mitzvah) for a child are not accepted by either of the two faith leaders. Such religious labelings are also present in Dharmic faiths, but are not enforced as much by religious institutions or the Dharmic communities.

In most cases, it is not the couple’s religious scriptures, but what that person has learned from it is important. It is hoped that this book will help discuss critical topics that a Dharmic-Abrahamic couple may have overlooked and will help them achieve an ever lasting and loving marriage with clear understanding. Although it may be uncomfortable to read certain chapters, it is hoped that interfaith dating couples will read this book together to gain maximum benefit.

Everyone likes to have equality in many aspects of life. Religious equality in an interfaith marriage should not be any different, though it is difficult to define. Further, tolerance toward religious differences may be high during the dating period but these differences may become a major point of conflict later in married life. The author’s objective here is not to define for readers what is right and wrong, but to provide dating couples with talking points to help them make fully “informed” decision. The author wishes you all everlasting happiness in your inter-faith or within-faith married life, irrespective of how you define equality.

While guiding the interfaith couples during the last 9 years, the author wrote many articles (covered in Chapter II) based on common questions raised by youths in love. Other chapters (Chapters III–XI) are directed to couples from two specific faiths. Chapter XII covers conflicting points among scriptures. Eighty-one real life experiences out of more than 900 youths that the author consulted are also described in this book.

In author’s experience, initially, most youths were tolerant and accommodating to their intended spouse’s faith but later changed their minds to please their parents and religious institutions. In the end, the author felt, most couples were not ready for an interfaith marriage with equality.

With this book, the author is hoping to raise awareness about the potential conflicts due to religious exclusivity, which may lead to pain and suffering among dating and married interfaith couples. It is author’s wish to promote religious harmony and pluralism.


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The Author of Book: Interfaith Marriage

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The author has a doctorate degree in Pharmacology and is a lifelong (42 years) researcher in the medical field. Dr. Dilip Amin has earned 6 patents and authored 23 scientific publications. He is currently working in the cancer research field.

He was born in Gujarat, India and is now settled in America. Dr. Amin has travelled to 27 countries to learn of different cultures and religions.

He was a President of Plymouth Balvihar, Blue Bell, Pennsylvania, USA, and is a founder of the Balvihar at Sanatan Mandir, San Bruno, California. Dr. Amin is a Director of Peninsula Multifaith Coalition in the San Francisco Bay area. He is a certified speaker at Islamic Networks Group, San Jose, California. He is a Dharma Ambassador with Hindu American Foundation. He co-authored the book Vivaha Samskara: The Hindu Wedding Ceremony.

Dr. Amin founded a Forum for Interfaith Marriage with Equality (InterfaithShaadi.org) in 2009 where he guided more than 900 youths in their interfaith love relationship issues. He has been happily married for past 38 years and has two children born and raised in America.

Dr. Amin’s email address is InterfaithShaadi@gmail.com.


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Malaysian Muslim non-Muslim Love Relationship

Lala says: April 22, 2017 at 11:28 pm

Hi 🙂 I would love to know what was the solution as I am in similar situation. Hope to hear your reply.

A non Muslim Malaysian staying in Singapore. I know civil marriage is allowed here. But what happens when you need to renew your passport? Or when you have kids? Would you be able to go back to Malaysia to visit? Would you need to go back seperately?

If the authority finds out, what would be the worst thing that could happen? Both Malaysians. One is Muslim and the other is non Muslim.

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Sikh Girl with Pakistani Muslim in Dubai

Sona says: April 18, 2017 at 1:49 am

hi i m Sikh girl Indian i m working in Dubai and i fall love with Muslim guy who is from Pakistan we both wants to marry i dnt want t convert kindly advice me. -Sona


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