Akash says: January 22, 2018 at 12:12 pm
I see a lot of people are suffering from this jain rigidity like me. Well m already married to a jain girl and she is at her parents home. After marriage I told her to inform her parents about us but because of ‘pajyushan’ she didnt agreed. Meanwhile, I got an opportunity to study in UK and I told her not to tell her parents by herself. But because she was being forced to see other guys she told her parents about our marriage by herself. Now her parents are trying to get us divorced.
I came to India during my vacations and tried to convince them as my girl wanted, but they are not agreeing. So now its time to go back to continue my course. I am screwed between career n personal life as my dad is retired doctor and alot has been already invested on my studies. M a double MBA and have a good background. But just because of their ego my in-laws are not accepting our marriage. Any suggestions what should I do? -Prakash
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Dear Admin
Can you help me get my wife? Or what should I do? M so confused I will never divorce her but the point is what should I do to try n convince her parents? Also, they are threatening her about me and my family’s safety. And also when I tried to talk to them her uncle slanged me on my parents ridiculously n tried to threaten me as well regarding he ll finish my family and etc. Please suggest me what to do? Thank you
Hi Akash,
You are already married and this legally she cannot marry any one else. Please convey message to all her relatives and all your friends that “you are married”. Show them documentation via Facebook etc. There is nothing wrong telling others truth. Once they realized that there is already legal marriage, they will have to bend or shorten.
Are you in touch with the girl (your wife)? What she has to say? Is she willing to take some bold steps?
Focus on your studies, that is critical. So work on issues but studies are critical for you at this step of life.
Hi Admin,
You are right about not going to media but the problem is I am going back tomorrow to UK, so m not in a condition to take legal action. Also I am requesting and trying to convince them but now they are not even picking my calls or letting my wife talk to me. They have snatched her phone and boycotted all the modes of communication like not letting her meet her friends or etc.. You suggest me what should I do? They are being so firm because the whole matter is still suppressed as I am keeping their respect but they are not doing the same. According to last year govt data there were around 3000 intercaste jain marriages I don’t understand what their problem is. M a well educared person, belong to a good family have no bad habits but still they are being so rigid. Suggest me some solution bro.
You are legally married to their daughter and have rights to take with you (if she agrees). No one, not even parents, could stop you.
Best you can do is make their parents aware that you are legally married and she cannot marry someone else unless there is a formal divorce. Now are you are probably no longer in India. Best you can do is to publicize your marriage on Facebook and to all her relatives. Put your marriage photos and certificates on Facebook (considering marriage is a public information anyways). This way, her parents cannot illegally marry her off to someone else. Ultimately, you will/may get her. Best wishes.
Hi Akash,
This is insane that her parents are trying to divorce you! Will other Jain guys marry to this divorcee? How did you got married? Did you registered your marriage with government? Is there any chance you can take her to UK to study?
Dear Admin,
Yes our marriage is legally registered n we have all the proofs. And yes I can take her to UK with me for studies as well. We got married in July 2016 and till now me and my family are trying to convince them. My family is really cool they have no objection with our marriage but the girl’s family belongs from udaipur Rajasthan n m from Surat Gujarat. I am so confused as if I take any legal action I need to be here and my course is still undergoing. Me and my parents went at their home but they rediculously insulted us out. I will have to go back to UK on 27th. I am thinking to send this matter to media or NGOs because for legal procedure I need to be here which is difficult for now.
You are legally married. This means she cannot marry someone else unless you have a formal “divorce.” The divorce process is lenghty. Tell them that in this life, you are not going to divorce her. It is only a matter of time before they will realize this.
If she can join you as a student in UK, there is no issue here. You can make your own life there. Is she ready to join you against her parents?
In relationship, it is good not to escalate it too long. Calling media and making their face dirty will not help in long run, because after all they are your in-laws (and wife’s loving parents). Talk to their close relatives and tell them that you are already married (and consummated her if that is the case, we assume). They may intervene and help you.