Zakia Ali says: March 14, 2013 at 2:06 pm
i am young college going muslim girl and know very well what is right and wrong. you know I am the owner of my body and it is my own property, how to use and how to play with it is is my business not for others.
I have deep physical relations with my class mate and by the way he is Hindu and I feel pleasure with his company. I and he love much more of each. what is harm in it?
i do not know why others are feeling otherwise about cast and creed, we are running in 22th centry and our that is old. I do not think this is good.
Every mature girls have full right to enjoy her life with her own wish and desires. Not any one take the gaurantee of my entire life either he is my mother, father or brothers. You know shortly we are going to marry with a non-muslim boy, with my hide physical relations, through court. -Zakir Ali
.
Admin says:
Zakir Ali,
You have made excellent points and raised good questions here.
We are with you and we also do not understand why people are stuck on “i do not know why others are feeling otherwise about cast and creed”. Unfortunately, other Muslims will recommend you to convert that Hindu boy friend to something he is not. Basically, your Imam will recommend for a (fake) conversion of that Hindu bf by Shahadah before your Nikaah. We are glad you do not believe in such hollow rituals. At the same time, do not expect that the bf’s Hindu family will accept you whole heartily. Have you met his parents? If not done yet, please meet them ASAP to remove any misconception.
Further, we agree with you that “I am the owner of my body and it is my own property, how to use and how to play with it is is my business not for others.” There should not be any religious leader or a politician come and tell you how you should have relationships with your lover. However, we do caution to all girls to refrain from sex before marriage or having extra marital sex after marriage. In general, pre- and extra-marial sex are not good for society. For example, if that boy friend, for any reason, decides to walk away from your love and sex relationships, at that time you may regret having physical relationship with him. There are many bad elements out there trapping innocent girls (read Sana).
You are smart and thus must have thought through all these issues. Enjoy your life! Best wishes. -Admin
.
Veena Malik says: March 15, 2013 at 2:00 am
Hello Zakia,
Nice to see your life story and experience.Appreciate your boldness to outspokenly express your emotions and feelings.
In my opinion, when you have physical relations and attachment with your Hndu BF, please dont waste time to marry him without forcing any one to convert. It would be better, if you could meet and mix up with his parents too, as their own daughter and also find job and become an earning hand. -Veena Malik
.
Also read: Islamic Women Today, Muta, HRS, wife-beating, Muhammad, Koran, Inter-race marriages, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl/boy, Muslim girl/boy, Christian-Muslim marriages,
Be a friend on Facebook. Return to InterfaithShaadi.org. To share your experience, read.
Hi sisters,
Here is a text from Koran about sexual statement by Muhammad.
One of Muhammad’s more interesting sexual statements dealt with the amount of times a man can have sex in one day in Paradise.
A man will have intercourse in Paradise with his wives from among al-hoor al-‘iyn and his wives from among the people of this world, if they enter Paradise with him. A man will be given the strength of a hundred men to eat, drink, feel desire and have sexual intercourse. It was narrated from Anas that the Prophet said: “The believer in Paradise will be given such and such strength for sexual intercourse.” He was asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, will he really be able to do that?” He said, “He will be given the strength of one hundred (men).” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, no. 2459. He said, (it is) saheeh ghareeb). Sunan al-Tirmidhi #2459 (Source)
An additional three Hadith from Ibn Sad’s “Kitab al-Tabaqat al-Kabir”9, volume 1, pages 438, 439. (I have omitted the isnaad and the obligatory blessing on Muhammad):
…The apostle of Allah said, “Gabriel brought a kettle from which I ate and I was given the power of sexual intercourse to forty men.”
…The apostle of Allah was given the power to equal to that of forty men and the people of paradise will be given the power equal to eighty men
…The prophet was granted the power of sexual intercourse to that of forty men.
Ibn Kathir commenting on 56:35-37 says regarding the amount of times a man can have sex in one day in Paradise:
(In Paradise, the believer will be given such and such strength for women.) Anas said, “I asked, `O Allah’s Messenger! Will one be able to do that’ He said,
(He will be given the strength of a hundred (men).)” At-Tirmidhi also recorded it and said, “Sahih Gharib.” Abu Al-Qasim At-Tabarani recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah was asked, “O Allah’s Messenger! Will we have sexual intercourse with our wives in Paradise” He said,
(The man will be able to have sexual intercourse with a hundred virgins in one day.) Al-Hafiz Abu `Abdullah Al-Maqdisi said, “In my view, this Hadith meets the criteria of the Sahih, and Allah knows best.” Allah’s statement,
(`Urub,) Sa`id bin Jubayr reported that Ibn `Abbas said, “They are in an infatuated state with their husbands, haven’t you ever seen a she-camel in heat? She is like that.” Ad-Dahhak reported from Ibn `Abbas who said, “The Urub and their husbands are their sweet hearts, and they are their husbands’ sweet hearts.” Similar was said by `Abdullah bin Sarjis, Mujahid, `Ikrimah, Abu Al-`Aliyah, Yahya bin Abi Kathir, `Atiyah, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, Ad-Dahhak and others. Ad-Dahhak reported from Ibn `Abbas;
Muhammad claimed he was gifted to perform sexually 40 times a day and that men in Paradise can have sex up to 80 or 100 times a day. Do the math – 100 times a day is over four times an hour for 24 hours. That this doesn’t leave much time for anything else does it? Muhammad promised unlimited sex. So, what do you think was on Muhammad’s mind?
Orgasm is the epitome of Islam’s heaven. Isn’t this image of Paradise more like a teenage boy’s or lecherous old man’s vision… engaging in sexual act after sexual act?
Hi Dr.Mahrosh,
Vow lovely views expressed by you based on realistic life situations.
I would like to reproduce following text on which muslim males rely upon to commit attrocities on the woman folk.
MUHAMMAD’S DEPRAVED IMMORALITY
Qur’an 66:1
“O Prophet! Why forbid yourself that which Allah has made lawful to you? You seek to please your consorts. And Allah is Forgiving, Most Kind. Allah has already sanctioned for you the dissolution of your vows.”
Bukhari:V4B52N143
“The Prophet told an Ansar, ‘Choose one of your slave boys to serve me in my expedition to Khaybar.’ So, he chose me, even though I was just nearing puberty. I served Muhammad when he stopped to rest. I heard him saying repeatedly, ‘Allah! I seek refuge with you from distress and sorrow, from helplessness and laziness, from miserliness and cowardice, from being heavily in debt and from being overcome by men.’”
Qur’an 8:29
“O you who believe! If you obey and fear Allah, He will grant you a criterion to judge between right and wrong, or a way to overlook your evil thoughts and deeds.”
Ishaq:288
“The Quraysh said, ‘Muhammad and his Companions have violated the sacred month, shed blood, seized property, and taken men captive. Muhammad claims that he is following obedience to Allah, yet he is the first to violate the holy month and to kill.’”
Qur’an 8:68
“Had it not been for a previous agreement from Allah, a severe penalty would have reached you for the (ransom) that you took as booty.”
Qur’an 8:69
“So enjoy what you took as booty; the spoils are lawful and good.”
Ishaq:327
“Allah made booty lawful and good. He used it to incite the Muslims to unity of purpose. So enjoy what you have captured.”
Qur’an 8:40
“If people are obstinate, and refuse to surrender, know that Allah is your Supporter. And know that one fifth of all the booty you take belongs to Allah, and to the Messenger, and for the near relatives (of the Messenger).”
Tabari VI:89
“Utaibah came before the Prophet and said: ‘I repudiate Islam.’ Then he spat at him, but his spital did not fall on him. The Prophet prayed: ‘O Allah, subject him to the power of a dog from among Your dogs.’”
Ishaq:106
“I will go to the top of the mountain and throw myself down that I may kill myself and be at rest.”
Qur’an 70:28
“Preserve their chastity except with their wives and the slave girls they possess – for which there is no blame.”
Tabari VIII:116
Ishaq:511
“So Muhammad began seizing their herds and their property bit by bit. He conquered home by home. The Messenger took some of its people captive, including Safiyah, and her two cousins. The Prophet chose Safiyah for himself.”
Tabari VIII:121
Ishaq:515
“Safiyah was brought to him, and another woman with her. Bilal led them past some of the Jews we had slain including the woman’s dead husband. When she saw them, the woman with Safiyah cried out, slapped her face, and poured dust on her head. When Allah’s Prophet saw her, he said, ‘Take this she-devil away from me!’”
Tabari VIII:123
Ishaq:515
“Allah’s Apostle besieged the final [Jewish] community until they could hold out no longer. Finally, when they were certain that they would perish, they asked Muhammad to banish them and spare their lives, which he did. The Prophet took possession of all their property.”
Tabari VIII:124
Ishaq:516
Bukhari:V5B59N541
“Having finished with Khaybar, the Apostle went to Wadi Qura and besieged its people for a while. Then we headed back to Medina, halting at Qura toward sunset. With Muhammad was a slave lad of his whom Rifa’ah had given him. Suddenly, as we were setting down the saddle of the Prophet, a stray arrow came and hit the slave boy, killing him. We congratulated him, saying, ‘May he enjoy Paradise!’ But Allah’s Apostle said, ‘Certainly not! The sheet of cloth on his back is now being burnt on him in the Hell Fire!’ He pilfered it from the booty of the Muslims following the Khaybar raid before it was duly distributed.”
Tabari VIII:12
“‘Rejoice, Allah has promised us victory after tribulation.’ This increased the Muslims faith and submission. When cities were conquered Muslims used to say, ‘Conquer for yourselves whatever seems good to you because all treasures were given to Muhammad.”
Qur’an 24:58
“Believers, let your slave girls, and those who have not come to puberty, ask permission (before they come in your presence) on three occasions: before dawn, while you take off your clothes at midday, and after the night prayer. These are your times of undress – times of privacy for you. Outside those times it is not wrong for them to move about: Thus does Allah make clear the Signs.”
Ishaq:535
“The women began to cry after learning about Ja’far’s death. Disturbed, Muhammad told Abd-Rahman to silence them. When they wouldn’t stop wailing, Allah’s Apostle said, ‘Go and tell them to be quiet, and if they refuse throw dust in their mouths.’”
Qur’an 64:14
“Believers, truly, among your wives and your children there are enemies for you: so beware of them! … Your wealth and your children are only a trial.”
Qur’an 8:28
“And know that your property and your children are just a temptation.”
Qur’an 4:135
“Believers, stand out for justice as witnesses for Allah even against yourselves, your parents, your family, and relatives whether it be against rich or poor.”
Qur’an 9:23
“Believers, take not for friends your fathers and your brothers if they love disbelief above belief. If you do, you do wrong. Say: If your fathers, your sons, your families, your wives, relatives and property which you have acquired, and the slackness of trade which you fear and dwellings which you like, are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving hard, fighting in His Cause, then wait till Allah brings about His torment.”
Tabari VIII:183
“When the Messenger was finished with the men’s swearing of allegiance, the women swore allegiance. You are swearing allegiance to me…. ‘Do not kill your children.’ A woman said, ‘We raised them and you killed them. You know better about killing them than we do.’ Umar laughed immoderately at her words.”
Bukhari:V1B4N1229-33
“Aisha [who was 9] said, ‘I used to wash semen off the Prophet’s [who was 53] clothes. When he went for prayers I used to notice one or more spots on them.’”
Ishaq:572
“When the Apostle learned that one of the Meccans had died in the battle, he said, ‘Allah curse him!’ He used to hate the Quraysh.”
Ishaq:594
“The Apostle gave gifts to those whose hearts were to be won over, notably the chiefs of the army, to win them and through them the people.”
Ishaq:499
“The Apostle provided some compensation that included a castle, some property, a portion of the zakat tax, and a Copt slave girl.”
Tabari IX:34
“Khuwaysirah came and stood by the Prophet as he was giving gifts to the people and said, ‘Muhammad, I have seen what you have done today.’ ‘Well, what did you see?’ He said, ‘I don’t think you have been fair.’ Allah’s Messenger became angry. ‘Woe to you! If justice is not to be found with me, then with whom is it to be found?’” “Umar said, ‘Muhammad, allow me to kill him.’” Ishaq:595 “The Apostle said, ‘Get him away from me and cut off his tongue.””
Bukhari:V4B53N374
“The Prophet said, ‘I give to the Quraysh so that they will desire Islam, for they are nearer to their life of Ignorance and it is not strong in their hearts.’”
Ishaq:596
“‘Prophet, this group of Ansar have a grudge against you for what you did with the booty and how you divided it among you own people.’ After due praise and exaltation of Allah, he addressed them. ‘Ansar, what is this talk I hear from you? What is the grudge you harbor in your hearts against me? Do you think ill of me? Did I not come to you when you were erring and needy, and then made rich by Allah?’ ‘You came to us discredited, when your message was rejected by the Quraysh, and we believed you. You were forsaken and deserted and we assisted you. You were a fugitive and we took you in, sheltering you. You were poor and in need, and we comforted you.”
Tabari IX:37
Ishaq:596
“Do you hold a grudge against me and are you mentally disturbed because of the worldly things by which I conciliate a people and win them over so that they will embrace Islam and become Muslims?”
Tabari IX:60
“On the way, Muhammad ordered that whoever got to the first well before him should not drink until he arrived. Some of the hypocrites arrived and drew water. The Prophet cursed them and invoked Allah’s curse on them.”
Tabari VIII:38
“The Prophet selected for himself from among the Jewish women of the Qurayza, Rayhanah. She became his concubine. When he predeceased her, she was still in his possession. When the Messenger of Allah took her as a captive, she showed herself averse to Islam and insisted on Judaism.”
Ishaq:466
“The Apostle [taking first dibs] chose one of the Jewish women for himself. Her name was Rayhanah. She remained with him until she died, in his power.”
Tabari VIII:56
Ishaq:493
“According to Aisha: ‘A great number of Mustaliq were wounded. The Messenger took many captives, and they were divided among all the Muslims. Juwayriyah was one of the slaves. When the Prophet divided the captives by lot [a gambling game], Juwayriyah fell to the share of Thabit, Muhammad’s cousin. Juwayriyah was the most beautiful woman and she captivated anyone who looked at her. She came to the Apostle seeking his help. As soon as I saw her at the door of my chamber, I took a dislike to her, and I knew that he would see in her what I saw.’”
Tabari VIII:97
“When I returned to Medina, the Prophet met me in the market and said, ‘Give me the woman.’ I said, ‘Holy Prophet of Allah, I like her, and I have not uncovered her garment.’ Muhammad said nothing to me until the next day. He again met me in the market and said, ‘Salamah, give me the woman.’ I said, ‘Prophet, I have not uncovered her garment but she is yours.’”
Ishaq:467
“Allah addressed the believers and said, ‘In Allah’s Apostle you have a fine example for anyone who hopes to be in the place where Allah is.’”
I would like to pay my sincere thaks to Mr. Admn. for this wonderful blog to educate muslim girls and women.
Firdaus
Hello Zakia,
Nice to see your life story and experience.Appreciate your boldness to outspokenly express your emotions and feelings.
In my opinion, when you have physical relations and attachment with your Hndu BF, please dont waste time to marry him without forcing any one to convert. It would be better, if you could meet and mix up with his parents too, as their own daughter and also find job and become an earning hand.