Hindu: How Can I Convince My Christian Husband?

Rohini says: November 9, 2016

Dear Admin,
My problem is similar to her but not exactly the same. I married a Christian Guy (myself being a Hindu Iyer (Brahmin). His parents were against our marriage but we convinced them for it and our marriage was conducted with both side parents being present. My husband never forced me to get converted to Christianity and has stood by my side till date. Though his parents want that i should get converted. Me and my husband live seperately from his parents though we visit them sometimes. His father and mother call me by the name “Angel” the same being a christian though i have opposed it several times they dont seem to bother. The earlier friendly talks with them have now reduced to to the point conversations.

Now I have conceived and I am in the 5th month of pregnancy. His parents are now interfering, his mother came out of nowhere and has stationed herself at our home and doesnt seem to be in a mood to leave from here. His father threatened my father that my delivery should happen at their place (i.e at my in laws place and not at my parents place. They have started brainwashing my hubby’s mind as well it seems because when I raised the topic with him first he said that it will be at the place where we are currently living but after this episode he once said that it should take place where the boys own house is there. I made it clear to him that it would take place at my parents house only or where we are staying but not at my in laws place.

Now my worries are all about my child’s future. Can they forcefully baptize my child without my consent if my hubby agrees with them (Earlier it was he who suggested that our child would not have a religion tag and we would teach him/ her both the religions and allow the child to decide on what they want to follow).
How can I make my husband agree to my point of view. –Roshini

Neha says: November 10, 2016

Hi Rohini, I totally understand your situation. I would suggest you to make your husband understand that, wherever you are you want to be comfortable, moreover happy. Ofcourse if u get an option to be at your in-laws place or your o hiwn home, not just you, any girl would choose her home. -Neha

Admin says:

Answer is–education, not fights!

Now you have to spend lots of time understanding core reasons why they are behaving this way.

Christianity’s core belief is—only baptized will be saved on the Judgment Day. All non-baptized Hindus (including Gandhi) and Muslims will go to hell. Get in rational discussion with your husband how come it can be logical.

Christianity’s core belief that a child just born carry sin. This sin has to be washed out by baptism. If so, ask your husband why he married to Rohini, a sinner?

Christians believe Hindus pray to idols, however they don’t realize that two pieces of wood (cross) is nothing but an idol (read). Get into an intellectual discussion with you husband for–what is an idol and what is not.

Your-in-laws’ best bet is to brain wash your husband. However you have to keep him on your side, not with fights but with proper intellectual discussion. If you are ready for it, we will give you many tips. Get back! -Admin


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3 Comments

  • January 15, 2017 11:34 pm

    Hi,

    I’m facing similar issue.I’m a hindhu and married my childhood friend who is christain under special marriage act so tht we both follow respective religions ..Both the families were against the wedding however finally convinced and got married under special marriage act, however my husband changed once we got married. Whenever I used to talk about kids, he used to say no kids until I convert.. this has always been a issue with us.. because of which we did not plan for kids at all, but god has different plans.. I delivered a girl this Aug 16 .. and the same issue is cropped up from the time I concieved. He mentally tortured me so much during my pregnancy. he asked me to abort the baby or give divorce to him If I don’t convert
    I was very firm at my stand that I will not convert at any point, however OK for the baby to follow his religion and let me live my life.
    He became calm and behaved very nice till the baby’s delivery. Things are backnow, our baby is 5 months and he is behind my life for conversion stating he can’t name baby in church until both parents are Christian…I don’t want to convert, is there anyway for the baby to me named in church without mother.Fyi he is a protestant

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  • Rohini
    November 13, 2016 9:36 pm

    Dear Admin,

    Please let me know how can I convince my husband and keep him on my side. He is a good soul and has supported me in all my decisions. But now slowly because of his parents he seems to be going to their side. Please help me with some tips whereby i can keep him to my side and make him agree to my point of view (which originally was decided by both of us)

    • November 14, 2016 7:24 pm

      Rohini,

      You are pregnant and you should enjoy pregnancy without worry too much now. Interfaith related issues will be on going process going over a decade or two. Do not let your in-laws teach their intolerant radicle views to your son.

      Also learn an art of negotiation. Some day, tell your husband looking eye to eye, that you are very serious about this issue and do not underestimate me. If he is not supportive, it could even ruin your married life. Somehow, make him feel that he cannot take you granted, just to please his parents.

      Tell us what are religions related conflicts that you and your husband have faced. We will take one point at a time and provide you how to how to argue back to him. Get back.

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