Failed Love and Miserable Marriage

fatimah says: November 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

I am so happy for you all. I can say fight for your love. Allah will forgive you.

Don’t be like me. I had go away from the person I really love (never had sex) but I love him still. I gave my heart and the most beautiful love… Then I was forced to marry a man who is 10 years older than me. I hate him so much. I can’t wait he to die. Salam. Really don’t let the silly people come into you life. This is your ”sin” not theirs. -Fatimah

Admin says:

Fatimah,
Sorry to hear of your situation. Can you share more details of your love? Was your lover from a different faith? Are you from Middle East, West or India?

What was your parents’ reservation if you married to your lover? What do you mean by “I was forced”? Did your parents requested or forced marriage up on you?

To be fair to your husband, tell us what is your husband’s fault? For your marriage, is it not your parents to blame, and not he? Your love for someone else is an issue on your side, that is not his fault. If the same thing happens to your brother (that his wife loves someone else), what would you tell your bother to do? Sorry, we are not blaming you here but just trying to be fair.

How is your husband treating you as a woman and wife? Is he earning good and providing all your needs?

Fatimah, now think. He is a reality of your life. Can you be practical and try your marriage to work? May be he is not a bad human being. Give him a chance!

You said, “I can’t wait he to die.” However that day could be 30-80 years down the way. Why you two people should live miserably in THIS life for next 30-80 years? Can you think of other options? It is not that we are recommending, but is a divorce an option?

All parents should learn from this. Parents should know that the child has come through you in this World but patents don’t “own” the child. Parents have all rights (and should) to guide their children, but ultimately it should be the decision of the child. Instead of “forcing” parent’s ideologies on child, parents should get into rational and intellectual discussion with their children in need. Parents-child should have cool and calm discussion over a few months/years for their situation, not heated discussion with anger. -Admin

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