Emmanuel says: April 18, 2016 at 5:38 am
Hi sir,
I have married a muslim girl as I am a christian and it’s 1year, from the time of marriage we are not staying together as I want to stay with her but she doesn’t want to stay bcoz of her parents are denying and they are planning of divorce, I want to know the terms and conditions as well as the procedure that how this divorce will be possible or impossible…. Plz reply my concern ASAP -Emmanuel
Emmanuel says: April 19, 2016 at 9:32 am
I don’t want to divorce her but her parents don’t want our relationship as we done court marriage and I thought it’s not the moment to run at that moment it messed up everything our relationship was of 5year after that we got married and we decided to open this later after 5 months I told to my parents as well as her also, my parents r ready but there parents are not agree with this marriage n they controlled her also n she is also saying I want divorce wat can I do I haven’t talked to her till yet, her parents totally controlled her, I said I have legally married her n if you want us to get separate it will be legally, that’s y I wanted to ask the procedure as I don’t want to divorce her…. Plz guide me -Emm
Admin says:
Is this not absolutely SAD? You two love each other and already married, but parents imprisoned the adult (their child). Is it what Allah teaching them? Actually, in Indian and Muslim cultures, it is the girl who has to loose more after marriage. Considering all these, do parents really think what is good for her at this stage if her life?
Today, you are legally married and you two are husband and wife. You (or her) are not a Muslim-male thus polygamy is not permitted. Only option if any of you wish to remarry is to have a legal divorce.
Both agree: You have to get divorce papers from a local marriage bureau and both go for a consensual divorce proceeding. The judge many ask for certain waiting period to reconsider your decision and then grant you the divorce.
Only one sided divorce: If any of you don’t want divorce, then when the other party request to sign papers, just ignore it or go for a long travel. It will cost the other party a lot of money and will delay the proceedings by a lot if you don’t agree. In case if you find out that her marriage is planned, you may call police to stop that marriage. Remember you don’t want to get remarried till you have a formal divorce.
It is good to remind all dating couples that you are not marrying to a person but to two sets of parents and communities. As hard as it may be, it is good to disclose to parents about your love, sooner than later.
Emmanuel, there is no way those parents are going to let you stay Christian if you stay married to her. There will be tremendous pressure from your wife and her family all your life. Considering all these, it is good to “cut the cord” and move on with you life. Let us know how it goes. Best wishes! -Admin
Emmanuel Anand says: April 21, 2016 at 9:47 am
Hii everyone
U all r misguided me, I am a christian as I have full faith in my religion but commitment also matters n I was ready to convert to Muslim community also but still their ego comes in between that I am a non Muslim, and her mother was a Hindu still her dad married her and her mom converted, I had the guts to face the issue I promised in front of everyone one that I will convert but still they are not agreeing…. God know wats in their mind. I just know to give love u will get love back sacrifice is not a mistake but I am immotionally hurt
If you can’t give a solution don’t stretch it… Thank u ..Emmanuel
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I am helping a widow whose remarriage was registered with panchayat to a person whose first wife was living. The living wife was a cousin of the widow and initially with intentention to grant refuse to widow who was living with her parents after the death of her husband. After the death of her father the widow found difficult to stay in parents house.since the cousin had no child red with her husband she offered the widow refuse in her house with intention yo have children.no formal marriage as per traditional customs or court marriage was performed. But for vested interest in laws side got the marriage registered in both panchayats the husband’s and cousins panvhyats registered as remarriage. The widow lost her husbands earned family pension as panvhayats refused her the certificate to state that she is the widow of her first husband and has right to pension. How can I get the registerstion cancelled so that she gets her family pension of her first husband as remarriage was registered when his first wife was alive and is void.
Dear Shahi,
This is certainly complex. Understand that we are not lawyer/attorney and using common sense to reply. Further, this is an international organization and we may not know laws in your country. Are all parties Muslims (because non-Muslim cannot have more than one wife)? You said “vested interest in laws side got the marriage registered”, meaning they are husband and wife and the marriage got registered. Even she now gets a divorce from the new marriage, that does not mean automatically she will qualify for the pension. Check with the pension company if there is a requirement that the widow must not remarry to get the pension, this is not a fair law.
Best option is to keep silent on the new marriage and find someone else to– “panvhayats refused her the certificate to state that she is the widow” –write this certificate. She is a widow and she deserves her husband’s pension. Best wishes.
Brother emme, this is the exact reason why they are opposing your marriage with her and rightly so as you yourself had said here that you have full faith in christianity but lying in front of them that you are muslim just to achieve legality to have sex with that muslim here, and yes, no love involved here as true love doesn’t imply making your gf stand against her religion and parents which you are doing.
Hii everyone
U all r misguided me, I am a christian as I have full faith in my religion but commitment also matters n I was ready to convert to Muslim community also but still their ego comes in between that I am a non Muslim, and her mother was a Hindu still her dad married her and her mom converted, I had the guts to face the issue I promised in front of everyone one that I will convert but still they are not agreeing…. God know wats in their mind. I just know to give love u will get love back sacrifice is not a mistake but I am immotionally hurt
If you can’t give a solution don’t stretch it…
Thank u
Bro you said,
you are christian, you are a strong beliver of your faith and you have married a muslim girl, now girl parent want to divorce from you
For marriage sake you want to convert islam,
brother, first of all forcing to any one is prohibited in islam.. and dont revert to islam for marriage purpose. .
Hi Emmanuel,
You made contrasting statements, “I am a christian as I have full faith in my religion” and “ready to convert to Muslim community.” As a Muslim you have to believe that believing Jesus as a Son of God is a monstrous falsehood (19:88; meaning Christianity is invalid). Are you ready to believe that?
Christians and Muslims, both, believe in God but one believes in glorifying Jesus and another Muhammad. So the conversion is not about God but decision between Muhammad and Jesus. Which one of two you think is giving better message to this world?
Emmauel,
Before we answer, let us know how did you get married? In a church, by Nikaah or the Special Marriage Act 1954?
Is she educated? Can you teach her love and respect for all? Remind her that most Muslim boys will not want to marry her since she is already married and had sex. She may have to settle for someone who is less educated and not earning enough. On top, remind her that the Muslim guy has an option to have 4 wives and he can beat her. Before considering divorce, remind her reality of life.
I don’t want to divorce her but her parents don’t want our relationship as we done court marriage and I thought it’s not the moment to run at that moment it messed up everything our relationship was of 5year after that we got married and we decided to open this later after 5 months I told to my parents as well as her also, my parents r ready but there parents are not agree with this marriage n they controlled her also n she is also saying I want divorce wat can I do I haven’t talked to her till yet, her parents totally controlled her, I said I have legally married her n if you want us to get separate it will be legally, that’s y I wanted to ask the procedure as I don’t want to divorce her…. Plz guide me
Hi Emm,
Do not use your full name for your privacy. We have removed it for you. See our comments above. Best wishes.
Emmanuel:
As per islam your marriage is illegal ..her parents are acting accordingly so it is not thier personal idea ..it is islam dicision
we can not change our islam rules ( holly rules ) for your love
if your christianity is precious to you ..already you shoud have never approached her ..is it good that you put her against her religion and her parents so as you to be happy in your marriage ???!!!
Why you said, “you shoud have never approached her”? How did you know that it was one sided approach and not mutual consent?
If she was a Muslim, she should have followed Koran 24:30 (lower her gaze). They were adults and in love for 5 long years. If she is a Muslim, she should have known what she is getting into.
So the fault is not one sided, but both (including parents for not educating their children).
Admin :
Are you trying to tell Emm. how to scare her from marrying muslims after divorce …??
who told you that no muslim is going to marry her after divorce ??
have you got any survey about wife beating in muslim and non muslim societies ???
before that i told the exactly the case when husband beats his wife but may be you think i was kidding you ..!!!
and ok we have polygamy.. but how many hasbands do it and even when doing it ..it is no isulting to wife as now it is commonly done for out side illegal lover and you know what i mean
two wives means two families ..two responsibilities with equal fair dealing with both in every thing ..
you do not like islam ….i understand…but do not show others unreal picture about…
//On top, remind her that the Muslim guy has an option to have 4 wives and he can beat her. Before considering divorce, remind her reality of life.//
Dear Admin, can i or anyother muslim guy remind her hindu gf about the caste discrimination,holy rape, what krishna did with gopis, alchohol, 4 women as mistress possible for an hindu husband and much more to turn her against hinduism and marry a muslim guy?
mac you forget to reply on “he can beat her”.
// On top, remind her that the Muslim guy has an option to have 4 wives and he can beat her . Before considering
divorce, remind her reality of life. //
I dont know even a single guy who marry upto 4 in india. . though if a guy marry more than one but condition is to justify to all. .
and i dont know where you have got that he can beat his wife.. now a days hindu beat his wife more than muslim.,
Hi Muhammed,
We are glad to hear there is no more polygamy and wife beating. That is called progressive thinking. Too bad if this is a fact: “now a days hindu beat his wife more than muslim.”
Koran 4:34 (https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7750)