Ten Points of Dating a Hindu
This message is for Christian, Jew and Muslim (Abrahamic) youths considering dating a Hindu. It is hoped that you will make an “informed” decision for your happy and long lasting marriage, even that is an interfaith marriage.
About 38% of Hindus marry to an Abrahamic in America. In general, Hindus are pluralist and thus may be more open minded in terms of accepting Jesus as a savior and Allah as One God. In addition, they may not have hesitation visiting your church, synagogue or a Mosque to explore more about your faith. Further, the Hindu lover may accept to teach children your faith and agree for baptism, bris/bar mitzvah or sunat ritual for children. Though this openness, tolerance to your faith and to some extent novelty of something different may attract you to consider a Hindu as your life-mate, you need to know below pointers about Hindus.
10) Food habit: A Hindu may be a vegetarian. Further, the Hindu may not prefer others in family consuming meat and consider routine alcohol consumption bad.9) Wedding: The Hindu may not have concern being a part of an Abrahamic marriage ceremony, however the Hindu will insist on the Hindu Vivaha ceremony where multiple Gods and Goddesses will be invoked from heaven, earth and water. You need to find out if your Abrahamic community will be comfortable being a part of such (polytheist?) ritual. Check with your rabbi, imam or priest if he/she is okay with your dual marriage ceremonies.
8) Novelty: You may be attracted by Indian costumes, food and culture but after marriage, the novelty will ware off. On the other side, initially your Hindu spouse may be very sympathetic to your history (e.g. holocaust or discrimination of Muslims in the West) however after marriage he/she may complain of hearing the same stories again and again.
7) Close-knit family: Hindus in general believe in a large family, which includes distant relatives. After marriage, expect lots of visitations to and from these relatives. Further, these relatives may not express openly to you but will be skeptic if you are out proselytizing Hindus.6) Idol-worshipping: After marriage, one or the other times, you may end up being a part of extensive Hindu ritual praying to their Hindu deities (idols?) at in-laws’ home or in a Hindu temple (e.g. Garba dance). It is only so many times you will be able to decline such invitations. Your spouse may even insist on having his or her own alter with Hindu deities in your house and that may be an issue if you do not like to worship God through some form.
5) Circumcision: The Hindu spouse may not accept religious circumcision for your male children considering it hinsa. Your justifications for circumcision on medical grounds will be challenged later based on then available scientific facts.
4) Spiritual meaning: Hindu may accept to be a part of your religious rituals but may do just for social reason or to please you. The Hindu may not have the same core spiritual feelings like you do. For example at Sabbath time, the Hindu spouse may meditate or pray to Lord Krishna!
3) Turned around: In spite of the Hindu spouse agreed to raise children by your Abrahamic faith, later he/she may complain that the church sermons are boring, teaching in madrasa is too offensive or children spend too much time in synagogues verses hiking fun trips like what you did during your dating time.
2) Fake-conversion: In spite the Hindu spouse had baptism or Shahadah religious conversion necessary for your church or Nikaah wedding, he/she will continue to remain what he/she was. For them, the conversion was just a hollow ritual devoid of meanings.
1) Pluralist: In general, Hindus are inclusivist and pluralist and for that reason he/she may accept your Abrahamic faith but will do so without understanding core Abrahamic monotheist belief. To put it different way, it will be easy to convince a Hindu to ADD a God (e.g. LORD God, Father God, Jesus or Allah), however, the Hindu will get furious when you ask to REMOVE Hindu Gods from your home. Your spouse may only see your God as one of many gods but not the ONE God. In the end, after years into your married life, you (an exclusivist?) will realize that your children are pluralists or atheists.
Bottom line, if you think your religion is the only true religion and your God is the only savior, might as well settle for someone of your own type.
Read life experiences of Truth about Hinduism, Anushka: Hindu married to a Roman Catholic guy, Hinu converted without knowledge of her family, Sriti: I chose to be baptized when I was pregnant, Amita: Christian and Hindu interfaith marriage of 24 years, Amutha: We agreed to have our children baptized, Sum: I will loose the strength of Islam if I marry my Hindu boyfriend, SRK,
Other articles written by InterfaithShaadi:
Bar Mitzvah for Hindus?,
Torah on Hindus?,
Koran on Hindus?,
Bible on Hindus?,
Hindus, Abrahamics and Intolerants,
Can Allah be the Father God?,
A Jealous and Angry God,
One God, Allah?,
Idol Worshippers: Who is and Who is Not,
Circumcision: Science or Superstition? ,
Saif and Kareena: Religion and Marriage,
Religious Conversion for Marriage,
Ten Points of Interfaith Dating ,
FAQ on Interfaith Marriage,
45% of Muslims Marry outside their faith,
38% of Hindus marry Abrahamics,
Interfaith Marriages: A Message to Dharmics,
Hindu girl/boy, Muslim girl/boy,
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