Endorsement of the Book: Interfaith Marriage

Book: Interfaith Marriage – Share & Respect with Equality

These are some good words about the book — Interfaith Marriage: Share & Respect with Equality

Raman Khanna: This book is an outstanding addition to any library on both child-rearing and “what to think about before marriage”….

Deepak Bhatt: Dr. Amin is NEITHER against any religion nor interfaith marriage but emphasizes on doing your HOMEWORK before making any final decision.

Pastor Connie Winter-Eulberg: As a Christian Pastor I really appreciate all of the work and experience that Dilip Amin has put into this book. This is a great resource for me and I highly recommend this book to any faith leader or counselor who works with couples who are from different faiths. This is what I have been looking for!

Ashley: As a woman in an interfaith marriage I really got a lot out of this book. Even though it’s aimed at young people and their parents as an advice book BEFORE marriage I found the personal stories enlightening and educational. The author offers their own perspective but also allows room for comments by people who have disagreed with him, in order to give a balanced view and I really appreciated that. I think this is definitely an important read for anyone considering entering into an interfaith marriage. Marriage is a challenge, even if it seems like it’s made in heaven. People coming from vastly different faiths need to address these issues early on and not be afraid of the answers they uncover. It’s so important to communicate, and this book helps readers think about issues they might not have considered, or maybe didn’t know how to address. The book may feel repetitive at the very beginning, but it is easy to read and the author provides a plethora of footnotes and references for further reading.

VMS: This book shows how an interfaith marriage can be harmonious, supported by poignant examples from many years of counseling. Not only a great tool, but also a good read.

By Aasiya Khan: First of its kind, this book explores the peculiar situation: a world where you’re free to marry a person of your choice but are stifled by the strictures created by irrational religious institutions and intolerant communities. The author has meticulously documented as how an individual willingly or unwillingly loses identity due to marriage with a person from other faith. It is just mind-blowing to learn that even in this modern world men and women hang on to every word of the Holy Book and force faith on partners who adhere to other religious beliefs. Incredible, informative and well-timed book.

By RJ: This is an interesting book. It will be useful when my children gets into an interfaith relationship. I like the “Meera versus Margaret: Discrimination of Own Type” article, very interesting!

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As a Christian Pastor I am always looking for resources that equip my ministry. The author has written a respectful and “tell it like it is” book that brings together information on a subject that breaks apart many families. This book is helpful, insightful and a gem for people working with couples from different faiths.
Pastor Connie Winter-Eulberg, St. Andrews Lutheran Church, San Mateo, CA

For two individuals who grow up in different religious belief systems, it can pose an impediment to marital bliss. As a wedding officiant who has performed many interfaith ceremonies, I find this book based on hundreds of actual cases, a MUST READ.
Deepak Kotwal, Author: Vivaha Samskara

In an era of maniacal slogan, ‘My Religion Is The Truest,’ this book strives for the Utopian, ‘All Faiths are Good and Equal’ philosophy. The book is a must-read for people who envision an egalitarian society in general and an eye-opener for couples who plan to enter an interfaith marriage in particular.
Hanah Khan, Author: The Faith Strings

“This book offers a guide to topics including conversion, dealing with in-laws, raising children in one or both faiths and sharing worship practices. Real people share the worries, challenges and joys that their interfaith relationships present and these are valuable contributions to a very useful book. If you are contemplating an interfaith marriage, this book is a must read.”
Deb Motto, Yoga Teacher

This book definitely helps any Jewish-Hindu (or any mix of faiths) couple ask the right questions as they prepare for a marriage of equality.
Richard Heiman, Past Board Member of the Jewish Community Relations Council

This book is a good resource for any one, especially college-aged, who may be getting serious with a date-mate from a different faith.
Sona Kaur, a Sikh-Hindu student at University of California, Davis

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4 Responses to “Endorsement of the Book: Interfaith Marriage”

  1. Raman Khanna says:

    Cross posted from Amazon:

    This book is an outstanding addition to any library on both child-rearing and “what to think about before marriage.” It is written for a large audience but its primary focus is on those from Dharmic traditions (Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, and Sikhism) who may themselves be considering, or whose children or loved ones may be considering, marriage to a partner who is Christian, Muslim, or Jewish.

    This is a timeless issue for those in Dharmic traditions: when we have been raised, and are raising our children to believe, ekam sat vipraha bahuda vadanti (the truth is one, the wise call it by many names), how then can we counsel ourselves or our children to marry out of the faith, while still understanding that the person we are marrying may not share that value and in fact may use it (or be pressured into using it) to jettison the Dharmic faith? (“Well, if my faith says I’m right, and you’re wrong; and your faith says you’re right, and I’m right too–why not stick with the sure thing that both say is right?”)

    The author leverages his impressive experience in the interfaith and interfaith marriage space (and the website he runs to provide counseling on these issues) to breathe life and practicality into this space. His position is neither for nor against IF marriage but rather suggests tools, backed up with numerous examples and cautionary tales, about assuming love will solve all problems.

    One such tip: don’t agree to a baptism/bris/shahada for yourself unless you have actually become convinced of the superiority of the religion you are converting into (e.g. not for the sake of your future partner); don’t agree to any of these for your children, either, until they are old enough to decide for themselves if they want these things. These may seem like simple or even obvious suggestions, but as anyone who has spent time in a Dharmic community knows, they are far more productive advice than the all-too-common responses of shock, stewing in anger, or disowning the newlyweds. 2nd gen’ers in particular will find that his perspective and examples resonate.

    In addition to the above, I found the work replete with real-world implications and with a comparison/understanding even of laws in other countries regarding what conversion means for one’s future. The one criticism of the book is that the examples do go on and on and can feel repetitive; but on further reflection, this is actually helpful in showing the extent to which the same issues come up again and again and likely will, until we approach this subject with more thoughtfulness and perspective as the author has done here.

    • admin says:

      Very interesting way of putting the facts, “if my faith says I’m right, and you’re wrong; and your faith says you’re right, and I’m right too–why not stick with the sure thing that both say is right?”It is high time Muslims should be taught pluralism (equality rather than intolerance) in marriage.

  2. Arun Kankani says:

    Namaste Dilipji,
    I was able to attend your event in Houston last month and have read the book.

    Appreciate your passionate efforts and perseverance for an important and worthy cause.

  3. Deepak Bhatt says:

    I read the book before I attended Dr. Amin’s seminar in Houston on July 29, 2017. I was very impressed by the book as well as his seminar. In any interfaith marriage, faith becomes an important topic at some point in life. Consequently, it is important to know the facts in advance. Dr. Amin has summarized canons of faiths in a table form very precisely so anyone can understand what each faith is without reading its holy book thoroughly. In fact, if someone tries to that he will be more confused. Another important thing is that it has statistics. Many times people talk about exceptions and do not know what is common.

    Dr. Amin is NEITHER against any religion nor interfaith marriage but emphasizes on doing your HOMEWORK before making any final decision. He wants your mind and heart synchronized before jumping to a conclusion and also wants to make you aware of what other circumstances (expectations and reactions of family members. society, etc.) a couple has to face before and after the marriage. It is better to be an informed person to avoid any regrets later because of ignorance. The real gold mine of the book is case studies of what happened actually and how someone can take advantage of it without reinventing a wheel.

    I think marriage is a very important milestone in anyone’s life and let us provide enough ingredients to make it a successful and joyous event not only for you but also for your loved ones. I strongly recommend this book for discussion in youth groups, worship centers as well in adult groups. I would like to convey my thanks to Dr. Amin for becoming a counsellor to hundreds of persons looking for guidance.

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